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Dec 28, 02
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well if she is 18 and has the mentality of an 18 yr old then yeah i think its wrong but if shes 18 and has the mentality of a woman i see it as being fine
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Dec 28, 02
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As someone who is even older than 28 myself...on average I'd say there's something not right. There's just so much in terms of life experience that comes in the ages between 18-28 that its more than simply 10 years...cuz really, 10 years from 32 to 42 isn't that bad...its just that those can be such critically formative 'relationship years'...at least the first part of them.
That said, every rule has exceptions. Girls on average mature faster than boys, so that knocks a few years off on each end. If the girl was particularly mature for her age, or the guy was somewhat inexperienced from a relationship point of view then maybe it would be a reasonably 'equal' relationship. I think a lot of the danger is in the older person manipulating the younger person in ways they aren't even aware of. Just my 2 cents worth...
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Dec 28, 02
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I'm 18 and have seen guys up to the age of 26, and considered some a couple years older. It all depends on who the two people are. The guys i saw were not pedophiles looking for fresh meat, they were not only nice guys, but they were my friends. I'm sure alot of you are friends with people that much older than you, but its not ok when you cross the friendship line? It all depends on the people involved, their mentality, and the situation. (edit: I forgot to read the post above mine, i agree completely. On average, there probably is something wrong. But it is possible that the older person actually cares for the younger person, and that there maturity/mentality is somewaht equal. Besides the fact i don't have a career and still live at home, i've gone through and learned alot more than most 28 yr olds, even 40 yr olds ever will, so people have top put shit like that into perspective) Last edited by MistressSpankME; Dec 28, 02 at 08:14 PM.
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Dec 28, 02
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hmmm.... I actually went out with a guy that was 22 when I was 15.. first bf too.. and he didnt expect much from me and it was actually the best relationship I had.. and if ppl know me.. I have the fucking WORST luck with them.. :( but I guess that guys still a pervert, eh? though he was a sweety.. and everythign.. hmmm
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Dec 28, 02
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have you finished post secondary? have you started a career? been married? moved out? owned a car? house? dog? cat? anything? have you even had the opportunity to vote, or legally buy booze? go to a club? gamble?...i bet more then half of the answers to these questions are no. Quite simply its disgusting to see a 28 year old man go out with a 18 year old girl, in those ten years of living theres a huge difference in experience that honestly cannot be made up for, no matter how "mature" an 18 year old is they still don't have the 10 years of learning experience. secondly experience really isn't the issuse here, with a relationship like this theres only one thing the 28 year old can want, we all know what that is. Basicly the older person can only be using the younger person for sex, its naive to think otherwise, what possibly could there be in common between a 18 year old and a 28 year? would there be any basis for a relationship other then mutual lust? i don't think so. that being said i think its a bad situation for an 18 year old to put themselves into, since theres a large chance that they can be manipulated or have there heartbroken by a more experienced older partner i feel that both jovi and jenna overestimate their own maturity. Last edited by SEAN!; Dec 28, 02 at 08:41 PM.
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Dec 28, 02
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Its naive to think that thatis the ONLY thing a 28 yr old man would want from an 18 yr old girl. If you didnt read my post before I mentioned I haven;t moved out, or started a career or any of those thinkgs. But the fact you can buy alchohal really isn't important to me when it comes to REAL LIFE experience.
You dont know me so how can you say that i've learned more about the important things in life than a hell of alot of people? Being depressed, bi polar, almost suicidal and going through all the other things i did.. after the fact that I was allready more mature and smarter than almost all the people my age if not a couple years older, make you grow and learn things alot faster and deeper than most people EVER will. 10 yrs really isn;t that much after you get past a certain point. I agree, a 12 yr old with a 22 yr old is sick, same with a 16 yr old and 26 yr old... but I know alot of mature 18 yr old women that are smarter and more mature than alot of 28 yr old men. You can all have your opinion obviously, but if you cant see that someone that age might actually be interested in a younger person for reasons other than sex then thats quite close minded. most of the 20 something yr olds i know i have been friends with for a while, i think most of them only made contact with me inthe first place because they did want some young ass, or because they thought i was older. But friendships and other things have blossomed., And to tell you the truth, yah there is a lot of life experiences people go through in those years, but as i said before i dont give a shit if someone can legally by booze, has moved out and started a career. that doesnt make you mature in my mind, and it doesnt really matter for me when it really comes down to it. Alot of people do that at that age, its what really in the head that counts for me. And Sean I think you overestimate the male species, and don't know me well enough to truly know what goes on in this head.. Most people dont, even the people I consider my good friends. Last edited by MistressSpankME; Dec 28, 02 at 08:51 PM.
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Dec 28, 02
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I don't think I would ever date someone who was more than 5 years older than me, but ya never know it all depends on the circumstances. My dad is 7 years older than my mom, he was 29 and she was 22 when they got married and they've been together for 21 years.
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Dec 28, 02
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For once I actually agree with Mistress Spankme...I know plenty of 18 year olds who are waaay beyond their years in maturity. Age is irrelevant (as long as they are not jailbait) It is thier outlook on life. The youngest person that I ever dated was 6 years younger but was more mature and level headed than some of the people that I dated who were 10 years older than me...
Granted, every now and then the age difference will become glaringly obvious but if the relationship is solid who cares. By the time a person has reached 18 they should be out of highschool and most likely living on their own anyways which in my books counts them amongst the adult population... but then again...it is only my opinion.
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Dec 28, 02
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i've had sex with old women.
i see nothing wrong with it.
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Dec 28, 02
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Sean how can you say you know how mature some one is.. if you don't even know the person that well yourself.
And I'm not saying I'm -that- mature.. hell I know I'm not I can be though when I need to be. Just like yourself.. you don't seem that mature but I'm sure when it comes to it.. you can be. I think you've even told me something along those lines too.. but lets just not get into that. unless we have too..
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Dec 28, 02
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i'm immature. therefore i am allowed to sleep with girls who are one to seven years younger.
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Dec 28, 02
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i always do.
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Dec 29, 02
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half a man's age plus seven is a secret chinese formula for a successful marriage.
do the math 28/2=14+7=21= NO DEAL
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Dec 29, 02
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I've met 19 year old chicks, that are more mature then some of the 24 year olds I konw. I've also met 30 year old guys that less mature then 20 year old guys. Go figure every one is different.
Plus being 27 I'm not going to date girls my age(24-30),,, cause there's a VERY VERY good reason they are not already married. Oh yea,,, I'm sure a 18-21 year old guy can use 18 year old chick for sex just the same as 28 year old... But I'd go to say I bet that 28year old shows a lot more respect to her then most 19year old guys would.
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Dec 29, 02
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okay..since we're on the topic of a 10 years age difference..
is it "FNK APPROVED" for a 30 years old man to date a 20 years old woman? is it the age gap we're arguing about here or the maturity and life experience difference we're arguing about? hmmz just something i was thinking about. sean...plur ok?!
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