Do You Consider Cuddling Cheating?

[mindgurl]

Originally Posted by Flip

but lots of em I'm just really good friends with and if we are watching a movie together on a couch and we happen to be holding hands or leaning against each other, then that's all it is.

you hold hands with girls that are ONLY your friends? i think that's rather odd. my girlfriends freak out when i try to hold their hands, but i'd nevre try to hold one of my guy friends hands. just weird.


i'd be worried if my significant other felt it was ok for me to cuddle with someone from the opposite sex. it would make me feel like they didn't care.

Cuddling can be just as, if not more intimate that sex.

[Anjew]

Originally Posted by dabbler

i can't believe anyone would vote no. obviously those people have never truly cared about the person they were with to feel like that's ok.

I'm in the same boat with you here.

I don't understand how anyone could say no.

I would fucken snap and slice and dice the fucker's throat.

I trust the girl but there are other ways to display your friendship.

[PaIniNyErAnUs]

bananasinpj's put it the best..if its something you cant do infront of your partener why would you do it behind their back??

i couldnt handle seein my significant other cuddlin up and holding hands with another girl, that would make me snap..
if you care about the person then you should care enuf not to share...if you dont give a shit, then let that person go cuz theres someone...

WOAH stop now..gettin way to deep

cuddlin is cheating...touching in any sexual or affectionate way is cheating
that stuff you save for your partners

[MissBehavior]

Originally Posted by PaIniNyErAnUs

touching in any ... affectionate way is cheating
that stuff you save for your partners

I think this is a going little far. Most of my friends are male, including my best friend and a few close friends, and I can hug them/give them fast pecks on the cheek and neither mine nor their significant others are bothered by that. I do agree that cuddling with someone else is like emotional cheating, though.

[diva]

totally depends on the intent

but then again, i don't really cuddle with ppl that i have no intention of seeing naked

so if i'm cuddling with someone, it means that i will be humping them eventually

cuddling=emotional foreplay

[Flip]

Originally Posted by mindgurl

Cuddling can be just as, if not more intimate that sex.

The important word here is "can", yes often cuddling can lead to more, but it doesn't have to. Have you never had a longtime friend, best friend or some platonic relationship, where being affectionate towards each other is no more than a friendly non-sexual gesture. I think you can hug, hold hands, lean against, lay beside someone and have it an innocent act that I would be mroe than happy to do right in front of my girlfriend, as long as it's understood that it's not a threat. I wouldn't hide anything or lie about it, I have quite a few really close friends, that any girl I'm dating must understand that I'm not going to refrain from hugging my best friend, just cause she's a girl and my woman is insecure. Trust your partner to do the right thing and if they don't, do something about it.

Hey mindgirl, wanna cuddle? :)

[Pussy*Kat]

so on that note....anyone wanna cuddle ;)
lol

[nabs]

i always cuddle with my girl-friends, even though they have boyfriends, when their bf's arent there to do it, i do it.

[Behn]

all denpends on how far relationship is,
and who it it with...

[nabs]

thats true too.

[Disco_Whore]

Originally Posted by Flip

The important word here is "can", yes often cuddling can lead to more, but it doesn't have to. Have you never had a longtime friend, best friend or some platonic relationship, where being affectionate towards each other is no more than a friendly non-sexual gesture. I think you can hug, hold hands, lean against, lay beside someone and have it an innocent act that I would be mroe than happy to do right in front of my girlfriend, as long as it's understood that it's not a threat. I wouldn't hide anything or lie about it, I have quite a few really close friends, that any girl I'm dating must understand that I'm not going to refrain from hugging my best friend, just cause she's a girl and my woman is insecure. Trust your partner to do the right thing and if they don't, do something about it.

Hey mindgirl, wanna cuddle? :)

I think I only ever had one actual platonic friend that I could cuddle with. I used to tuck him into bed and snuggle with him till he fell asleep, then quietly climb out of the bed, and run downstairs to continue hanging out with the rest of the house. I was dating one of his roommates at the time, and he was fine with it cause he knew it wasn't emotional, or sexual, it was just a comfort thing.

[Roxxie]

hmmmm...i dun consider it cheating but i wouldnt like it

[Flip]

Originally Posted by *Hypnotic

so on that note....anyone wanna cuddle ;)
lol

If I come to the Island near xmas, I expect to book a few hours of cuddling with you. Pencil me in Tuesday night from 10pm to oh say noonish?

[justShell]

Originally Posted by Disco_Whore

I think I only ever had one actual platonic friend that I could cuddle with. I used to tuck him into bed and snuggle with him till he fell asleep, then quietly climb out of the bed, and run downstairs to continue hanging out with the rest of the house. I was dating one of his roommates at the time, and he was fine with it cause he knew it wasn't emotional, or sexual, it was just a comfort thing.

thats very interesting:)... i dont understand why your friend needed to be tucked into bed while everyone else was still at his home? i dont think i could be a bed cuddler if i had a boyfriend

[Prissypants]

LOL...definitely not.... :)

But then again, I am not possessive or jealous...Not only that but if the person wanted to be with someone else and I was in a monogomous relationship, I would break it off. I don't go out with people that I don't trust.

