relationship breaks

[*baby*nat*]

ok, so what are the rules, boundries, reasons, etc for a break.

[cerah]

If it's a break then you're allowed to do whatever you want. Because that's what a break from a relationship is right?

Are you just having a break to sort out things going on in your head or because you wanna fool around?

Cuz if it's just the figuring out kind I'd advise against running out and hooking up with the next cute boy you see.

Everyone's "rules, boundries, reasons" are different... it's kinda something you need to talk to your significant other about IMO.

[c.tard]

Originally posted by cerah
Everyone's "rules, boundries, reasons" are different... it's kinda something you need to talk to your significant other about IMO.

Exactly. People have different expectations, and different views on breaks. Some people think they're totally pointless!

If you're thinking about it, the best would be to just talk about it with your significant other, and establish the ground rules.

Last time I was on a break from a relationship, it was just a I need time to myself to think about things, so leave me alone kinda thing. We pretty much didn't talk, didn't see each other, and it helped me get things sorted out. But I didn't go run off with another guy, just as I expected him not to get with another girl. But it's all just ground rules I guess, they're best discussed with your significant other.

[mikey]

I think "breaks" are pointless....

[Goat]

^ ya, ima go with mikey on this one.
if a girl is on a break with you, 9/10 times it means she's fuckin someone else and puttin ya on the side. bad juju.
mind you, you go out and fuck someone you're a bastard.
bunk

[Tux]

Originally posted by mikey
I think "breaks" are pointless....

i agree completely. I went on a "break" with my last g/f and the break never ended... the relationship just sorta ended like that.

[Ragga_Wh0re]

fuck breaks.they are bullshit. I beleive that if a relationship is to be the people shouldnt force the hand, if its broken let it stay broken, not worth fixing, should be natural. :) tell the fuck face loser to lick ur a-hole white

[Goat]

tell the fuck face loser to lick ur a-hole white

with a spoon might i add

[*baby*nat*]

i didn't call it .. he did
but yea, now he's accusing e of cheating, which i did not

[beach*bum]

if he wants to go on a "break" 9 out of 10 he just wants an easy way out.
sorry to put it up like this.
but it's just an out.

[Kandyapple]

and a lot of the time I find if they are accusing you out of the blue for somthing like that when it was there decision usualy its because they feel guilty so an excuse makes it easyer.

[Kandyapple]

not to say that he was cheating its just that maybe its an aexcuse for somthing that he feels guilty about.

[~lazee_grrl~]

burn or sell!!

ur choice!..

but i'll be waiting with the gas and matches..~

[*baby*nat*]

hehe thanks jen!
yea i know - he wants to 'talk' but i keep on saying ok, fine, but not at my house, and i'll bus home - he's not allowed to go anywhere near my house

he called break = i keep his clothes

fucker.

[beach*bum]

^hahaha

it was the "fucker" that did it for me.

[Starberry]

Nat...were you guys really close? If you were and this came out of the blue, it could be sincere...guys are scaredy cats, especially when they think about commitment and the future...but the fact that he's accusing you of cheating honestly does not sound good. Their accusations are often a reflection of their own guilt (Kam did the same thing to me). Talk to him and maybe he'll lay out the truth for you.

As for rules of a break...ever seen Friends? Don't do what Ross did to Rachel...hehe.

Anyways, good luck and hope everything works out. It will...the way that it's intended to. Let time play it's role.

*Jen*

[*baby*nat*]

Thanks *Jen* Starberry

yea, I dunno - He called it when he was mad at me. we were fighting - like yelling fighting and he called it
then we've just fought since, and now he thinks i've cheated, which is stupid, because I've spent every waking hour bedsides work with the boy

I'll be sure to update you guys on what happens

[Glendita*]

I don't know what to say Nat ... but i still have to go with my first plan about the breaking of his legs. I hope he gave u a reason why he wanted to go on a break ... but now u have time away from him and u can finally figure out if u should continue in this really had emotional relationship that your in.

But yes we will have to get together for lunch ... well discuss our get togther in our other thread.

And no i don't think breaks are pointless ... if the other person decided that they needed a break from the relationship it's not pointless .... it's pointless to continue in a relationship where u can't breath and don't want to be with the other person, if a break can help u figure out what u want it isn't pointless. AND FUCK NOT ALL GIRLS CHEAT WHEN THEY WANT TO GO ON A BREAK ... MAYBE JUST FUCKING MAYBE GUYS CAN CHEAT TOO!

[*baby*nat*]

sigh.. i dunno - things are good right now - i know we wont stay together forever and that he isnt right for me.. and i know that this would be a great op. to get out of this relationship....but i still think maybe i should give it one more go....
sigh.. ughhh!!!

[mugsy]

breaks do suck, although i wish i had the chance to b on one right now... still hope eh?

but if you are thinkin he aint the right one.... then what are you doing with him right now? you should be with soeone who is the right one, the person that makes your smile glow.

however if this person makes you happy.... well now thats all we need... happiness (with respect tied in)

[Beaker]

I tried to do a break thing the other week and it did not work. He still had control, he still had to talk to me at least twice a day. and it did not make any problems we had go away at all :(

[mugsy]

^ sweetie... ive been there and i know it sucks... dont it?
but you know about all the other fish in the sea and not to worry... give it time and youll feel better soon enough.
cookie dough ice cream.... it will clear it all up!