argueing with a roomie

[baby-phat]

damnit, arguing with roommates sucks!
I came home from a great night out for drinks and dessert with my best friend to people smoking in my house and the front door partially open. I am a non smoker who is allergic to cigarette smoke so I freaked out and tolfd them to get the fuck outside. at which point one of my roomies proceeded to be a jack a$$. so we argued a bit and then things were okay. had a Dr Pepper shot and then headed off to bed. (was supposed to work at 8am) so I am lying in bed trying to sleep and the music was way too loud so I kept telling them to turn it down. so after a few times of doing that I got really pissed off and shouted down the stairs to them that if I have to call the cops to get some peace and quiet then I will. at this point aforementioned roomie that I was arguing with comes up to me and tells me never to fucking talk to his friends like that, so we start arguing again. he called me a name so I slapped him. apparantly it connected real good. then he called me a cunt. *heavy exasperated sigh*
I have not been that mad at anyone is such a long long time that I comp[letely lost it and started bawling my eyes out and shaking.
so I called my work and asked them to find someone to cover my shift. I cannot handle being this upset or angry.. but thankfully I have 2 good roommates who have been super great throughout this whole ordeal.
I just had to vent and get all this out... much better now.

[DJ Ponz]

What a cock - that's totally disrespectful. Mind you yelling at him and slapping him is probably not the best thing.

I recommend in future that you pull your roomie aside - tell him you have something really important to say - and just let him know you feel disrespected by his actions. Reinforce how much his friendship means to you, let him know that you're not going to hold a grudge, but you need to get things done. Be unrelentingly friendly, understanding and forgiving about the whole thing. Smile and use warm body language.

The only way you'll ever get shit done in this world is if you are
a) powerful
b) stupidly friendly

Using these tactics, I've managed to deal with every roomie situation there is - and I've live with a guy and 3 girls an a ghetto house for years. People who are upset have no idea what to do when you show them respect and understanding. It diffuses them instantly - but the onus is on you to do it.

Why do I feel like "Dear Abby" all of a sudden.

[baby-phat]

thanks man.
yeah, we just chatted a few minutes ago and he apologized for being an ass- he says to me "you know how I get when I'm drunk". heh
anyways, thatnks for the advice!