fixing dreams

[Courtney]

ok...I have been having really crazy dreams I won't go into too much detail but at first I liked them but now it just seems to be pretty much the same thing dreamt in different ways....and its just a take on the reality of it....Are there dream therapists or something that you can go to that can actually help to change the focus of your dreams? I don't really want to just go to some random therapist because I don't think theyde know much

[NinjaBoy]

Do you smoke weed or drink within a few hours of going to bed? This normally makes your dreams a little loopy...

[Phrenetic]

SERIOUS QUESTION:

are they erotic dreams?

[Courtney]

no its usually when I havent smoked weed or alcohol
and no they are not erotic -eww

[crackdragon]

I find if I do not want to have a reoccurring dream or dream about certain things, I make a point of thinking about them before bed for a few minutes. So far this has worked without failure.

[Courtney]

^yea its not something i want to think about....

[crackdragon]

lol... most unwanted dreams aren't something you would want to think about, but if its reoccurring in some form or another perhaps you should think about it. Try to dissect it a bit. It's worth a try at the very least if its bothering you this much

[Courtney]

its not somethingi can ever dissec
oh well
therapy here i come

[ebbomega]

start getting used to asking yourself whether or not you're sleeping. Have some method you can devise to figure out if you're sleeping. Clocks are good. Trick I used to always do was when I wore a watch, check the time, look away, and check the time again. If you're sleeping the clock will get very fucked up, start moving backwards, give you completely different times, blur the numbers, something like that.

Get in the habit of doing something like that often while waking. Eventually you'll catch yourself while you're in the midst of a dream and then you can explore it further, and start exorcising the demons that your mind is stumbling over.

Good luck, godspeed, may the force be with you.

[NinjaBoy]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

start getting used to asking yourself whether or not you're sleeping. Have some method you can devise to figure out if you're sleeping. Clocks are good. Trick I used to always do was when I wore a watch, check the time, look away, and check the time again. If you're sleeping the clock will get very fucked up, start moving backwards, give you completely different times, blur the numbers, something like that.

Get in the habit of doing something like that often while waking. Eventually you'll catch yourself while you're in the midst of a dream and then you can explore it further, and start exorcising the demons that your mind is stumbling over.

Good luck, godspeed, may the force be with you.

And watch "waking life".

YouTube - Waking Life Trailer

It's based around lucid dreaming, especially those which can't be escaped.

[crackdragon]

Originally Posted by Courtney

its not somethingi can ever dissec
oh well
therapy here i come

don't waste your time or money with therapy if this is the way you are going to be thinking

[ebbomega]

^ Agreed. Therapists are just catalysts. People get over their own shit on their own.

[diva]

You don't have to answer this question, but are you taking any new medication? Those can really fuck up your dreams.

[Courtney]

Originally Posted by ebbomega

^ Agreed. Therapists are just catalysts. People get over their own shit on their own.

I dont know about that
when your dad dies suddenly and u havent seen him in 15 months im not sure u can get over that on ure own

[crackdragon]

A therapist only provides you with the tools needed to get through certain things and an ear to talk to. The rest really is up to you. If your are not in the mind set to move on or heal then you wont.

[NinjaBoy]

I thought you said you weren't going to talk about it...

You obviously need to get it off your chest, and clear the air. Call up a good friend, someone who's known you for years and vent. Any good friend would be willing to have a long talk over a drink if you need it.

[ebbomega]

Originally Posted by Courtney

I dont know about that
when your dad dies suddenly and u havent seen him in 15 months im not sure u can get over that on ure own

Weirder things have happened.

Point is you shouldn't look to a therapist as the answer, because they never are. They are simply a means to find your own answers.

You don't need a therapist to get over a familial loss. Friends and family are often used in those cases by most people. Therapists are just more aware of the common pitfalls that people fall into and so can steer you clear of those. But they're never the ultimate solution.

Ain't nobody taking care of yourself other than you, no matter how much you pay them to.

[stabmyhead]

This is all in speculation but I'm assuming you have been having dreams of your dad? A loss like that is overwhelming, it's hard to really deal with on your own. I find those sort of dreams will occur when you try to avoid thinking or dealing with your emotions in regards to the situation. Dreams can be very intense, especially on such an emotionally touchy subject. I find it helps to write it out and try to figure out why you think you've been having the dreams, what is triggering them. They probably will never fully go away, nor do I think you would really want them to...

[SEAN!]

Originally Posted by NinjaBoy

Do you smoke weed or drink within a few hours of going to bed? This normally makes your dreams a little loopy...

SSRI's do that shit too

[tiedye]

Meditation.

Or a lot of rye before bed. Oh, and think happy thoughts.