"Friends" who sell out on you...LAST MINUTE!

[Antenna_Boy]

You people suck, that is all I have to say! I don't normally post on FnK much but this time I have to make a thread and exclaim selling out is not amusing at all. PERIOD. How many of you had sell-outs, and what was your resolution to the situation!? :mexitoke:

[Ms.Tarantula]

ohh.. i know EXACTLY what you mean.. sometimes important shit comes up, we've all had that happen but i mean..

when you have plans and ppl just no show dont call... nothing..

and then you dont hear from them until days later... GRR

[Clayton.]

Some people are so inconsiderate. *shakes head*

[Ms.Tarantula]

Originally Posted by Ever666

Some people are so inconsiderate. *shakes head*

*pukes in the general direction of your comment*

[project.one]

once or twice if it happens, sometimes it happens, things come up. if people constantly do it, then i let them know, but i dont put up with that stuff no more (right Leah ;) lol).
If its something they keep doing, then Id tell them your not dealing with it anymore, they can do whatever they want!

[Ms.Tarantula]

Originally Posted by projectone

once or twice if it happens, sometimes it happens, things come up. if people constantly do it, then i let them know, but i dont put up with that stuff no more (right Leah ;) lol).
If its something they keep doing, then Id tell them your not dealing with it anymore, they can do whatever they want!

... you still have 2 chances hun no worries ;)

[LeeBrat]

i hate it wen friends use you for rides and never give you gas money

[cutienikki]

Originally Posted by LeeBrat

i hate it wen friends use you for rides and never give you gas money

I DEFINATLY FEEL YOU ON THIS ONE!

Vouge for that...however i must admit that i do sometimes i let it slide cuz u know u either havent seen them in a while or whatever right. But its the gesture that counts.

[Revolver]

Originally Posted by Antenna_Boy

You people suck, that is all I have to say! I don't normally post on FnK much but this time I have to make a thread and exclaim selling out is not amusing at all. PERIOD. How many of you had sell-outs, and what was your resolution to the situation!? :mexitoke:

perhaps you should not be so dependant on people. ive been sold out....and ive also sold people out as well..

shit comes up. i dont know about in your particular case but in most....its not malicious

[LeeBrat]

^^yeah...i let it slide all the time, cuz thats just the way i am, i never say whats bigging me cuz i dont wanna offen/upset ppl
*edit* cutienikki

[Ms.Tarantula]

if it happens once or whatever no big deal..

but after someone does it a few times...

man i hate that.

generally when they ask me again to make plans i say no. because I dont trust them not to just ditch out again.

[LeeBrat]

Originally Posted by Ms.Tarantula

if it happens once or whatever no big deal..

but after someone does it a few times...

man i hate that.

generally when they ask me again to make plans i say no. because I dont trust them not to just ditch out again.

^^ i wish i could just say fuck em....but...i donno...i find it hard to say no

[Pennywise]

Haha.

[Ms.Tarantula]

Originally Posted by LeeBrat

^^ i wish i could just say fuck em....but...i donno...i find it hard to say no

after enugh people you think you can trust fuck you over in bigger ways then selling you out... which is actually a really petty offence.. you realize that its not just that they are selling you out.. they are actually showing you a deeper rooted character trait they posess that actually says alot about them as a friend.

if theyre willing to slack off and sell out then chances are they are lazy and unreliable with other things, too.

[Pennywise]

HAHA. I sell out people all time. Clay taught me the ropes.

[Antenna_Boy]

Originally Posted by Ms.Tarantula

ohh.. i know EXACTLY what you mean.. sometimes important shit comes up, we've all had that happen but i mean..

when you have plans and ppl just no show dont call... nothing..

and then you dont hear from them until days later... GRR

yeah, but how should you feel when this happens...you don't hear anything, no call, no text and then about 2 hrs later..like 10 pm, the msn blinks on with that friend saying...so let's go out? isn't that rude? :(

[cutienikki]

Originally Posted by Antenna_Boy

yeah, but how should you feel when this happens...you don't hear anything, no call, no text and then about 2 hrs later..like 10 pm, the msn blinks on with that friend saying...so let's go out? isn't that rude? :(

majorly rude no excuses man. However shit happens and now you know. If they are going to do this once they are more than likely going to do it again. So just fuck'em and just shrug it off.

