would you go out with someone with a disability?

[azazel]

not trying to be insensitive or anything.

anyway, someone close to me is deaf and i think they might have a thing for me. she's really cute, but i just dunno.

[tiedye]

Deaf, blind, or mute... sure. It's not like it affects their mental capacity. I'd just have to learn how to communicate with them in a way that they're comfortable.

I wouldn't care about a wheelchair either, but it's when their disability starts affecting logic, reasoning, understanding, etc. that I have issues with.

Reminds me of Benny and Joon though.

[SEAN!]

i wonder what sounds deaf girls make when they cum.


/quagmire

[sNyx]

Originally Posted by azazel

not trying to be insensitive or anything.

anyway, someone close to me is deaf and i think they might have a thing for me. she's really cute, but i just dunno.

wummy, this isnt very fnk? :)

[tiedye]

Oh come on, Myles. It's no less valid than the rest of the drivel we post. The dude might have actually been asking for advice for once. After all, this was a completely hookless post.

[-evil-duerr-]

depends what your needs are in a partner.

personally, I like to communicate. I wouldn't be happy in a relationship where that part of it would be inhibited in any way.

[crackdragon]

The lack of ability to communicate would be a bit of a hurdle but then there is chance you could build an even stronger relationship having her teach you language and always having to pay closer attention to one another... urr something like that anyways

[SEAN!]

Originally Posted by crackdragon

The lack of ability to communicate would be a bit of a hurdle but then there is chance you could build an even stronger relationship having her teach you language and always having to pay closer attention to one another... urr something like that anyways

thats too much work big homie....

of course this is coming from a guy who thinks its too much work to formally ask a girl out, or phone them back for example.

[trancedreams]

Originally Posted by tiedye

it's when their disability starts affecting logic, reasoning, understanding, etc. that I have issues with.

truth.

[RochesterSS]

Anyone seen that movie KIDS. I'd be like Casper's cousin Harminov, fukkin bitches with leg braces and fat asses.

[prozac]

I was suprised at how many people have told me they wouldn't date someone with a "disability". It's fucking weird. Our differences are what make us each unique. Some of us just have more noticeable differences.

I know girls who date assholes and guys who date crazy chicks, people who actually are defective, yet won't date someone with a visible difference because it's perceived as a defect. What a sheep-like, head-in-the-sand mentality.

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by RochesterSS

Anyone seen that movie KIDS. I'd be like Casper's cousin Harminov, fukkin bitches with leg braces and fat asses.

ROCHESTER DISCOVERS HIS LEAGUE!

[azazel]

She's been deaf from about 2 years old but can read lip super well. But if there's other people she sometimes gets really frustrated because the conversation would come spontaneously from one of the other three of us, which she can't predict and so can't follow the conversation.


On the other hand, one-on-one, she's the best listener. And really expressive with her eyes and face and body language, which is cool. Her speech is strange at times - sometimes sounds almost mentally-challenged, but other times sort of European, but her grammar dead on. she actually never went to a deaf school but was mainstreamed by her parents. she also put up with a lot of teasing and bullshit in highschool though.

anyway, she has already told her sister that i'm gonna ask her out (even though i haven't indicated this to anyone), and even though i enjoy hanging out, i don't think i wanna go out with her.

i don't want her to think it's because of her disability

[ebbomega]

Given your emphasis on the disability thus far, I think it's pretty damn clear that it is.

[-evil-duerr-]

Originally Posted by prozac

I was suprised at how many people have told me they wouldn't date someone with a "disability". It's fucking weird. Our differences are what make us each unique. Some of us just have more noticeable differences.

would you date a grotesquely fat man? probably not, even though such differences are what make us unique little snowflakes.

You can argue that you wouldn't date a man with such a disability because of very practical reasons.
-High price of food
-Horrible body odour because he can't fit into the shower
-No sex because his boys are hidden in his massive body rolls.

Just like I could argue I wouldn't date a blind quadriplegic lady because
- I like to go dancing
- I am a fan of visual art/entertainment etc.
- I'll always bug her to let me ride her wheel chair around when I'm high.

[Goodfellow]

Back in highschool, my friend hooked up with a girl at a party and turns out she was handicapped.

We called him handy humper for the duration of school. haha

[azazel]

Originally Posted by Goodfellow

Back in highschool, my friend hooked up with a girl at a party and turns out she was handicapped.

We called him handy humper for the duration of school. haha

what was her handicap

^^Whats your definition of "handicap"? I seriously cant stand that word. That word along with retard and disability is probably what makes ppl feel so different.

