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Sep 23, 03
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Well for me Age = 6
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Sep 23, 03
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It realy depends on the person, in my opnion. Like some youngens can be mature and you dont even notice a differece in age. And some people that are older can be real immature. and you cant even believe that they are that old.
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Sep 23, 03
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I think that what is important is that the two people are at similar places in their lives, and that they both want the same thing. When you're dealin with some one that is significantly younger, or older than you, you have to kind of keep in mind where they come from, and what they want. I think that a large age difference *can* get difficult, because regardless of similar maturity levels, two people of different ages can be at totally different places in their lives, and what they want in a relationship can differ.
I think that there are some things that you can only learn through time and age, that maturity can't make up for. I find guys that are much older than me to be holy-fuck attractive, physically and wholly, but past a certain age, I would really ask myself if it was, for the long run even worth it for either of "us."
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Sep 23, 03
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I think it entirely depends on what stage you are at in your life.
If you're 16 and you're thinking prom, what would you have in common with a 25 year old that is thinking of the real world..rent, work, debts... I've been in a relationship with someone for two years where there is a seven year age difference, which doesn't really make a difference very often, seeing as how we both have the maturity of a 16 year old :P...But really, we're both adults..and I think when you get past like 19-20, then age is pretty much irrelevant.
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Sep 23, 03
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I think it definatly depends on what stage a persons at.. for example.. im 15, but ive gone thro probly the same amount as say a 17 or 18 year old, therefor resulting in me being mature for my age and able to get along with people older then me because of it ..i went thro wut most girls my age r going thro now about 3 years ago. Age matters if u make it matter.. someone can be 15 and act it, but i think experiances is what makes your maturity and knowledge of life not our age (to a certain degree of course)
And your age doesnt determine your personality, belifs,passions,imagination or looks even..ppl think im 19 all the time.. so ne way lol thats my thought on this issue :P
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Sep 23, 03
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But I also agree that it has a lot to do with the individuals. I hate when people generalize and automatically lose respect for a person when they find out their age I think it's one of the worst forms of prejudice. Every person is an individual and has to face different events and goes through different experiences that makes them the person that they are, so it isn't fair to say that a 16 year old can't go out with a 19.. even 21 year old because they're "young." I tend to date guys that are quite a bit older than myself, just because I find we have more in common in terms of interests and we both have more of an appreciation for the same things... But I'm not going to say that there aren't guys my age that are in the same frame of mind as me, i just haven't had the privilege of meeting one yet.
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Sep 23, 03
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Sep 23, 03
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^^personally im really attracted to older guys (including as friends) because they are just more stable, mature, and know what they want kinda deal. im growing up and can't handle ppl who are too spontaneous and "out there".. i like seeing my friends having priorities as well.
even though i am attracted to them i try to not think of "the possiblities" because i just dont find it right for an older guy to be with a 17 years old. (when i say older i mean 21+). i have older friends and was recently seeing someone older and there was instant clashes that i know in the long term i would not be comfortable with. it always depends who the person is, because each person is different and if there is a big age gap in the relationship and both are super happy with each other... fine be it. but i think there will always ppl who look at it on the surface and dont think its right or even be disgusted by it.... but WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PPL SAY. oh yes..and my thoughts of being with a younger guy? damn i went on a few days with a guy a year younger than me..(which was 2 grades down).. oh i got made fun of.. but i gave him a shot. i felt like i was his mom telling him whats right and whats wrong. me with younger boys..NOT HAPPENING. Last edited by bebu*funfun; Sep 24, 03 at 08:32 AM.
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Sep 23, 03
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edited for optics' sake: I ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THESE ARE MOSTLY STEREOTYPES AND GENERALIZATIONS BLENDED WITH YOKO-LANGUAGE.
------------------ they seem to have a better sense of self, therefore a presence.. a more confident aura.. a sureness of themselves, where they are in life, where they come from. confidence is a big factor..and confidence is attractive... Physically, matured bodies and faces are far more attractive.. a lot of the men that actually catch my attention are prob in their late twenties or early thirties.. mentally, younger ones are more insecure. Anything younger than me, is just a boy dying to lose his virginity. And that doesn't make for great intellectual conversation. Last edited by yoko*; Sep 23, 03 at 02:17 PM.
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Sep 23, 03
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My rule is that as long as they are done highschool they are fair game...
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Sep 24, 03
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Well for me, it depends on the circumstances, like how much older he is, and how young she is...whether he can or can't get pussy (lol) and if he's just going out with some one younger cause he can't get any from some one his age. But i mean, if you are genuinely intrigued by the person, then I don't see why one would even CARE what others would think about their pursuit of a younger girl/guy. All you need to know, is that she is one of a kind, and that a relationship with her would be worth it, regardless of her age. If you need to question the opinions of others so much and require validation for your feelings, then maybe she isn't all that impressive to begin with? A general comment to men: if it's eventually going to be such an issue for you, then you shouldn't have gone for it to begin with. Don't burden HER with your insecurity, and the choice that *you* made.
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Sep 24, 03
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older guys rock my world cuz usually guys my age are dumb shits that need a kick in the teethe and a punch in the nose.Plus usually older guys have more stamina and are more sexually open and advanced, and u can do "adult" stuff with older guys like have an intellectual conversation while u drink wine and listen to jazz. Good luck trying to do this with a 19 yr old fuck wad whos life revolves around:hockey,beer,chicks,and his ride.
I agree with prissy pants, after high school=fair game.
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Sep 24, 03
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older guys. i think that yoko puts it so very well. honestly, everything is dead on.
jason's 2 years older then myself. and it works very well, 99% of the time. i dont think any relationship can be 100% perfect all the time, that would get boring. I think you have to disagree sometimes.
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Sep 24, 03
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ya my rule is age/2+7 right now im dating a 17 year old and even though its all good i still feel like a dirt bag :)
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