[lou_belle]

heh-row...
we're supposed to be life partners, which to me means that we should be best friends and express our feelings without barriers. If my boyfriend doesn't express to me what his true desires and intentions are in our relationship then that to me is cheating...not the physical act of cuddling.
I know he likes cuddling...so it's expected. It is only when you are caught off guard that you are made to feel excluded and taken advantage of.
He's really good at involving me and he is super sensitive to my feelings so whatever, if a girl wants to cuddle with him then she scores he scores and if he invloves me then there's extra points across the board! Yay! points for everyone* and we are allll loved**
the end

[lou_belle]

On the other hand..

If he caught me cuddling with another guy he would be really hurt.

[dabbler]

i think if you know it would hurt the other person, then its cheating

[Disco_Whore]

Originally Posted by candi::shell

thats very interesting:)... i dont understand why your friend needed to be tucked into bed while everyone else was still at his home? i dont think i could be a bed cuddler if i had a boyfriend

He's a baker and was on a really effed up schedule at the time waking up at 4am to drive to work so he'd never get to bed early enough and just be a zombie all the time. To encourage him to actaully go get some sleep my friend Shawna and I would take turns tucking him in super early...I know it sounds weird but if you knew the guy, it'd make sense.

[Sarah...]

I hate to admit it but im the jelous type...

If my boyfriend was to cuddle with another girl I wouldn't like it that much.........unless maybe if the other person was a really close friend or something

I think im just overly loyal... I dont cuddle with other guys when im in a relationship

But Im not in a relationship so i get to cuddle all the time with my friends now and i love it

[mindgurl]

Originally Posted by Flip

Have you never had a longtime friend, best friend or some platonic relationship, where being affectionate towards each other is no more than a friendly non-sexual gesture.

All my best friends are female, and the few times I thought I had a completely platonic relationship with a guy I was mistaken.

Originally Posted by Flip

I have quite a few really close friends, that any girl I'm dating must understand that I'm not going to refrain from hugging my best friend,

hugging your best friend, or even friends is not comparable to cuddling. i hug almost everyone i know when i see them.

of course there are those extreme situations like Disco_Whore's, but generally if her bf had a problem with that i bet she wouldn't be up there cuddling this guy to sleep. it's always going to depend on the 2 people in the relationship.

[Tea]

I didn't read the entire thread so if my comments touch on a earlier remark then i apologize for the broken record effect. Anyway, i think cuddling with another person is really intimate and shows the levle of comfort between you and the other person. If you are swinging ie: seeing certain people but not comitted with any and cuddle with girls that's great but if your in a real realtionship with the girl i don't see how she could be ok with it. Fucking is less intimate than cuddling in a lot of senses. It also depends onf what kind of girl she is because some girls let it happen all the time. For instance once at a club i witnessed this guy being flirty with a number of girls, for some reason i thought he was too good looking and interested to be single and i was right. Later i see some chic sitting on his lap who is not the GF he introduced me to prior, and he is touching her a lot and telling her to stay sitting there and then suddenly tells me he just met her that night. I asumed she had to be a special friend or something. I hope you see what i am trying to illustrate, in the sense that it really will depend on your realtionship as every one and every person is different. For me, i think if if it was BF it would bother me because, knowing myself i would only do that if i was sexually attracted to the person i was spooning with and if i didn't have a boyfriend i'd probably fuck the person. Or, if the girl was hot me and the boy could maybe work something out if she wants to come down swining with us. RIGHT. lol Anyway, this is not so cut and dry but it's human nature for us to not to mentally script our realtionships with cuddling with outside people. sounds weird to me but nowadays anything goes, and i bet you will many girls who are ok with it and don't consider it an act of cheating.

[Skitzo_Style]

Originally Posted by ppcock

Its been many of times where andrew has cuddled me then stuff is 2" cock in my mouth.

I dont consider that cheating.

2 inches alright!


2 inches from the floor standing on a 10 foot ladder.

[Skitzo_Style]

to be completely honest, i've always wanted to have a cuddle puddle with a bunch of fat girls. it would be just like sinking into a king size waterbed.

[lola_phyne]

Andew.. check djvibe.com/tv/ click on the summerbreaks video. You're in it. That is all.

oh and as for the cuddling bit... I cuddle with my guy friends all the time. It's not something that I hide from my SO. But I know that the cuddling is just cuddling and nothing more. If I knew there was more or feelings between me and said cuddler I woudn't be doing it.