When do you want to settle down?

[Courtney]

goldigger angle:
old and haggered = rich

[Ragga_Wh0re]

Originally Posted by diva

1. I don't know what i'm taking about, I only have an opinion.

2. I was taking about very young children. BABIES.

3. I didn't say anything about women having to stay at home exclusively. I wouldn't want to do that either.

4. I didn't say daycares were bad places. I just dont think BABIES (under 18 mo.) should be in them. I don't think you can argue that a BABY is better off in a daycare.

5. Who's talking about curve balls? Planning to have a child isn't a curve ball. It's a conscious decision.

I haven't said anything negative about your parenting skills. Since I wasn't talking about unplanned pregnancies, I don't know why you're taking this personally...

sorry Im not taking it personally, Im trying to argue it from all points...not just my own. My reason for doing this was because your explanation wasnt well articulated or executed,leaving it open ended thus open to be analyzed and discussed. In doing so Im trying to understand what you did not say.

Remember youre the one that called ME the cunt :)talk about personal...

[Ragga_Wh0re]

Originally Posted by Avana

i find it is such a cop out to say that you arent capable of being in a relationship. maybe i am a hopeless romantic but i truly believe there is someone for everyone. i think that once you met that person, your opinion will change.

i was single for 7 years. i held out, but met someone that made my heart a bit softer than before.

Hey man its the truth as I know it at this point in my life. I understand that people can change, however I have a lot of things I need to work through and accomplish. That being said I refuse to drag along some innocent bistander for the ride. I think thats commendable.

Originally Posted by diva

Hello, Avana. Do I have to go back and bold every plan I used? I know that your first reaction is to criticize, but if you go back and actually read what I wrote, you'd see that I wasn't talking about unplanned pregnancies. I was talking about ones that were planned. Jeez...

This discussion is about planned pregnancies.

sorry but in my experience, most of the pregnancies around me are not planned. i have 3 friends out of 20 that have had children that are actually planned.

1 of those has put her children into daycare after the first year as she and her husband both work. they are both beautiful and well adjusted children.

[junglequeen]

I thought I wanted to be living the sterotypical white pickett fence, big diamond ring, lululemon Mum life by 25 but the closer I get the more I realize common-law, backpacker hippie Mum is more my style.

I think Im as settled down as Im ever going to be.

[prozac]

Originally Posted by Courtney

goldigger angle:
old and haggered = rich

Girl, 32-35 does not equal old and haggard. The last 4 guys I've dated have been 30-40 (I'm 23 for the record) and only one was loaded. 3/4 are pretty darn attractive. Guys do have a longer shelf-life lol.

Also, I would like to point out to everyone that this is the most mature and articulate we have ever seen ragga_whore in an fnk argument. She gets my props for that.

[tiedye]

We also tend to get better looking with age so long as we keep healthy.

[Erin]

Originally Posted by prozac

Girl, 32-35 does not equal old and haggard. The last 4 guys I've dated have been 30-40 (I'm 23 for the record) and only one was loaded. 3/4 are pretty darn attractive. Guys do have a longer shelf-life lol.

Also, I would like to point out to everyone that this is the most mature and articulate we have ever seen ragga_whore in an fnk argument. She gets my props for that.

Agreed. My boyfriend is almost 33 and he is effing sexy!

[rawb]

SO APPARENTLY YOU'RE ONLY FUCKED IF YOU'RE A CHICK l

[tiedye]

This goes on the list of why I love being a man between 'standing up while peeing' and 'not having to wear underwear like.. ever.'

[Courtney]

Originally Posted by prozac

Girl, 32-35 does not equal old and haggard. The last 4 guys I've dated have been 30-40 (I'm 23 for the record) and only one was loaded. 3/4 are pretty darn attractive. Guys do have a longer shelf-life lol.

Also, I would like to point out to everyone that this is the most mature and articulate we have ever seen ragga_whore in an fnk argument. She gets my props for that.

nono I know that
I like older guys- even really old sometimes lol I just meant from a golddiggers perspective she usually goes for older! didn't really mean old and haggered necessarily!

[Courtney]

I was seeing a 34 yr old.................
they are well educated lol

[miss.myra]

Originally Posted by Courtney

I was seeing a 34 yr old.................
they are well educated lol

um really? every 34 year old ever? hmmm..somehow i doubt that.

[diva]

Originally Posted by Ragga_Wh0re

Remember youre the one that called ME the cunt :)talk about personal...

Very true. I was ornery. Sorry.

[diva]

Originally Posted by Avana

sorry but in my experience, most of the pregnancies around me are not planned. i have 3 friends out of 20 that have had children that are actually planned.

1 of those has put her children into daycare after the first year as she and her husband both work. they are both beautiful and well adjusted children.

I was responding to Courtney's post about wanting to have a child even if it meant she would have to do it as a single parent. That's where the planned pregnancy discussion stemmed from.


I agree that a large percentage of pregnancies are not planned.

[Lush]

I don't think that making set plans about these kinds of things is practical, at least when it comes to children.
I can't exclusively say that I want to have a kid by 30 because I want to be established before I even think about having children. It really depends on school, obtaining a stable career and how my life progresses. That being said, ideally all of that would fall into place in the 30-35 age range. From a biological standpoint I would start to get concerned at about 35 because as a woman you never really know when menopause is going to take place.

With marriage, at this rate I can see it happening in the next several years. My fiance proposed to me in August and I'm really happy with how things have progressed. We haven't set a date but we both decided that it would be within a year of finishing school.
It's strange because I thought of all my friends I would be the last to settle down and follow a totally unconventional route but I really like how things have turned out. There's something really comforting in at least believing that I can have a successful marriage and a great family one day. I think too often we lose sight of anything even remotely traditional because of negative experiences and cynicism.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

Originally Posted by junglequeen

I thought I wanted to be living the sterotypical white pickett fence, big diamond ring, lululemon Mum life by 25 but the closer I get the more I realize common-law, backpacker hippie Mum is more my style.

I think Im as settled down as Im ever going to be.

SHEEEEEEENNNNNNAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D

[*SunShyne*]

i have a career going for me and I make good money now that I'd be able to support myself plus 1

I could go for getting married now, but hold off on the kids for another 4 years or so

[brit]

I feel pretty settled/

[Grapes]

Originally Posted by Erin

Examples?

Sorry I got here late

[inside]

[Courtney]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

um really? every 34 year old ever? hmmm..somehow i doubt that.

hahaha "educated" in bed i meant :embarrest:

[Tea]

Originally Posted by rawb

I THINK A LOT OF PEOPLE NEED TO OWN UP TO THE FACT THAT THEY ARE COMPLETELY UNLOVABLE AND WILL DIE ALONE, WITHOUT ANYONE TO REMEMBER THEM l

THIS IS MY LIFE PLAN ANYTHING ELSE I'LL JUST CONSIDER "LUCK".

[Courtney]

i just decided
NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
a new bf every year works great for me!!