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May 31, 03
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Yes, at some point we're all young and invisible. If you really feel good about the decisions you've made, then you would have never made this post. If you really think you're in the right, then you would not have to justify anything to anyone. The end. M 
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May 31, 03
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Beki, what the fuck are you talking about? Yeah right you don't give a shit. Maybe right now you just want to do your drugs and have fun, but years down the road it's most likely you'll look back and regret the choices you've made. Excessive drug use will ruin many good opportunities presented to you along the way, some that you will wish you could be offered again. Technically I'm not the best person to go off at you about this, but shut the fuck up, smarten the fuck up... and last but not least, clean the fuck up. (But hey, don't do it because other people want you to, or you're just heading for disaster.) -Claire
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Jun 01, 03
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I hope that you print out this thread and keep it so one day you can look back and realize how young you really were. Oh and btw people don't just die of drug overdoses, they have to take the drugs first.
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Jun 01, 03
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Some thoughts...
First, whether or not you are an actual "addict" is not for anyone on this board to say unless they are trained to deal with such issue. But, if people are placing that label on you then you should realize that it is as a result of your actions and behaviors around them. Think of some of the labels you use for people, aren't they a result of what you see and hear them do? Second, realize that people are only trying to help. They see something which disturbs them because they shudder at the long term consequences, and want to try to prevent some of those consequences from happening. Do they always help in the best way possible? No, but that doesn't mean you should disregard the concern and caring that prompted them to try and help. Third, take a step back and try to look at yourself the way others look at you. Reversing the roles can often give one a lot of insight as to who they truly are, versus who they project themselves to be to others. Fourth, realize that you ARE still young, and that you DON'T have all the answers. Maybe you have no intention of being like those lost souls you see everyday. But ask yourself, didn't they likely have no intention of winding up where they are? Its incredible how bad judgement can make next decisions more difficult, until things eventually spiral so out of control that you can't even pinpoint where it all went wrong in the first place. Fifth, kudos to Tanya for her post, especially considering that she tore a strip out of Beki on a different thread. Most people would have trouble looking past their differences of opinion, but she did not and was quite honest and fair in her reply. Finally, remember that people are saying things because they care. I'm fully of the belief that people must be free to make their own mistakes, but that doesn't mean that those around them can't try to help, even if its just by showing that they care.
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Jun 02, 03
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beki i know first hand what its like to be one of these "nagging" people. I feel for myself the reason it becomes so persitant is because it realy hurts to see somone you care about going down a path that you see as a realy bad decision. and although its maybe not a problem now you have to think about how many people you see down and out that once had great lives and good friends. and its just denile to say that it could never happen to you. perhaps it wont but you can't promise that. and the problem is in a lot of cases is that you will never see it untill its to late. thats the affect drugs have. and its easy, too easy to tell yourself that it will never happen to you. everyone does it. but sometimes when people that you know care about you are trying to tell you something, perhaps dont think of them as the bad guy and maybe try to understand what they are trying to tell you they see. because i honetly dont think that if these people were your friends and you know that for sure that they cared about you then dont think they are out to just tell you your wrong. they are just concerned for your well being.
I also remember a very sad day that you had where i think you realized that you didnt want drugs to be your comfort you realy just wanted a hug. and i think that that is what your friends want for you if they seem truly concerned. and death is not something you should be thinking about now. its life that is what is important. i feel like your just in a down state right now and i dont think drugs will help you with that. I've seen drugs eat a persons personality away and scare the shit out of a lot of ppl that cared about them. so i think that although it may just seem like alot of nagging there is a message there. and it is overwhelming to have a lot of ppl seem like they are ganging up on you. but if you turn it around you will also see that these ppl are there for you and you do have a large group of ppl that are willing to help you through rough times. but if you turn your back on them they will become exausted and i'm sure they will be there when you want them to. but it can be very hard to sit by and watch someone you care about go down what you feel to be a self distructive path. but yah i could go on like this but then i would be nagging lol. so yah thats my two cents.
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Jun 02, 03
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oh and also i totaly agree with goat and kenji. I'm not going to be a hipocrite and say i've never done drugs and wont ever again. but I do have a problem with the abuse of drugs and when you start to let it take over your life and who you are. you dont even see when you start to push the people that care about you away and it will always cloud your judgement and your attitude. and i've seen to many people that i cared about bottom out and at times come through but are not the same. there minds have been to abused to become who they were before and thats why your friends worry. I think that everyone knows that you can only help a person if they want to be helped. but it is very hard to deal with. know your limits and know the difference between a little fun and dependance. you just have to step back and ask yourself is what i'm doing realy making me feel better for more than that instant satisfaction. take a look at your friends, your life, even your appearance at times. sometimes you get so wraped up in it all that you forget to stop and check up on yourself. so yah take some you time perhaps. I find for myself if i'm being warned i will try and compare some of the things going on in my life now to how i was when things were different. the way i thought the way i acted and who i was friends with. sometimes it can realy suprise you. but yah just know your limits and stop to just take time to yourself to reflect about what is important to you in your life. there are a lot of opportunities out there for you just dont close those doors. I've been good at shutting people out myself and i know how you can feel dispaired later when you realize you shut out the wrong people.
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Jun 02, 03
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Aug 15, 06
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maybe you've grown since this post, but then i haven't seen you in a year or so. on the contrary; my hobby, horses, has taken me very very far.
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Aug 15, 06
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Aug 15, 06
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I have been in both situations. You sound as if you don't care how your life turns out. The steets for you it is! Personally, I like to live comfortabley and you gots to be sober to achieve anything in life. (this is also a very old post, wonder where you are now)
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Aug 15, 06
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Maybe if you read the whole thread you'd notice that people do.
So, how long before this chick became a methhead and screwed out her whole family and life? Frankly, if people (other than your parents) are being persistent nags about drugs it's probably a good time to stop. I oust parents because oft parents just freak out because they're parents and they tend to be persistent nags regardless. Took me 23 years of non-drug use before I realized that.
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Aug 16, 06
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i belive she already was, and from what i hear, she still is. but this is second hand. and from her nexopia account.
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