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Jun 27, 03
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zia maria
my zia(auntie) maria has 2 weeks to live could be even 2 days. She got cancer again a year ago she was doing good for a while but tonight i found out that the cancer spread to her liver and her kidneys are failing. She beat cancer once I was sure shed beat it again.She was admitted to the hospital 3 days ago, all drugged up and zoned out,I have to see her before she leaves but I hate the thought of my last memories of her being like that. Bed ridden and drug induced. Its been so long since I lost a loved one,this is too much to fathom.One thing after another and this one takes the cake.How much chipping and cracking must a person do until they fully break? Fuck I hate life today :soak: I feel so bad for my cousins my zia was pretty much the only parental figure they ever had and now shes being taken away from them:( UGH fuck.
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Jun 28, 03
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just make sure you get one visit in to see her, and i guess say good bye.
losing family members is always hard, and it's even harder when you don't get a chance to see them beforehand. i lost my grandpa a few years back. he had a very severe stroke and was in the hospital for a long time (almost a year i think). i wasn't allowed to see him, since everyone thought i was too young and wanted to protect me from seeing him in that state. that really pissed me off because when he died.. i hadn't even had the chance to see him, and i was the only one. and it wasn't my choice, my family made the choice for me. make sure you get at least one more visit in... and feel better. maybe it's the best for her, take all this pain away.. and good luck to yours cousins and family. =)
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Jun 28, 03
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just a little over a month ago, my grandfather also died after suffering from a stroke and lung cancer. he too, was sick for a long time and everyone basically knew he was going to die soon. I was never really close with my aunt or my grandfather... but it still hurt a lot inside knowing what they were going through. I can only imagine how much more painful it would be if it were someone close to me...... --Joanne :P
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Jun 28, 03
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damn, my family went through the exact same thing a couple of years ago.... my aunt, my mom's older sister & only female sibling (she has 5 older brothers!!) had a long, drawn out battle with cancer. starting with breast cancer, which she beat, but then it came back in multiple other organs. Her 3 kids are all around my age and were the closest of my 30 or so cousins when i was growing up, her youngest son even lived with me for a while. I felt horrible for them because they'd lost their dad just a few years earlier. It was really hard watching her go through chemo, she seemed to age 20 years in the space of about 2. She was also very inspiring to me though, because even through her sickness she still used every ounce of energy she could muster to fight for the environmental causes she belived in. if anything, her illness made her fight even harder to protect the Manitoba wildlife. She never wanted anyone to feel sorry for her, or treat her any differently because of her illness. In a lot of ways she was like a second mom to me because her & her sister were so similar, and our families used to do a lot of stuff together, summer vacations & such. it's never easy to see a loved one pass away prematurely - i've lost all my grandparents as well, but that was different because they all passed from natural causes, having lived full lives.
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Jun 28, 03
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Ive been humbled by this situation,definately changes my perspective on a lot of things. Amazing how it takes something so tragic to make a person reconsider.
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Jul 05, 03
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i saw her last sunday it was really hard seeing her like that she was incoherant but she grasped onto my hand when i had my hand in hers so that made me feel a bit better. She passed away on Thursday evening and the wake is on monday and the funeral on tuesday. Its still hard to beleive shes gone,its not registering in my head but on tuesday i know it will hit hard.:(blah
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Jul 06, 03
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i feel your pain. :(
it sucks to watch a loved one die and not be able to do anything about it! just savor the moments you have with her and get in as much time as you can before she passes away.
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Jul 07, 03
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/\shes been dead since thursday her funerals tomorrow
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