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Nov 24, 03
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friends with benefits
should friends with benefits or people in open relationships tell the other person(s) that they are sleeping with others
health wise? sanity wise? just wondering how everyone stands on the matter or is it an dont ask dont tell thing 
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Nov 24, 03
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in my experience these things dont usually wokr out to well.
cuz in the long run, one of the parties is going to develop romantic feelings for the other, and in the end someone will get hurt. someone will definitely get hurt when you tell them whats going on..i know owuld..open relationship or not
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Nov 24, 03
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Health wise definetly, I mean it's only fair that they know. I mean you woudlnt want to get heppa-herpa-sypha-gona-medicintry if a person was sleeping with someone else and didnt tell you.... that shit is rough.
The sanity part, there is just no way around unless both people want the exact same thing adn they both understand that. Otherwise the whole situation is a ticking time bomb. :keebler:
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Nov 24, 03
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hmmm ok Sean! very good point need to think on that
i just figured most people would be open about it - stds are not all that pleasant but then maybe society wants it to be okay for guys to be with tons of girls and brag about it to their guy friends but never tell the girls
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Nov 24, 03
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If your partner asks in an open relationship then you should tell them whether you have or haven't been with anyone recently. If there is a risk of disease (ie: you found out that one of your partners recently got something and you are going to get tested for it) then you DEFINITELY need to tell them....
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Nov 24, 03
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its not an open realtionship i just thought the idea was the same
im just a big hipocrit i guess i want people to tell me without me asking but i dont tell people - if they asked straight out i guess
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Nov 24, 03
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yeah why does that happen? romantic feelings suck in the end its not worth it :)
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Nov 24, 03
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^^ so true, ruined a good thing myself that way. Still, it was meant to be as a better thing came along shortly. I think the more open people are the better. At least that way you have some idea what you are both getting into...could be the difference between a single or double bag. :gross:
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Nov 25, 03
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even if they don't ask you directly, they still deserve to know. i don't believe that you should be sleeping with ANYONE unless you are responsible enough to let them know if you are being sexually active with other people at the same time. you expect them to tell you, so you should do the same for them...and if you don't trust whether they are telling you the truth about sleeping w/ other people, then you shouldn't have sex with them, period.
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Nov 25, 03
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Hell ya...
With these types of relationships, it's all about being direct, honest and telling it like it is. If you are planning to or have hooked up with someone else, you best be telling your regular booty call that regardless if they ask or not.
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Nov 25, 03
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^the pimps the playas the real money makas....
with all due respect towards the booty call.... if you have a relationship with another person, is the booty call required? last time I checked getting booty from two different people is not a thing people do if they have respect for their partners. call it cheating or playin unless is good old fashioned sport fuckin. if you have two booty calls and you put them together.... (in or out of bed) do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend then?
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Nov 25, 03
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Soma - I totally agree with you dude... if you are in a serious relationship then a booty call is a no-no.
Akeel - don't get me wrong bro... I mean, I wouldn't turn around to a chick I am about to hook up with and say, "yo, by the way, last week I hooked up with this other blond!" -- I was emphasizing, if you have a "regular" booty call with someone, out of respect and safety for their own well being, they deserve to know what's up.
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Nov 25, 03
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What's a booty call?
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Nov 25, 03
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Nov 25, 03
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LOL @ akeel
kraig seems experienced :hehe: im iffy on booty calls..at first they may seem to be a very good idea and all, because of the "no strings attached" policy, but like sean said.. someone eventually becomes fond of the other, and that sucks. UNLESS the booty calls are 2 ppl who can never possibly be together in a relationship, but are really good friends.... i guess that can possibly work. and with the informing thing...both sanity and health is a good enough reason to notify one another. health is definately #1. it might be difficult to blurb out "oh i slept with so and so".. but hey it has to be done, if you really wanna get freaky like that.
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Nov 26, 03
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Well if it is a friends with benifits relationship, shouldn't the other person already know that there's that possibilty. I mean you're not exclusive so really it's the persons fault if they got hurt. Don't enter that kind of relationship if you don't know what you're getting yourself in to.
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Nov 26, 03
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i think im focusing now more health wise
youll never be completly sane if you are in a postion where you care more for the other person than they care for you - i see that now funny how good your hindsite is
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Nov 26, 03
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do it!!! My experience has been very benificial when wanting to sleep with emotionally "unavailable" women.. Any man, who knows how to talk to a woman, could easily presuade her into being emotionally available, if he wants her to be.. Because the only reason she's not emotionally avail., is due to her unfourtunate run in with men who cannot succeed in accomplishing that which i have mentioned above.. If i'm wrong, please do point out.....
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