What's the worst thing about relationships?

hard_curls · #1 (**permalink**) Jun 25, 01

post all your relationship/love/guys/girls bashing here:

example:

love is evil because it makes you blind

Tiësto*s_Girl · #2 (**permalink**) Jun 28, 01

I think relationships keep you tied down... you feel bad doing certain things because you're scared of your partner disapproving..

LoKi · #3 (**permalink**) Jun 28, 01

relationships are bad because usually when there over you get feel shoddy....and then even if the relationship isn't over you get paranoid about when it will end (because it will eventually) and then how it will and then how you will have to deal without the other person if you really love them or what not....and then if you do really love them it makes it harder to get rid of them if you need to...

BLiNK · #4 (**permalink**) Jun 29, 01

Well.....with me being a pretty positive person, i look at it like this...Re;lationships are a lesson....Although you will fall in love, break up, and be heart broken over and over again; It's worth it. I think that every person you are in a relationship with will teach you something new, as you will teach them something. it's all really just practice for your soul mate......Everything happens for a reason;
All hardship is worth going through, because things will eventually work out in your benifit, No matter who you are.

Damn, my nickname shouldnt be blink! It should be chinese food! heehee; I sound like a god damn fortune cookie!
ha!.........But i do believe every word I just said.

LoKi · #5 (**permalink**) Jun 29, 01

That response was way too sensible for me....*j/k*

**MC Hammered** · #6 (**permalink**) Jun 29, 01

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Originally posted by Tiësto*s_Girl

I think relationships keep you tied down... you feel bad doing certain things because you're scared of your partner disapproving..

If this is case then what type of relationship do you really have?

A relationship is a compromise. Both have you have to give a little in order to make it work. If you have to hold back things from your partner whom you are supposed to trust, something is wrong.

How do I know? I broke up with my fiancee of 4 years because of this very reason.

How can you spend the rest of your life with someone if you afraid to tell them something? If you hold that back, what else might you do in the future?

Tiësto*s_Girl · #7 (**permalink**) Jun 29, 01

Quote:

Originally posted by MC Hammered

If this is case then what type of relationship do you really have?

A relationship is a compromise. Both have you have to give a little in order to make it work. If you have to hold back things from your partner whom you are supposed to trust, something is wrong.

How do I know? I broke up with my fiancee of 4 years because of this very reason.

How can you spend the rest of your life with someone if you afraid to tell them something? If you hold that back, what else might you do in the future?

I don't have a relationship

**MC Hammered** · #8 (**permalink**) Jun 29, 01

Tiësto*s_Girl.

I was kind of speaking generally there. Didn't mean to single you out or anything.

**kiMMie** · #9 (**permalink**) Jun 30, 01

Quote:

Originally posted by MC Hammered
A relationship is a compromise. Both have you have to give a little in order to make it work. If you have to hold back things from your partner whom you are supposed to trust, something is wrong.

I totally agree with you Winston...Trust is an important issue in any relationship...Without trust, there might as well not be a relationship, right?

Quote:

How can you spend the rest of your life with someone if you afraid to tell them something? If you hold that back, what else might you do in the future?

I've gone thru this myself...Trying to spend the rest of your life with a person who you can't communicate with honestly and openly will be one of the hardest things to live through...If you love someone...truly love someone, you should never be scared to tell them anything, nor keep things from them...

*addy* · #10 (**permalink**) Jul 01, 01

Worst thing about a relationship?

I'd have to say... not being in one...

but hey... who's bitter???

stabmyhead · #11 (**permalink**) Jul 01, 01

breaking up when you still really care about them.. and knowing that maybe if... if only.. you had.. the regret.. the fact that you care about them so much.. that you feel for them.. that.. ha.. and then you remember that it could never work.. yes there is such thing as never.. disney lied to you.

you can love someone and know that.. it just wont work out.. i think accepting the fact is the hardest part...excuse me while i go drink myself into oblivion.

stabby.

**kiMMie** · #12 (**permalink**) Jul 01, 01

How about telling someone you don't *love* them anymore? That's a tough one to deal with, especially when the other person still is deeply in love with you...

That sux... :184:

BB_YungYung · #13 (**permalink**) Jul 02, 01

1) You stop liking them and it's hard to tell them that.

2) you are getting bored of them but can't tell them

3) You like them a lot and they are getting bored of you

4) Catch your bf/gf that you love so dear.. cheating on you

5) Finding out everything was a lie

6) Taking/ telling the fact that .. it was only a fling.

7) after months of dating... you find out your other half has no personality

8) when You Walk away crying

9) You just don't know what to do anymore

10) You break up with the other half.. and you have no emotions.. and they are crying.

ehh.. I hate # 10.. I've made some guys cry.. but some deserved to!