A spin off of what prozac said, everyone is different and really, its the norms ability that makes the anti-norm a dis-ability. Im really shocked that someone even calls someone who is deaf or blind a disability. Its amazing what ppl who are deff, blind, or have physically mobility issues can actually do. Some things they can even do better than most "normal" ppl.

You also have to think that at any time anyone of us could get into an accident and become blind, deaf, or have physical mobile issues. How would you feel if you partner suddenly duped you because they dont have the patients to deal with it?

[-evil-duerr-]

i think the deal is that prozac has to date a handicap person to justify the neg karma she just gave me for my honest opinion. :)

let me know when the wedding is

[prozac]

Originally Posted by -evil-duerr-

would you date a grotesquely fat man? probably not, even though such differences are what make us unique little snowflakes.

You can argue that you wouldn't date a man with such a disability because of very practical reasons.
-High price of food
-Horrible body odour because he can't fit into the shower
-No sex because his boys are hidden in his massive body rolls.

Just like I could argue I wouldn't date a blind quadriplegic lady because
- I like to go dancing
- I am a fan of visual art/entertainment etc.
- I'll always bug her to let me ride her wheel chair around when I'm high.

I really hate that you're trying to compare (even clinical) obesity to quadriplegia. I understand you're trying to make a point but that is a shitty shallow comparison.

I suppose these things come down to personal choice/preference more than any actual disability. IMO your reasoning for not dating a fatty is waaaaay more logical than that for not dating a blind quad, but there you go, personal opinion.

[prozac]

Originally Posted by -evil-duerr-

i think the deal is that prozac has to date a handicap person to justify the neg karma she just gave me for my honest opinion. :)

let me know when the wedding is

Oh wow. I would love to wrap those words up in bacon grease and feed them to you. :|

[-evil-duerr-]

lol. I was just using huge exaggerations to make a point.


I don't think the issue is that any of us think less of disabled people, it's simply an issue of compatibility.

[PwInCeSs]

Compatibility as Evil Duerr said and also lifestyle change.
Depending on the disability (I agree with Rhia, blind, deaf, mobility issues i dont consider those the same) theres many differences in lifestyle, and mental age in some cases. Or understanding.
Ive worked with Downs children and Autistic children, and they have been absolutley amazing to be around, loving, smart, and truley enjoy life to its full extent. I truley believe i have learnt alot about appreciating life from all of these children.
BUT would i be able to carry on and have a fully functioning loving relationship with someone who is Downs or Autistic? No i honestly dont think i could. They need alot of different things already in life, and caregivers, I just dont feel i could be truley happy in a relationship with someone who is living life with one or the other. Hate to say it but with alot of people with either 'disability' need to be parented, and i wouldnt want to parent my spouse.

As Rhia said one day our loved one could end up in a wheel chair or blind or any of that, and struggle or not i think i could still be as happy.

Thats just for me tho...

[azazel]

Originally Posted by R Wellbelove

^^Whats your definition of "handicap"? I seriously cant stand that word. That word along with retard and disability is probably what makes ppl feel so different.

A spin off of what prozac said, everyone is different and really, its the norms ability that makes the anti-norm a dis-ability. Im really shocked that someone even calls someone who is deaf or blind a disability. Its amazing what ppl who are deff, blind, or have physically mobility issues can actually do. Some things they can even do better than most "normal" ppl.

You also have to think that at any time anyone of us could get into an accident and become blind, deaf, or have physical mobile issues. How would you feel if you partner suddenly duped you because they dont have the patients to deal with it?

yeah you're probably right. damnit :(

[prozac]

Originally Posted by PwInCeSs

Compatibility as Evil Duerr said and also lifestyle change.
Depending on the disability (I agree with Rhia, blind, deaf, mobility issues i dont consider those the same) theres many differences in lifestyle, and menatl age in some cases. Or understanding.
Ive worked with Downs children and Autistic children, and they have been absolutley amazing to be around, loving, smart, and truley enjoy life to its full extent. I truley believe i have learnt alot about appreciating life from all of these children.
BUT would i be able to carry on and have a fully functioning loving relationship with someone who is Downs or Autistic? No i honestly dont think i could. They need alot of different things already in life, and caregivers, I just dont feel i could be truley happy in a relationship with someone who is living life with one or the other. Would i Be friend them or hangout on a normal basis, yes i would. Hate to say it but with alot of people with either 'disability' need to be parented, and i wouldnt want to parent my spouse.

I kind of thought this went without saying. Even on purely a moral basis. Issues of informed consent come up pretty quickly. However this whole thread was started talking about a deaf girl.

As Rhia said one day our loved one could end up in a wheel chair or blind or any of that, and struggle or not i think i could still be as happy.

Thats just for me tho...

I think this is more what we are talking about.