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Apr 16, 04
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Rich or Poor.... can the two combine?
So I didn't realise how rich this guy's family was until i went to his place the other night. His parents are just finnishing building their huge house overlooking the ocean. So rich i can't even believe it. I grew up moving from appartment to appartment with my dad and finally he just couldnt afford it so I had to move out. I live in my a decent basement suite, but its nothing spectacular. I drive a piece of shit car, and I'm broke all the time. This kid just pulls money out of his ass. I'm intimidated by it. And don't wanna get involved cuz I might have to answer questions to his parents about my family, and well I'm ashamed of my back ground. But he's such a great guy. I'm only in highschool so it's not like a huge deal, but it still seems like it.
Would any of you date a guy/girl that had more money than you, or had a weathier family? 
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Apr 16, 04
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What's gunna happen when his parents cut him off? I'd rather pay my own bills and rent etc. and be responsible, and but my self nice clothes etc. Parents wont always be there.
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Apr 16, 04
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its really nto a big deal, i didnt earn my parents wealth, almost all of the shit i have ive paid for myself, thoguh my parents status has been a great enabler. i probably wouldnt have got as far as i have already if my parents werent so hardworking and succesfull. and kellness, when he's on his own he will probably be fine, initially he wont be as well off but if he's ambitious/lucky as his parents, and dosnt fuck up and become a crackhead or something stupid like that. then its very likely that he will be in a equal or greater position then when he's older... whenyou study patterns of wealth attainment, downward shifts in socieconomic status are far less commonplace then upward shifts, its likely that he'lll remian at the same status as his parents or be higher. Generally, offspring either retian the same economic status of their parents, or reach a higher one.
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Apr 16, 04
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pretty much...tho i find people form similar class backgrounds get along better especially in long term relationships such as marraige and shit as they are more likely to share the same values and backgrounds. i beleive this is true for me and my girlfriend as we share many of the same experiences and values even though we are of completely different ethnic backgrounds...and i know it is true for my parents Last edited by SEAN!; Apr 16, 04 at 06:55 AM.
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Apr 16, 04
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I am in relationship where my g/f parents are well off, were as my mom raised three kids on her own and did her best to give us what we needed, my g/f on the other hand had a house that had marble floors and live in nannies, I have no problem with the fact that her parents did well for themselves and provided her with the best of everything, money is only a barrier if you let it be, that and well I plan on making something of myself, and for my family (when it comes), it really has nothing to do with what her parents did or are doing, she will do good in life and so will I, so we are concentrating on the future.
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Apr 16, 04
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i wrote a really long reply/story/experience but it got erased...god must have felt it wasn't worth shit lol. anyways in my experience it didn't work out. love is not some kind of magical spell (well to me it isn't). when one person works hard for their money and another doesn't conflict arrises.
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Apr 16, 04
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money has nothing to do with who you like ( or love for that matter ).
it shouldn't even be a question.
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Apr 16, 04
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well i think it doesn't mix well when it comes to more closer relationships, mainly to do with the social conflict of heiarchial class... wealthier families usually have different values opposed to lower class families. i know i've had a hard time getting closer with people who either were significantly richer or poorer since we've led such different lives
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Apr 16, 04
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That is true I guess, the diffrent lives, but my g/f came to the island and led a diffrent life, she had the taste of both worlds, which gives her the social understanding of my values, and still let's her keep her values of being rich.
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Apr 16, 04
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It all depends on if the person can act appropriatley in certain situations for example i came from a fairly wealthy family and i never minded dating someone lower in class then myself as long as we could go to a more upscale restaurant and he would atleast act like he knew what he was doing. I am not saying acting stuck up ALL the time but when it comes to meeting the parents and the guy knowingly makes an idiot out of himself and is rude haha you might want to keep the realionship really quiet.
Money can be quite intimadating but just learn all you can from it, be open minded and dont be afraid to go with the flow...
