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Apr 24, 02
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I need help from the Girlz
I don't really post much, but I'm in a little pickle so I thought I would post about it.
See I was in a serious realtionship, for quite sometime and it finally ended 5 months ago. I was hurt real bad and to be honest I'm really quite scared of getting hurt again. Latley I have just been living day by day not expecting anything, and out of the blue I met the most amazing guy. I think he's great. I feel I can open up to him and tell him almost anything. I haven't felt this way in a long time. The thing is I'm really scared of getting hurt again so things haven't had a chance to get serious. I told him that I'm scared, but I don't think he accepts it, he gets upset when things aren't happening as he hopes. I want to be with him, I'm just scared and confused.. I dunno what to do............... I think I might loose something good if I don't jump on it quick, and I don't want that to happen, but at the same time I'm just scared of getting hurt. :375: :375: :375: :375: :375: :375: 
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Apr 24, 02
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i'm not a girl, but i play one in real life.
my advice is: being scared of getting hurt is just another fear. like heights, you have to overcome it by doing (or finding a really sexy psychiatrist). obviously we live in a not-so-perfect world, and 98% of people out there don't really care about much more than themselves, so people are bound to get hurt by one anothers' carelessness. and the chances of a relationship lasting without an ounce of pain is next to impossible, not to mention boring. getting hurt is half the fun, at least you have a problem to think about and try and solve. that's the best part of life. experiencing it. you're right, you will lose something good if you don't jump on it quick. as i've always been taught, "he who hesitates, waits". live for the moment, be paranoid all you want (paranoia keeps us alive), but don't let it stop you from reaching your desires. go out with the guy, and don't fret about what's going to happen in the end. cuz that'll just create tension and you'll end up ruining everything. and if it comes down to the point where u think he's going to hurt you, strike first and run like hell.
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Apr 24, 02
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aww i know how it is. after that kinda thing or alot of things, it's hard to trust, and you just don't wanna get hurt.. but really, if you don't take risks your just hurting yourself..
it's better to know, then to be left wondering for the rest of your life just what if y'know? so i'd say take the chance.. i mean if he's the great guy you say he is, then it should be worth it.. you may get hurt, you may not.. but you'll never know until you try. i know it can be hard but just do it, i mean who knows it may turn into something really good and you'd miss that chance if you let what your old relationship did to you hold you back y'know? it'll be hard, but if you think it's worth it.. pull yourself together and take the risk.. i did it.. and it was totally worth it.. =) good luck with it all!
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Apr 25, 02
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You know, you said yourself that you've been living day by day. So keep doing that. Focus on right now. You obviously like this lucky dude, and want to be with him, so just do it. Don't worry about what might happen in the future, thats just way to far away.
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May 12, 02
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If you fear getting hurt, it will only be a matter of time before you pick at him for flaws till you find one worth giving him up on. This great guy image that you think he is holding up will only hold up for so long before you realize he is just like every other prick that fucked and chucked you or whatever.
Get yourself a vibrator, years supply of batteries and stay away from penises. Companionship and all that is way overrated.
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May 14, 02
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If he really was amazing don't you think he should understand the situation you are in? Shouldnt he accept that you need time...that you want to be with him but need to take things slowly?
I say go out with him...but emphasize that you dont want to get serious too fast...
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May 14, 02
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take your time.. dont rush yourself to keep him from being upset.
youll just hurt yourself more. if hes such a great guy and cares for you, he'll wait... if not youll find someone better whos worth it. :)
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May 14, 02
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Being hurt is not something you want to experience. However, after a period of time you a have to move on. No risk, no reward. Just take your time, don't rush anything and you'll be fine.
My question is, what do u do with a girl that is scared to jump into a relationship. She's never really had one before. As the guy, what should I do?
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