Girls are sooo fucked

[carmEl]

why cant chicks dig the nice guys.. the guys that are totally into them and treat them like gold.. but instead we always go for the "bad ass" or "the assholes"... ugg i dont understand..

[bl0nde]

i tried going for "the nice guy" this is what happened...
so we go to a movie one night (not as a date or anything) he insists he pays and i say no.. so he pays anyways and he pays for food! grrr i hate that. but anyways the next day he asks me to go get something to eat or whatever.. so we go get timmy hoes i said i didnt really want anything and he buys me something.. so whatever we hang out at his house just watching tv... then the next day Everyone is telling me that i am going out with this guy? wtf
he was totally thinking we were bf and gf.. thennnn he wouldnt stop calling me and bugging me and on msn he wouldnt shut up about making out with me.. and ugh i dono.. so i just started to ignore him cuz its annoying when guys are overly nice! so he fuked off for a while.. now he is trying to flirt with me again! grrr

[Gusto]

Originally Posted by bl0nde

i tried going for "the nice guy" this is what happened...
so we go to a movie one night (not as a date or anything) he insists he pays and i say no.. so he pays anyways and he pays for food! grrr i hate that. but anyways the next day he asks me to go get something to eat or whatever.. so we go get timmy hoes i said i didnt really want anything and he buys me something.. so whatever we hang out at his house just watching tv... then the next day Everyone is telling me that i am going out with this guy? wtf
he was totally thinking we were bf and gf.. thennnn he wouldnt stop calling me and bugging me and on msn he wouldnt shut up about making out with me.. and ugh i dono.. so i just started to ignore him cuz its annoying when guys are overly nice! so he fuked off for a while.. now he is trying to flirt with me again! grrr

this guy doesn't sound like a nice guy at all. he just sounds controlling and annoying.

[trance4life]

^^^ agree sounds crazy, not nice because he didn't respect your wishes

[-ff-]

The reason girls don't want the 'nice guy' is the same reason guys dont like girls who seem really interested.

Most guys and girls succumb to the classic 'want what you can't have, and ignore what you can have' syndrom.

Think Archie with betty and veronica. Betty was a total babe who would do anything for our man archie - but he was always chasing that vindictive bitch veronica - why? because she was hard to get.

Nice guy = unexciting and no challenge.

That doesn't mean be an asshole, but it does mean stop being so eager and easy to walk all over.

[Grapes]

why cant chicks dig the nice guys.. the guys that are totally into them and treat them like gold.. but instead we always go for the "bad ass" or "the assholes"... ugg i dont understand..

Blah. Every message forum needs to just have the answer to this question stored somewhere appropriate, so every clueless naif that gets all frustrated can be linked directly to what everyone else has already figured out ages ago.

First of all, some of the guys who act that way are hot enough that they know from experience they can get away with it. Some girls are the same way. These people aren't the most impressive human beings on the planet, but you can't argue with the fact they get away with their asshole-ishness more often than not, because people are suckers.

Secondly, most girls don't want an "asshole" necessarily, but they also don't want a guy who will flop all over the place to please them. You have to be your own person first and foremost. Then when you find someone worth sharing that person with, he's a real and engaging individual, and not some wet dishrag.

My brother once put it in an interesting perspective... he said "You have to make it seem like you're paying attention to her because you've decided she's cool and interesting enough to be worth your time".

Sounds a little bit conceited? Well, there you go.

Now let's never speak of this again.

[Grapes]

Just read FF's post. I think if you combine both of our responses, you have enough info that THAT QUESTION NEVER COMES UP AGAIN.

Thank you.

[Jrock]

Find that impossible middle. It IS out there.. but very rare.

Good Luck!

-jay :209:

[Ms.Chop]

aww joy.. ur such a nice girl <3

and very pretty too.

wut the hell.. u can get a good guy.. jus, their hard to find..

stop looking and he'll come to u. :)

[tahiti__treat]

i do like nice guys but i dont like when they throw themselves at me ... i would never go out with a "bad ass" jus not my style

[brokencrayon]

Originally Posted by tahiti__treat

i do like nice guys but i dont like when they throw themselves at me ... i would never go out with a "bad ass" jus not my style

agreed. I am the same way.

[Digitz-]

Aite, well here's wat I gotta say on this topic:

I think that these "nice guys" are the type of guys who put on an act in front of gurls just to try and please them - or vice versa. In other words, faking who you truly are just to try and impress the gurl you wanna be with like sucking up to their interests all the time. :338: This more likely drives them crayzee, does it not? :284: In my honest opinion, keeping a relationship by hiding who you really are will not last. I mean how long can you actually keep up this fake identity if ur not being urself? If a gurl likes you for who you are, or if a guy likes you for who you are, that's when you know there's a connection. :229: Not saying that being like these "Bad boys" :mrt: is the way to be, I mean everyone also has different taste in wat type of ppl they wanna be with,,, one thing for sure is that being a suck up is not the way to be.:n:

...hope that helps out a bit. :264: Peace :264:

[Bevvy Swift]

someday, you will learn that girls are fucked. they say they like being treated well, but i find that the girls you dislike the most are the ones who keep crawlimng back for more.
girls dont make any sense. get used to it.

[miss.myra]

Nice guys are usually smothering and total doormats

and I don't like either of those things.

[~Sc@ndelu$~]

Originally Posted by -ff-

The reason girls don't want the 'nice guy' is the same reason guys dont like girls who seem really interested.

Most guys and girls succumb to the classic 'want what you can't have, and ignore what you can have' syndrom.


Nice guy = unexciting and no challenge.

that all makes total sense, it sucks :( been there done that!

[heatherness]

agreed. theres a difference between a nice guy ..and a guy that is totally throwing themselves at you... those are the kind to stay away from. they annoy the hell outta me.

[sungoo]

I think people get "nice" and "pathetic" mixed up...
a lot of the times, "nice" guys are so pathetic, they let women walk all over them. They have no back bone and so the women get bored and leave. There is a big difference between being nice and being pathetic.

Also, I've noticed a lot of guys may be assholes to other people but when it comes to their women, They're truly gentlemen. Of course, this doesn't apply to all men, but it does apply to a fair amount of them.

[PwInCeSs]

i think my bf is what is considered the "nice guy" and hes great!
its a change from the past bfs..
but a good one :)

[Bitchin]

nice guys always break your heart the most.

*sigh*

[Veni*C]

guys are just as fucked up...

why cant they see when they have a good thing right in front of them...

stupid fucking assholes. dont waste my time.

[stringbeans]

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[dapimpstress]

Originally Posted by miss.myra

Nice guys are usually smothering and total doormats

and I don't like either of those things.

werd to that... usually, however, i found myself a very nice guy, and he's also jus the shit in everyway...

there is no certain "type" of guy that every girl will like. period. thats pretty much all that can be said. some girls like nice guys, so find them.