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May 10, 07
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Stuck in the middle and so unhappy..sorry my story is long btw!
Erm, firstly, i must admit i hv never posted anything on a forum before, not sure if anyone will answer or whatever; but i read a topic posted by a girl also with some form of relationship problem and i thought ppl gave her some real helpful and encouraging advice! I would be so greatful if u guys can help me out too?!
I hv been in a pretty serious relationship with a guy for about a year and 4 months now. It has been a distant relationship, however he travels 4 hours to see me about twice a month, and stays for a couple of days! The main problem right now isnt the distant, it is the relationship between him and my dad. They have met before, several times. they kind of started off the traditional way of "invite him back for dinner" type! and they have always been quite polite with each other; with my parents asking what he does, his future and etc. recently, my dad (who has always mentioned this) says that he feel my bf isn't being very honest. for e.g. when he asks him questions, he would answer but not give very full and detailed answers. I understand that he has every right to suspect as he just wants to get to know what type of guy his daughter is dating..however, its becoming abit like the film "meet the fockers"--> where my dad starts going about it as if its some detective investigation! I too hv noticed that sometimes, he may not answer everything like he was trying to get a first in a assignment; however, i guess thats js a fault in the way he communicates; therefore creating certain misunderstandings! my boyfriend says he will try his best to change the way (for the better)he communicates with my parents, however he said he also feels that he is being treated like some convict, getting interviewd by the police..i do feel for him! i know it is possible for me to talk to my parents and highlight his good points; however, i jus KNOW that they (my dad) will js say somthing along the lines of "what do you know?!! when a guy is trying to chase a girl, of course he will show his very best side, say all the things u want to hear!!!" I js dont know what to do?!:cry: I feel so grateful for everyone who is willing to give me some advice! 
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May 10, 07
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Consider the possibility that he has not totally opened up to you and your family yet. I know when I personally don't fully trust someone and they ask me things about myself I give vague, short responses mostly as not to give too much of myself away to someone I don't trust or have little interest in putting my trust into. But that doesn't mean hiding anything or lying. More like a (metaphorical) wall that's been put up.
ps - how long have you been dating for?
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May 10, 07
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^ ^ Hi Leah! :p Bored at work ??
I thought maybe your dad had good instincts! jkjk Well if it makes you feel any better my dad didn’t like my ex-bf. I think it has something to do with dealing with your daughter growing up and him maybe losing a bit of control over you. Or maybe he can see through your bf and knows he is up to no good. How’s that for some vague advice! Jk
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May 10, 07
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Jenna.... = <3!!!!!
we need to get together soon I TOTALLY miss you hun.
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May 11, 07
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dads know best. dump the loser
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