Attention all Bridesmaids

LLaaUUrrYYn · #1 (**permalink**) Jan 10, 07

My sister has recently gotten engaged and asked me to be a bridesmaid. (and where a fuschia dress btw............)

As this is my first time being a Bridesmaid..and having been to few weddings..I was looking for a little bit of advice.

Her good friend is the maid of honour..and seems to be taking charge in any and everything..I am really not sure of my responsibilities?

http://www.bridesmaidaid.com has a lot of information but im not sure how relative it is?

I feel because I am her sister I should be planning the shower/stag/etc.. Helping her pick out her dress/invitations/flowers/etc..but am feeling a bit left out since her friend is married and going full force with everything.

I know I need to be as helpful and supportive as I can..

Any advice?

Thanks ladies (And gents if applicable =x )

PwInCeSs · #2 (**permalink**) Jan 10, 07

I have been a maid of honor twice and a bridesmaid once, and looks like ill be a matron of honor next year, just found that out tonight!
As for responsibilities, I wouldnt ask us what they are, Ask your sister.
Every bride is different, some have an exact schedual and things they want you to do, others (like me) Dont have anything certain.
I single handadly with my mom planned my whole wedding, with Tidbits from my Maid of Honor when she could (she was a flight attendent so busy busy!)
The best advice is on the day Try and not let any mishaps reach her ears, take care of any problems befor she hears about it, listen to her and her wants, and get her to have a drink befor it starts!
Traditionally the MOH plans the staggette and shower and all that junk.
Talk to your sis, she will be the best help :)

BongMan · #3 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

keep her properly liquored and make sure to crazy glue her shoes to the alter

Atleast that is how it goes on the guys side of things..

neoh · #4 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

Which sister? Tamara?

LLaaUUrrYYn · #5 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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Which sister? Tamara?

Yea Tamara.

Thanks for the advise Sam!!!

obscure · #6 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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obscure · #7 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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Carrie · #8 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

my best is getting married in 2008, I'm supposed to be a bridesmaid, but the wedding is in the dominican, so I don't know how much I can do .

PwInCeSs · #9 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

no probelmo!
And remember have fun!
And see if you can help pick the dress you get to wear :P
You will want to be in something flattering atleast, and comfortable!
I loved what my MOH and BM wore, they said they did to....

Although one of the times where i was maid of honor my friend had picked everyones dresses they were like big poofy prom dresses in bright pink and glittery, the BMS were ina lighter pink, soooo freaking uncomfortable.
The other 2 times went well!

BongMan · #10 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

Still saying thank god I'm a guy and all we need to worry about is booze rings and a paragraph.

obscure · #11 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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BongMan · #12 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

I was speaking more from the grooms perspective and if the groom is shaggin anyone but the bride then this wedding has a problem.

PwInCeSs · #13 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

haha yea the guys dont have much, Except the stress of a bride!

BongMan · #14 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

Thats why we have titty bars and big screen TV's better to tune you out with..

PwInCeSs · #15 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

hahahahaha
alas nathan is not like that

Ashley*Dawn · #16 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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Originally Posted by PwInCeSs

no probelmo!
And remember have fun!
And see if you can help pick the dress you get to wear :P
You will want to be in something flattering atleast, and comfortable!
I loved what my MOH and BM wore, they said they did to....

Although one of the times where i was maid of honor my friend had picked everyones dresses they were like big poofy prom dresses in bright pink and glittery, the BMS were ina lighter pink, soooo freaking uncomfortable.
The other 2 times went well!

You really had to post the ear to ear smile?
I was so nervous!

I'd give you advice if I could sweetie but I've been a bridesmaid once and I was a last min pick up lol
Just make sure the wedding day she's happy and she's calm.
Per wedding jager bombs work very well too!

LLaaUUrrYYn · #17 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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You really had to post the ear to ear smile?
I was so nervous!

I'd give you advice if I could sweetie but I've been a bridesmaid once and I was a last min pick up lol
Just make sure the wedding day she's happy and she's calm.
Per wedding jager bombs work very well too!

There will definitely be some pre-wedding shots.

I just kind of feel left out of the 'important stuff' Im her sister and know her better then her Maid of Honour. I guess I'll just go with the flow!

As far as the dresses go...really I will NEVER wear a fuschia dress ever again..and I can totally see her picking out horribly unflattering dresses and thinkings its funny. Shes cruel!

PwInCeSs · #18 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

haha
Yea well express your interest in being involved! Im sure she will love the help :)
Eeek id nevev have put my bridesmaids in something unflattering and wierd.
Try and see if she will let you help.
I recomend www.davidsbridal.com for ideas, for her dress and Bridesmaids, the prices are so much better, its only in the states but so worth the trip!

PwInCeSs · #19 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesma...id=5148&cfid=8
I love that dress and was highly considering it
or this one
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesma...id=7991&cfid=8

But then i saw the other ones locally.

I also recomend when she wants to look for BM dresses to look everywhere i got mine at Le Chateau and my friend got hers at Bryans or something like that!

BongMan · #20 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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hahahahaha
alas nathan is not like that

He must be shown the way, big screen tv, sports and me...

obscure · #21 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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PwInCeSs · #22 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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which means she's got his nuts in a vice so tight he doesn't dare sneeze without permission.

funny
our relationship is not like that, im a housewife and he works, sorry to burst your bubble but he has his own life i have mine then we have our life together.
Couldnt it be he is more committed to his daughter the a stripper?

obscure · #23 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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PwInCeSs · #24 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

No i was saying maybe thats what he rathered.

I told him to go see strippers for his stag, he went to the Cambie Pub instead
to each there own

brokencrayon · #25 (**permalink**) Jan 11, 07

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funny
our relationship is not like that, im a housewife and he works, sorry to burst your bubble but he has his own life i have mine then we have our life together.
Couldnt it be he is more committed to his daughter the a stripper?

hehe didn't you even give him the choice to see strippers on the bachelor party if he wanted but he chose a bar without them anyways. Nathan's such a sweetheart :)