**MC Hammered** · #14 (**permalink**) Jul 02, 01

The worst part of a relationship is the end.

stabmyhead · #15 (**permalink**) Jul 02, 01

its sad when you break up... and you both start crying.. and you can see the other person crying.. and you try harder not to cry but it just makes it all the more painful when you do actually cry... then again. if they deserved it like bb said. IT IS THE BEST PART OF THE RELATIONSHIP. aka. you hated them and it was like revenge. muhahaha.

i like the chasing bit of relationships.. when you're both too shy/stupid/stubborn to admit that you like each other but its so obvious.. that friends, parents and others can point it out... :003:

Peach_Eater · #16 (**permalink**) Jul 02, 01

hmmm...looks like some people have relationship probs in here...well I just checked this site out called www.askmen.com...very informative!! Kind of targeted towards men...but the ladies can get get a lot out of it to!...happy readings everyone!!!

starburst · #17 (**permalink**) Jul 15, 01

1) when you both know it's coming to an end, and theres nothing you can do about it.... <=*o (

2)when you find out the first person you've ever loved is a pathilogical liar...(seriously...i'm not joking)....that one hurt...

3) when you get cheated on with a little grade 9 ho-bag

4)umm there are many others....but i'm too tired to think of any right now....goodnite*

tru_azn_69 · #18 (**permalink**) Jul 17, 01

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T U F F Y · #19 (**permalink**) Jul 17, 01

*When you realized from the very beginning of this relationship both parties didn't even bother to try to put trust in each others.

*When you noticed it was only YOU that willing to alter your lifestyle and habits for him/her all along.

*Betrayal - When you know you worth nothing to him/her at the end.

-Outz

**MC Hammered** · #20 (**permalink**) Jul 17, 01

The worst part is when s/he takes your last cookie and pretends s/he never ate it.

galaxie · #21 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 01

I think for me, the worst part of being in a relationship is that I always feel neglected, unwanted and uncared for. I'm too needy in relationships and I'm a total romantic, so I always go out of my way to make the other person feel special, and not once has a boyfriend of mine ever gone to the same extent to show his affection. Maybe that's just because they're guys, or maybe it's because I pick the wrong type of guys.

Also, it really hurts when you realize that the other person is becoming less and less open with you, and they're just totally hiding most or all of their emotions from you. What hurts even more is when the other person realizes they're doing this, but it's not even on purpose, and they don't seem to make an effort to change the course. Once this happens and the course isn't changed, the relationship is basically doomed.

I also don't like being in relationships when I feel taken for granted and unappreciated, I think that's one of the worst feelings in the world.

As well, when you break up even though you both still love each other and you just didn't TRY hard enough to make things work. And you know that it shouldn't have ended, and then you get to thinking about "What if I had done this" or "What if he/she hadn't said/done that" etc. Then the weeks or months of lying in bed crying your eyes out while listening to sad love songs, only wanting them back in your life because you realized that you fucked up royally, and it wasn't all the other person's fault like you thought in the first place. I think the hardest part of a break up is realizing that you, as well as the other person, were wrong, and that you can't just blame them. That's the worst, because you just feel like shit after.

*wanders to the liquor cabinet*

~snow*white~ · #22 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 01

the worst thing about relationships to me is loving that person so much that you would do anything for and sacrafice anything/anyone for but then finding out that that person doesn't feel the same way or they don't feel the same way but they are still in the realtionship w/o saying nething abuot it that maybe they want out.....it just hurts when that happens cuz it's happened way too many times to me. or when your partner doesn't tell you the truth right away and you might have to find it out urself or someone else that cares for you tells you what's goin on. a bad thing about relationships is that you might not be able tell that person what you feel. you should be able to tell them ne thing but you just cant......and of course the worst part of a relationship is yes breaking up......you prob would have to do it sooner or later but just hopefully its later than sooner right?:027:

omega_image · #23 (**permalink**) Jul 22, 01

to me the worst part of a relationship is not being able to communicate and not having the same ideas on where u wnat it to go.........for example.......loving someone who u thought u were goin to have a serious, long-term relationship with......then findin out that this person didnt even think of being with u past the summer.........i mean how is that supposed to make u feel? having something u wanted, and were almost certain the other wanted....totally destroyed.....but watever wounds heal and love pshhhh watever......i'm startin to think it doesnt exist
-adam

maripoppins · #24 (**permalink**) Jul 23, 01

ADAM...DONT SAY THAT IT DOESNT EXIST CAUSE THATS A BUNCH OF BULLSHIT...AND YOUR TOO SMART TO SAY THAT...THINK ABOUT IT A BIT...YOUR 17 RIGHT....GIVE IT SOME TIME...MU LONGEST RELATIONSHIP BEFORE KEV WAS 4 MONTHS IN GRADE 10...IT TAKES TIME AND THE RIGHT PERSON...TRUST ME YOU THINK YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PERSON TIME AND TIME AGAIN...BUT IF IT WERE THAT EASY EVERYONE WOULD BE IN LOVE...SO JUST SIT BACK AND ENJOY THE RIDE...CAUSE YOUR GONNA GET HURT...AND YOUR GONNA HURT OTHERS...AND THATS THE TRUTH!...JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND EYES OPEN!

stabmyhead · #25 (**permalink**) Jul 23, 01

is probably when you actually catch them.. cuz then all the fun is over :( i hate the emotionally draining. dragging on. ignoring problems, putting them aside them digging them up next time you guys fight. or how about the wanting to always break up with them but once you do you want them again bit? or how about the they try to stalk you after you guys break up and all that. thats kinda SCARY. ha.

i hate the passive, "what you wanna do?" "duh.. i dunno" I HAT E IT. i hate ittt. HATEEEEE. this is me expressing my hate for it. was it cool? oh and getting beat up isnt too cool either.

.stabitout.