[Antenna_Boy]

Originally Posted by cutienikki

majorly rude no excuses man. However shit happens and now you know. If they are going to do this once they are more than likely going to do it again. So just fuck'em and just shrug it off.

do you know what I did this evening to that? And let me know if I did the right thing...I pressed this little scroll menu link on the msn window called "block user". Was my action justified?

[cutienikki]

Originally Posted by Antenna_Boy

do you know what I did this evening to that? And let me know if I did the right thing...I pressed this little scroll menu link on the msn window called "block user". Was my action justified?

to be honest no. If they are good friends then that was immature. However even as acquatences still. You should still be able to talk to people and be like you know what...im not going to make plans with you because the last time u sold me out and i could have used that time i wasted waiting for you to do something else.

or even just a simple "No I have plans tonight"

[Prissypants]

Meh...I wait for about 30 minutes then I make new plans. If people want to sell out then it is their loss...

[Antenna_Boy]

this person I am not considering a best friend, more so like an acquaintence...but I do understand where you are going with this Nikki...I agree with you totally. But if I compare that person to the rest of my core friends, this person actually is not someone I would probably consider someone to trust..if they sell you once they will sell you again. True friends don't sell out, buddies sell you out. But having them blocked on my msn list will force them to call me for a reason why....so I still have them in my phone book so I know who is calling. Would this then be the right thing to do with me blocking them?

[Antenna_Boy]

Originally Posted by Prissypants

Meh...I wait for about 30 minutes then I make new plans. If people want to sell out then it is their loss...

I would under normal circumstances agree with you, and true it is THEIR loss, but would you hold your breath for them later down the road? I'd most likely say "fuck em" under my breath and see what else is on the menue for the day(sort to speak).

[cutienikki]

Originally Posted by Antenna_Boy

this person I am not considering a best friend, more so like an acquaintence...but I do understand where you are going with this Nikki...I agree with you totally. But if I compare that person to the rest of my core friends, this person actually is not someone I would probably consider someone to trust..if they sell you once they will sell you again. True friends don't sell out, buddies sell you out. But having them blocked on my msn list will force them to call me for a reason why....so I still have them in my phone book so I know who is calling. Would this then be the right thing to do with me blocking them?

Well if its not ur "best friend" then whatever honestly its none of my business but if you dont trust them then why even call them a friend? If they are going to sell you out they are more than likely to do other things.

About the blocking thing, if they are smart and know that you are pissed at them then u shouldnt have to block them they would have called you in the first place and SAID to you "im sorry.. etc.." Can I ask what is it that you want from this though?

[Antenna_Boy]

I am just looking for a general consensus on the rule of thumb is for handling sell out cases. Usually this does not happen to me...but when it does and there is no reasonable explanation from the other person who commits the sell out, what do you do!?

I normally do make up a contingency plan...but when you have not made one, it really does blow the big 12 incher when someone sells out and getting pissed off is one emotion which results lol...sorry, I just had to laugh that one off :(

[cutienikki]

Well if my "friends" sell me out. I give them a time limit if say after 30 mins they dont phone or whatever I will call them if they say that we are still on ill give them another 30 mins. if after that they don't call ill call them back and say don't worry about it. However within that time frame I think of things to do, be prepared to be sold out.

If they dont pick up their phone and just sell me out. The next time they ask me to come out, i tell them no and the reason why. Depending on the person and the reason if its a good one then ill give them another chance but be very causious....

I duno that's what i would do....I always have a "backup" plan ;)