wedding invite etiquette

so when a wedding invite doesn't have a space for "number of guests" is it okay to assume that you can bring a date.

also, is it rude to get clarification from the couple to be.

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by Avana

so when a wedding invite doesn't have a space for "number of guests" is it okay to assume that you can bring a date.

also, is it rude to get clarification from the couple to be.

It's not rude -- they will probably appreciate you asking vs. just bringing someone they may not have budgeted for.

[Disco_Whore]

^Totally.

[Revolver]

not rude at all...

you should definatly ask. just to be sure...

[LLaaUUrrYYn]

When there isn't a space to add a number of guests that means you CAN'T bring a guest.

We just went through all of this shit with my sisters invites (The hall only holds 120 people - so unless you are married or have been dating for over a year then a date was not invited.)

You could call and clarify just to be certain. It wouldn't be rude at all - but it could put them on the spot and make them feel uncomfortable.

Good luck!

[.LxT]

Personally I take all invites to represent +1. It's got to do with.. growing up, I guess. It is somewhat of a matter of manners to extend an invitation to somebody's significant other. This is not to mean you should bring your best friend along. It's also a matter of self-respect not to take some low-life [woman or man] to such an event.

On the flip-side I have no qualms of telling people when NOT to come to things if I think there should be 'confusion'. Sure, it creates some tension but it ensures a smooth time to be had by all.


In your case I'd ask, I find it hard to believe they forgot to mention the date thing. I know what I said above, but if you can't tell that from just knowing those that have invited you it's best to avoid embarrassment both for you and for them. If they're good friends they shouldn't feel awkward.

see all of this puts me in a pickle.

not only am i doing all of the make up for the wedding, i am also the "planner" and coordinating the event on the day of. the issue is, the only person i really know at the wedding is the groom, i haven't even met the bride in person yet.

[Carrie]

just ask the groom.

[Kraig]

^^ What Carrie said.

[.LxT]

^^^ What Kraig said

[veN]

Id just ask. I came acros this for a wedding invite I got for this summer, and it was cool. Worst they can do is say that they're try to keep it limited.

[EPID3MIK-7]

just ask, seriously we've been going through this personally for the last 2 months with our guest list. IMO the worst part of planning a wedding is the guest list, especially when family gets involved. ARRRRGH!

[shebavpg]

I have a question!

My friend and I have to go to a wedding in July, she wants to know if it would be totally disrepsectful wear a white dress. The bridr said it would be OK. But it is a young wedding with an older crowd.

The bride said it would be fine, but would it be totally be disrepsectful??

[lildonkey]

Originally Posted by shebavpg

I have a question!

My friend and I have to go to a wedding in July, she wants to know if it would be totally disrepsectful wear a white dress. The bridr said it would be OK. But it is a young wedding with an older crowd.

The bride said it would be fine, but would it be totally be disrepsectful??

I think your friend should go naked, in order to not take any attention away from the bride by wearing the same colour.

[shebavpg]

Originally Posted by lildonkey

I think your friend should go naked, in order to not take any attention away from the bride by wearing the same colour.

Well naked would be totally wrong

the bride is wearing off white

[Cdn_Brdr]

Weddings are hell of expensive and if you're bringing someone just for the sake of having someone there then I say that is a no no. Every extra person adds to the cost. If you have an S/O it would be rude of them not to invite that person so they should be more than welcome to attend.

The fact that you're doing so much to help out is great but you should (and I know you are) be doing out of the goodness of your heart. You can't hold it over their heads in turn for a date! haha