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Apr 16, 04
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i dont think money has anything to do whether two people are compatible. unless the richer person expects the less rich person to act all snobby. but then its not about the money. its about the richer person being an ass hat.
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Apr 16, 04
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well it may appear snobby but i guess the richer people would percieve it as being more sophisticated.
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Apr 16, 04
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he's rich till his parents cut em off.thats it.
and what fuckin difference does it make anyways ? if i was goin out with some baller girl, i wouldn't care.i KNOW hella baller girls, get that parents buy em benz's and beamers. doesn't intimidate me cause i know if i really wanted to, they'd get jacked.LOL
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Apr 16, 04
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Apr 17, 04
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I think love is awesome and two people coming together is a wonderful thing. money should have NOTHING TO DO WITH IT.
HOWEVER................................. ........ This is the REAL WORLD. Money MATTERS. you may not want it to, but its true. I come from a working class background. I've never had money. I'm not complaining or anything, because I love my family, but I didn;t have a lot of stuff that my upper middle class/rich friends did. I dated a boy i really loved for about a year. his parents are fairly well off. they are an awesome family,but i always felt out of place around them because they had money and were business people.... my parents are artists and we're poor. my friend gave us a nick name : Dharma and Greg. I don;t care how much money someone has. But in my own experience, having less money than your significant other does create an imbalance. It just does. That's the best way I can put it.
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Apr 17, 04
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since you didnt realize how much money this guy had till recently maybe he is afraid of the same thing you are. not everyone enjoys being wealthy... it does have a certain sterotype that goes with it, and it is pretty lame.
so what if you have to talk about your family you should'nt be ashamed at all where you came from, everybody is different and has their own story on how they came to be. and if you are uncomfortable about all his money then tell him not to spend it around you. go on dates and shit that you can afford. but i am assuming you are dating a guy and he should be paying for everything anyway. ;)
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May 03, 04
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I grew up in a wealthy family. Not super rich but well off enough for me to get whatever I asked for. Travelled alot, got the nicest of things. And grew up in upper west side of Vancouver. In a nice size mansion. And I grew up with the rich class of Vancouver. And did'nt really ascociate with the lower class kids in Vancouver. So all the girls I dated up until I was 14 were all rich girls in upper west side of Vancouver aswell. And that was good.
But then at 14, I moved to Vancouver Island to Nanaimo. And my whole world changed. All the kids were either lower to middle class. And it was kind of a culture shock I guess to me. But over the years I have adjusted. And am really glad I have gotten a taste for both worlds I guess you can say. Made me appreciate things more. Looking back I would not change a thing. I have made so many great friends that hopefully I will have for life. And it makes no diffence of what class they are. Your friends like who for who you are. And not the size of your wallet. And sometimes my friends sometimes get a little weired out I guess by it. My friend one time needed like $500 bucks. The next hr I gave it her. She was uncomfortable with it. But it was no problem. Thats what friends are for. Not to say I would do this for anyone. But my close friends who needed anything money, to talk, a ride someplace, a place to stay I would be there in a second. And some people I talk to say oh thats to much money to give out or let someone borrow. But if I am able to do it and am able to help I am glad to. Relationships have been up and down. Some girls were in it for the money. Which you get over quick. Others have been genuine. And were no problems meeting the family. But I am only 19 so I really have'nt had that many serious relationships. But we'll see what the future holds for me.
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May 03, 04
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I don't have a lot of money but I'm a good person with great friends, I'm healthy, I'm happy and I live a decent life. Should I be ashamed that I'm not rich, that my parents are divorced and both of them are poor? HELL NO. You deal with what life gives you and you make the most out of it. Like I said, don't be ashamed of your background. You are just as valuable as anyone else no matter what kind of car you drive or where you live. I mean in the end money buys 'things'. It doesn't make you a better person than anyone else.... if anything it turns you worse. Say it with me!! "I'm poor but god damnit I'm proud!!" *shrug* works for me.......
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