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Jan 11, 04
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The Approach
So you're at the bar, having a grand ol' time, beautiful people all over the place, when one of them catches your eye. You smile, as does she, and you move a little closer together.
What happens next? Do you grab her and tongue-punch her tonsils? Do you move in closer, wrap your arms around her hips and start dancing as one? Or do you just stay where you are like a fool, exchanging warm smiles for the next 20 minutes, not making any further moves whatsoever? Personally, I am option c. I have come to the conclusion that I suck at girls. I love 'em like crazy, but I fully lack the balls to actually do anything about it. This also applies, a little less simply, to everyday life. So what's your deal? Mack or slack? If this doesn't work for you, change the shes to hes and answer away. 
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Jan 12, 04
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depends on the girl i guess...sometimes i will approach, but more often then not i puss out and do nothing, then regret it. lately i have been trying to just stop thinking about it, and approaching the girl. that works out i guess.
but then i say something stupid , and fuck it up.
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Jan 12, 04
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i usually cant think of anyhting to say, and when i do, i dont have the balls to say it. that, however is not the case when under the influence of drugs or alcohol. im so slick when im fucked up (wierd, its usually the other way around)
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Jan 12, 04
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Oh geezus, I'm the worst for approaching anyone. I'm so shy :kimmie: but once in a while with enough liquid courage I have no problem going up and saying hi or whatever. The problem with liquid courage is if you have a little too much too drink you risk making an ass out of yourself. :P
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Jan 12, 04
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as much as i would hate to admit it, i would probably be option c as well, unless im fucked on e or something (then things get a little crazy). i usually wait for them to make the first move, which actually does happen once in a while.
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Jan 12, 04
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being the short funnylooking fat fucker that i was, it was option c for the longest time.
the funny lookiing remained, the short became tall and walking into things doesn't help the issue.... i was amazed at how responsive people were to: being yourself genuine warm smile approachable body language " Nice to meet you" followed by a handshake. nothings worse then pretentious uptight attitude. then again, i'm just a goat. im just gonna keep at the sheep. Last edited by Goat; Jan 12, 04 at 10:54 AM.
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Jan 12, 04
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best thing ever......
you go up to her and say, "hi, my name is _______." (taking her hand and while you shake it say),"i saw you and i knew that if i didnt tell you that you are the most beautiful creature i have ever seen, i would regret it for the rest of my life."(then kiss her hand and walk away) trust me, if she was interested she will come to you now.
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Jan 12, 04
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ohhhh plur.
i've picked up many girls at the bar (burbon). When they walk by, i touch their hands to get their attention and i pull them down and i whisper into their ears what i think of them. 1) Your absolutly gorgeous and i had to let you know. 2) i think your really hot and i couldnt live with myself if i didnt say anything 3)your really cute, do you like girls? 4)can i take you home with me, your adorible.
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Jan 12, 04
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Jan 13, 04
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the only women that ever hit on me at the bar are fat lesbians.
not that i don't like lesbians. but why don;t the hot ones hit on me? calgary is lacking in the hot bisexuals/ lesbians market. sigh mr. dave, go talk to her! you are a sweetheart and she would be a moron not to see it. and you're a good dancer too. shake that ass, boy! :c-tard:
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Jan 13, 04
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C'mon guys... its not that hard. The way I've always looked at it is this: If she says no you're still standing there alone, but if she says yes your night has now completely changed.
What it boils down to is that you've got nothing to lose in the first place. The conversation is going to be awkward but give it a few minutes and you may find something in common to speak about. As well, there is a pretty good chance that if she digs you that she'll be just as nervous and awkward. Mr. Dave I say next time you locate you balls, turn em out, and go for broke! Regret always hurts more than a shutdown in the long run.... if you never ask you'll never know what the answer could have been. :keebler:
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Jan 13, 04
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IF I decide to lay the mack-down (I go out to party, not to pick up the laydeez, though the flirting's fun : :tounge1: ), it's usually based on a semi-reliable chance of it happening: ie; Been lightly flirting with each other during the night, sitting near enough to engage in conversation (biggest problem is always trying to talk without yelling your larynx out at a club), we maybe already kind of know each other through a friend of a friend, and other such inklings.
Bottom line, though, is you GOTTA talk at some point, and talk about something you can BOTH relate to at that moment (the music playing, the vibe of the party, the price of drinks, maybe that one silly knacker who's making an ass of himself on the dance floor). Without some common ground to get associated with, you'll have nothing to get hooked up with aside from a passable attraction to one another, and, in a place where there's likely dozens of attractive people, that ain't gonna be of any use.
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Jan 13, 04
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I'm with Crystal on this - I am big for going up to people and just telling them how lovely they look -- boy or girl
Or asking why someone isn't dancing..when I'm on my way to the dancefloor and try to get them to come with I tihnk that in most places I am at on a regular basis there aren't hoards of super snobs and most people are nice enough to feel genuinely complimented if you say something nice
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Jan 13, 04
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yah i like the direct approach. if there's eye contact, then you usually have a great chance.
www.sosuave.com dont let people on here give you advice, take it from the pro's. its worth checking out.
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Jan 13, 04
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then there's always option d.
for anyone who's seen Chopper... go talk with your buddae at the corner of the bar, make sure you're facing the chick of your desire. whip it out, make eye contact with her, smile, while keep talkling to your buddae. works every time.
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Jan 13, 04
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aha greatest thread ever :c-tard:
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