aaah i need answers!!!!

[cLinK]

okay... so i am having some boy troubles...

so i met this guy and i thought that he ws really cute and we started talking. Things progresed from there, and we hung out, got together... all that stuff. So everything was going fine, i wasn't sure if i wanted a relationship, it seemed cool, we were just having fun.

Then i find out that one of my friends liked him too... but she doesn't know about me and him. So, she tells me what's going on, how they got together... blah blah.

So i decided to confron the guy about this, just to tell him i know. I don't really have a right to be mad, cuz we never formally stated there was anything going on between us.

Then, he decided he needed to make a choice, me or her. He's been "making this choice" for a week now, and i'm starting to get a little pissed off.

Now, i like him, so i don't want to say "just fuck it", you know? I just want to know what is going on, what he is thinking. If it's me, then , cool, if it's her, then that's cool too, and if it's neither, then that's cool too. i just want to know.
cuz right now he's hurting two people... one aware of being hurt, and then other is being hurt and she doesn't even know it yet... and i know he doesn't like hurting people.

i've been trying really hard to be understanding, and stuff and not pushy, not pressuring him to make this descision... cuz i know how it is. But it's just starting to get old and i don't really know what to do at this point. I think i have done as much as i can.

i just need to know what' s going on, regardless of if it's gonna hurt me.

is that too much to ask???

luv cLinK
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[Erica]

No, that's definitely not too much to ask at all. The boy has to make up his mind, and you have every right to expect that from him soon. *hugglez* I've been in that exact situation before, and it's not easy. The guy took SO damn long, even after me telling him how it hurted me so badly. So yeah...maybe tell him that it's hurting you to wait any longer, and that you want him to choose ASAP. If he doesn't and keeps on dragging it on, then ditch him. That'll mean that he doesn't respect your feelings. *shrugs* Best of luck hun!!

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[Cowboy]

hmm...ur right...u don't deserve any of that...not someone as good hearted as urself...if u wanna do what's best for YOU..then i think the choice is clear..he obviously doesn't know what he wants...if that was me id tell him to hit the road..that's probably not what u want to hear but im telling u little lady..he's probably not worth the hassle..=(...if he felt the same way about u he would already have made the decision...but he probably jus got in too deep in something that turned against him...do u know if he has any feelings for u or what...doesn't sound like he's said he has...and if i was this guy id be gettin my sorry ass outta the whole situation with both of them cuz it's jus gonna blow up in his face....

corrie

[cLinK]

see, i like this guy but i'm just not down for being fucked around.

and if he didn't have feelings for me... then i am going to be mighty pissed off because if that's the case... he deserves some serious ass kicking... because THATS NOT FUCKING FAIR

but whatever... life isn't fair... hmmm... maybe i should tell the other girl what's going on... no... that's not nice... i'd rather just see her happy....

i'm not about to make the situation blow up in anybody's face... but i am just choked

so i guess this is goodbye

luv cLinK
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[*addy*]

Cause I'm going through the same thing! Both me and the guy have been pretty open about our feelings though. We've been hanging out a lot the past week or two. My situation is worst because he actually has a girlfriend, not just someone he sort of likes. (he's in the picking stage as well... i feel like such a homewrecker) Have you talked to him? Told him exactly how you felt? Told him how you need answers... now? Sometimes me and him have talked about it, but then I get to nervous and i make the mistake of not taking that opportunity to ask the simple question of WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON? I know it's akward, but it must be done!
Well, what I've heard a lot of is "good things take time" ra ra ra... but i mean... how much time you know? We girls can't wait around forever! Hanging around him is great, but hard to, because even though your with him... your not WITH him. (if that makes any sense)
So I say, try talking to him about it a bit. If that doesn't work, then just keep hanging around him, as a friend. If he wants to take it to the "next level" he'll have to instigate it. Because you've tried right? That way, whether he picks you, or the other girl, or neither, you still have a friendship going.
sorry so long!
GOOD LUCK!

[stabmyhead]

tell the other girl, the happiness she is living is not real, she might hate you for being the one that tells her... but she needs to know.

dump his ass. hes playing 2 girls at the same time. no sympathy for him. boi that plays with girls hearts go to very bad place. or was it gets kicked in a very bad place.??

hmm...

[Cowboy]

i didn't see her say that he was playin with any hearts...clink mentioned that they were just having fun...hmm..it would probably be a good idea for this guy to jus not pick any of the girls since clink seems to be gettin peeved i fear for the guys safety...and smh..how do u know he's playing two girls..it's not like clink and this guy are going out...or are u clink...i dunno...

corrie

[sipa]

eek thats such a sucky situation
i been there before and it really licks
on the one hand, u deserve to know whats up cause its messing with your emotions and that's not cool and not really fair.
but on the other hand, if u try and rush him, he might make the wrong decision. if he's the kind of guy that really doesn't like to be pushed (or nagged depending on how pushy it gets and stuff) then he probably won't choose u if u do push him
but then what do u do rite? u either wait around in hopes that he'll choose u, or u push him and risk possibly pushing him away from u.

i made the mistake of pushing that someone away from me. i should have had more patience because we both seemed to realise that it was the wrong decision. but by that time it was much too late.

i hope u have better luck than me!
*muah!*

take care!