losing someone...

[Courtney]

i was wondering if you could share some stories about losing someone and how you dealt with it...my dad passed away and its the hardest thing ive ever gone through and it would be nice to hear some positives

[veN]

talking with friends and family about our fondest memories of a person's life, and celebrating it helps as much as anything can. I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, courtney. *hugs*

[PwInCeSs]

Sorry to hear about your loss :(
I have lost a few people very close to me, the last being my cousin, Talking about it as Nev said helps the most. Because of the way my cousin died (they assume suicide) There has also been a foundation in his name set up and every year on the anniversary of his death they have a fundraiser/party celebrating his life.
There is no easy way to get through something like this and obv. no way to get over it.
Think of the good times he had and that you shared
I couldnt imagine losing my father, my bestfriend has and every month she has the hardest time, but seeing her family gets her through it, It will be one year next month for her, and she can now smile everytime the 18th comes around and tell stories and just enjoy the memories.
Be strong

[Kraig]

My mother passed from Cancer roughly 7 years ago now I guess it's been. So I appreciate what you're going through.

Everyone grieves differently... typically time is what it takes to process the emotion. As far as how you let it impact your life, it comes down to you making a decision - on the one side you can think positively that your Dad is in a better place, without pain, etc... and you'll cherish the good memories you've shared and eventually when you're ready, move on OR on the other there is focusing on negative energy and dwelling on the fact he is gone, which leads to depression which impacts everything in your life at the time for the worst.

Give yourself time... focus on the positive and you'll get through things.

[cinist]

I'm so sorry to hear that courtney, I can't imagin what it would be like to lose a parent. Stay strong buddy.

[SEAN!]

Originally Posted by Kraig

My mother passed from Cancer roughly 7 years ago now I guess it's been. So I appreciate what you're going through.

Everyone grieves differently... typically time is what it takes to process the emotion. As far as how you let it impact your life, it comes down to you making a decision - on the one side you can think positively that your Dad is in a better place, without pain, etc... and you'll cherish the good memories you've shared and eventually when you're ready, move on OR on the other there is focusing on negative energy and dwelling on the fact he is gone, which leads to depression which impacts everything in your life at the time for the worst.

Give yourself time... focus on the positive and you'll get through things.

kraig said it very well, you need to focus on the things youve done together and all the fond memories you have of that person. its important not to focus on the fact they are gone, instead you should realize that your father would want you to be happy and for you to progress in life. By moving on, working hard and realizing your dreams your doing exactly what your father wouldve wanted to do.


you will never forget him, so dont be worried about grief, you will always look back on your memories of him, but use that as guidance because im sure your father always wanted you to be happy and do whats right for you.

[Revolver]

Originally Posted by Courtney

i was wondering if you could share some stories about losing someone and how you dealt with it...my dad passed away and its the hardest thing ive ever gone through and it would be nice to hear some positives

im so sorry courtney.

i lost my father this past summer....i understand all to well.

[P.A.R.T.Y]

My mother lost her father when she was about your age. In my case, one of my good friends died of a drug overdose early last year. He was a great guy, someone who was always there for you, always had time to listen, and complimented you on your work. I feel sorry that he's not here today, but I look back at the times we spent together and remember all the good times we had and that gives me some peace. Hopefully, you will find peace from knowing that memories hold the essence a persons life in your mind forever.

[miss.myra]

Remember that live is unpromised and that every single waking moment you're with someone should be one where no matter what, you are greatful to be around them. Move forward. Life a life of love and gratitude and you will not have regrets.

I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss and I'm sending ALL of my love your way (can you feel it?)

[kiMMie]

Deepest condolences to you and your family Courtney :sad2:

As I'm sure it's hard to have a parent lost at such a young age, you must find the strength and courage to stand tall. I'm sure there are a lot of emotions and heartache at this time and often they become overwhelming. It's better to shed tears for a loss than bottling them. Times will be hard, but they will get better.

Remember him for who he was, what he represented, what he shared and passed on to you. You are his legacy. He will never be gone.

[zarlon]

the most important thing is the memories, as long as you and other people that shared your lives with him have those he'll never 'truly' be gone (as creepy as it sounds)

i have a lot of weird thoughts on this subject though. just know that things will be OK

[veN]

Originally Posted by kiMMie

Remember him for who he was, what he represented, what he shared and passed on to you. You are his legacy. He will never be gone.

that was beautiful, cece.

[ppcock]

my best friend lost his mother in January

We basically do everything together and lots of jokes all around (not about anything personal) to help him deal with his loss.
I cant imagine, going through something like that. It would be uber hard if someone super close to me passed away.


beer helps too.

[gnosis]

Just,... remember.

Take a deep breath, look up, and keep going.

You have to.

You owe it to your father's memory.

Frosty
(lost a few)

[galaxie]

Originally Posted by gnosis

Just,... remember.

Take a deep breath, look up, and keep going.

You have to.

You owe it to your father's memory.

Frosty
(lost a few)

Best advice yet.
I lost my dad 8 years ago. When I think about it I still feel like a little girl, right back where I was when I was 15. It helps me to talk to him, when I feel like I need him, I just sit and talk to him. I know he's listening, and when I need strength to do something difficult, I ask him to be there. I still feel him there, every day, you just have to let go of expecting to see him, and imagine him there because he IS there.

Lots of love to you, Courtney! You'll find the strength within to keep pushing forward. Keep in mind, he wouldn't want you to be sad or for your life to stop because he's gone. He wants to do great things and become an amazing woman and lead an amazing life - let that fill your heart!

[galaxie]

By the way, it's completely OK to lie in bed for 7-14 days, cry, and eat comfort food. Just be prepared that you're going to have to go back to living your life sooner or later.

[KrisisID]

My condolences.

I lost a good friend of mine to cancer last year, and a friend to suicide. What helped me through these times were to just let it all out, grieve. And just remember them, share stories with friends and family. Take as long as you need.

[mojo]

big hug from guatemala, internet friend. I am very sorry for your loss.

-Mike

[ebbomega]

I wake up and the phone is ringing,
Surprised, as it's early.
And that should be the perfect warning,
That something's, a problem.
To tell the truth I saw it coming,
The way, you were breathing.
But nothing can prepare you for it,
The voice, on the other, end.

The worst is all the lovely weather,
I'm sad, it's not raining.
The coffee isn't even bitter,
Because, what's the difference?
There's all the work that needs to be done,
It's late, for revision.
There's all the time and all the planning,
And songs, to be finished.

And it keeps coming,
And it keeps coming,
And it keeps coming,
Till the day it stops
And it keeps coming,
And it keeps coming,
And it keeps coming,
Till the day it stops

LCD Soundsystem - Someone Great

The context is a little different but I think the words still apply.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss Courtney. I've never had someone so close to me die, and I can't even conceive what you must be going through.

[Grapes]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

I've never had someone so close to me die, and I can't even conceive what you must be going through.

Seconded, on both counts. I feel pretty damn lucky.

Condolences Courtney

[Courtney]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

Remember that live is unpromised and that every single waking moment you're with someone should be one where no matter what, you are greatful to be around them. Move forward. Life a life of love and gratitude and you will not have regrets.

I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss and I'm sending ALL of my love your way (can you feel it?)

myra your words touched me the most because this si what i really have learned from this!
thank you....

and thanks everyone :)

[rawb]

courtney were thinking of you here :/

[azazel]

the Bible says you should mourn when someone is born into the world. maybe because our world is crap, and what they are returning to is God's love.

[Courtney]

^hahah thanks thats a cool way to look at it although my dad thought religion was crap as do i hahah