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Jun 03, 02
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how would you handle this?
here's a good question for you guys and gals:
what if you liked someone a lot and you cared a lot for the person but you knew you could have them? how would you handle this? or try this one. what would you do if this crossed your mind.. giving up something you love VERY MUCH so that something else could work out better? not that there is a problem or anything.. but i was just wondering... and it was something to do to see what you guys would do in a situation like this! Cinto, markin his territory now! :Kam: 
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Jun 04, 02
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if it was something like drugs, drinking or smoking i would quit.
if it was something like posting on rave message boards i would not quit.
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Jun 04, 02
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and i think that next time you need to be a little more specific becasue that post really made no sence.....
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Jun 04, 02
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all i'd do in those situations is remember; it's all good...
do the first thing that crosses my mind (which is usually FUCK FUCK FUCK) and no regrets, don't look back until you're out of breathe... froggy when are we going to babylonia?
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Jun 04, 02
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If I knew I was no good for the other person, I wouldn't want them to "suffer" being with me, and maybe break up with them. At the same time, you must realize that relationships aren't a one person thing (MOST THE TIME), and the other person has an opinion as well, so they might not want to break up with you and see you as some wonderful god.
Then again, I really know shit all about relationships. I say if someone sees you as horrible as you see yourself and still want to be with you, just hold on to them as long as you can, cuz not a lot of people will put up with your shit (not yours in particular, people in general)
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Jun 04, 02
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i gave up smoking for ryan... but that wasnt something i really loved... so..... ???????
and if i really liked someone and couldnt have them, i'd let them know to get off my chest and then i guess just deal with it... it would fuckin hurt like hell, but c'est la vie!
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Jun 05, 02
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For the first question, if you know you can't have the person you like as a significant other. Why not try to keep the friendship in tact? I believe that it's a lot better to have a friendship than nothing at all. Especially because when you are young, relationships don't always last for too long. So having that person in your life as a friend (and most likely in your life much longer) would be the best bet. Who knows, maybe through the friendship, something more will develop. That happens a lot to people.
Now giving up something you love to allow for something else to happen....I don't know about that. That all depends on what it is that you are giving up. I personally wouldn't give up my gym membership for my boyfriend. If it is something you're doing and it benefits your life, it is probably not worth giving up for someone. It's all within reason! Sometimes, things feel right at the time, but you are thinking with something other than your brain at that moment. When you chose to give up something you love for someone, you may look back and regret it! Just be careful! Good luck! TTYS! :)
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Jun 05, 02
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I have a question for those of you that quit drugs, smoking, porn, etc. for your loved ones. Sure it's cute and nice that you quit something for the other person, but shouldn't they love you for who you are and not try to change you? Did they make you quit, or did you do it willingly?
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Jun 05, 02
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Stabby- Good point! No one should make someone quit anything. Especially if it is drugs...(I quit for my own reasons)...you can't quit for anyone or anything but your own reasons. You have to want to quit! I guess this applies to anything though. You should want to quit something for your own reasons, not for someone!
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Jun 06, 02
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Yes but if you quit because someone told you/made you quit, then what happens when they break up? Will you resort back to drugs? Or will you keep sober?
And if you don't break up and accidently DO end up doing the drug, do you not think your partner will be very angry with you because they'll think you lied to them and betrayed their trust? Too often times people make the mistake in thinking they will be motivated enough by the "love" of the other person to quit... But what happens when the feelings fade? Always quit cuz it's your own choice. You'll only be breaking your own promise to yourself if you do fuck up, which imo, is better than hurting someone else. BTW, drugs can be substitute for drinking, porn, making out with other people, or any bad habit. PS: GIRLS: You can't change a man, I repeat, YOU CANNOT CHANGE A MAN. oh and vice versa for guys, unless you tell her you love her, then you own her soul for the rest of the relationship... er yeah.
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Jun 06, 02
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How about when someone falls for you and sees you as something much more than you ever imagined yourself to be and you feel like you are unable to live up to this pedestal that they have given you?
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Jun 10, 02
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Jun 11, 02
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stabmyhead, then you are lucky to find some one that believes in you so much,
what if it's the other way around, you finally found a guy that respects you for all that you are, and does't make you feel like you're anything less.... i know i sound like a hypocrite but you have every right to appreciate yourself more... ;) leslie is a lucky one.
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Jun 11, 02
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Re: how would you handle this?
I have a bit of an advantage here dude cause I think I know what you are talking about based on convo's we have had.
I assume in your first question you meant: "What if you liked somone a lot and you cared a lot for that person but you knew you couldn't (rather than could) have them?" -- MOVE ON. Dude you know I speak from recent experience in this area. The bottom line is that for whatever reason if you can't have them then move on to someone who is receptive to what you have to offer. Your second question: "Giving up something you love VERY MUCH so that something else could work out better?" -- If you love anything as much as you say you do, then you never stop loving it... it will always be a part of you. In the case of relationships, if you love anything that much and knew it just wasn't possible for it to work, then it is for that reason you should move on to that other "something" that could work out better. Real love is all about risks... Here is a quote I live my lify by. This was taken from the KICK ASS movie Meet Joe Black: Anthony Hopkins is saying this to his daughter: "I know it's a cornball thing but love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? I say fall head over heels. Find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. <pause> Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love -- well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived. Werd! Quote:
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