Taking his last name

[galaxie]

Well, what's your take on this?

It's a discussion that's come up with me and some friends quite a few times lately, and I'm curious to know what everyone thinks.

[Liqwid]

both...

i don't care if it first or second....

just both...

[Carrie]

she should do what she wants, but I would take his name.

[project.one]

Do as you wish.

If your like an only child and there is no one else to carry your name or something like that, then keep yours.

But otherwise, Id vote to take his.

[Séguin]

I also agree. Its the lady's choice.

[Guineveire]

I know I'd want to take my husbands name if I ever get married

[stabmyhead]

I would personally keep my own last name if I were to get married. It's up to both parties what they want to do, people souldn't just do something just because it's "tradition" though.

[Ree Fresh]

Ill only take his if he can top Wellbelove. Im also very eager to do what ever I can to hold my name as the youngest and last that I know of.

Although it's tradition and a great way to track your family history, Im not owned or sacrificing a huge part of me. I would most likely like to join both last names and leave it up to my children to deside what name they would keep when their adults.

[t-skywalker]

im a firm beleiver to take the mans name. but if it sounds terrible with the womans first and mid name then id have to say the she should keep hers. so id say all of them could come into play depends on the situation=)

[project.one]

Originally Posted by t-skywalker

...id say all of them could come into play depends on the situation

agreed!

qft

[LLaaUUrrYYn]

I believe that is the womans decision. I dont really mind taking his name because what happens when you have kids? Whos last name goes on the birth certificate as his primary last name?

I think its just easier to take his.

[*SunShyne*]

It really depends on what works for the both of you. Changing your name is huge. So if this is the way you want to do it, I say go for it... but it really depends on the couple

[Mista Fitz]

I've got quite an uncommon last name, and would like to keep it... however, my partner seems quite adamant in keeping hers (in the top 50 of most common names) aaaand it's already hyphenated into two.. so can you imagine three? forgettaboutit...

To answer the question straight though, I think she should take his name... but honestly in today's day and age, it will be a mutual choice.

[Ashley*Dawn]

I'll take his last name, but I'd use the hyphen.

[mojo]

I would be fine with the hyphen.

[Mista Fitz]

What if there's already a hyphen.. would you triple-hyphen?.. What about if you're both already hyphenated? Quad-hyphen?

In this world of equality, we may all end up with very, very hyphenated names.

[mojo]

you can always pick a different name for the 2 of you....like dumptruck, or something else you have in your hearts. that way there is no hyphen worries.

[cutienikki]

depending on the name I would hyphenate mine but otherwise I would prob take his.

[LLaaUUrrYYn]

I've just decided that it actually depends on the name..

I know a girl whos name is now "Shaleeni Shaleen"

I am totally going to marry a Smith.

[PwInCeSs]

I think a women should do what she wants. I dont think its a good idea to take a mans lastname if you feel you have to. Do whats makes you happy, or go with the Hyphen.
I took Nathans lastname, as I liked it, and it didnt sound terrible, and I wanted to do it.

[Mista Fitz]

Originally Posted by PwInCeSs

I think a women should do what she wants.

What a refreshing point of view.

[Carrie]

My last name is 10 letters long, if my husbands is shorter.. I'm totally taking it.
haha

[miss belle]

I kept my own last name. It's quite rare and I like it. Roughly translated, it means "place by the willows". My husband's last name is so common, so I'd rather stick with something that's a little more unique.

[Roxxie]

ill just do wat my mom did... keep her name but incorporate my dads last name into hers and give her children both last names as well.......which is why i got a crazy long name lol