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Apr 25, 03
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building ppl up in my mind
iT seems that i have this re-occuring problem where i build people up in my mind to be these wonderful flawless individuals who are great in every way. i dont know why i keep doing this. i dont like do it with every person i meet or anything, it doesn't happen that often but when i meet special people i cant help it. as my friends know i am always looking for "good souls" as i call them. there are just sum people that really touch me, without doing anything other then be who they are. and usually these people are really great and good friends but then other times i get really hurt. when i DO trust i trust way toooo much and i put all my faith into people. it's not fair to people because everyone is human and fucks up. and i need to realize people fuck up but with certain people i just cant! blAh i guess everyone wants to be there for sumone and have sumone be there for them unconditionally but i think that need is out of hand for me haha
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Apr 25, 03
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Just remember... everyone has flaws. That is what makes us all human.
You KNOW someone's your friend for sure when they accept you and still care about you with the flaws all included.. :) Fuck the home improvement project style friends.
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Apr 25, 03
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Its such a wonderful thing to be able to see the good in people. I too know about the hunt for 'good souls' and am able to see the good in many others can not. But i think it is possible to be realistic and stil have faith in people. I tihnk the qualities you describe about yourself are wonderful and they can be totally to your benefit in meeting great people and being a lifelong friend - but you're right, it is easy to get hurt with such a big heart, especially if you build people up (although i think we all do that to a certain extent)
But you recognize that you do it and maybe by keeping that in mind you won't find yourself too hurt in the future, and even if you do - you have those great friends who love you to help you through any pain :) Jingles
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Apr 25, 03
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I've found that you can ALWAYS take something out of every friendship you have whether they be good or bad. I think a lot of us go hunting for the 'good souls' though. Everyone would like to think that there are other people like them who have the same questions, concerns, morals, beliefs, etc...
Fact is that there are a lot of bad people out there to mess it up for us and our personal utopia. The true test of YOU as a friend is whether or not you can accept these people for their flaws and STILL be their friend. I'm not perfect, I'm far from it, but my friends love me just the way I am... flaws included!
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