**going Out W/your Best Friend?**

[*addy*]

K, I found out one of my best guy friends Ryan wants to go out with me. Like, he likes me a lot kinda thing here. It's ironic cause about a year and a half ago he was that "older hot guy that you could never get, and like dumped your pants over if he talked to you" kinda thing. But he didn't want to go out with me. Anyways, after a while, we became really good friends.

Now, he's all wanting to go on a date. But I don't know if I should even say yes to that, cause wouldn't that give him the impression that I would want to go out with him?
But I don't want to say no, in a way, cause wouldn't that put a big damper on our friendship? Which would really suck, cause we're like awesome friends.

I dunno. In a way, it's like, yeah there are kinda feelings there, just from before. But pretty much its a no.... so... ehh? And I know he would be a really good boyfriend. But... ehh... fuck why am I so picky.

He's such a nicer though. There were a couple scratches on the driver's side door of my car from assholes hitting it with their door; and some on the front from me being an idiot while parking. He has auto and he spent 2 1/2 hours polishing, cleaning, and vacuuming my car.
That's pretty damn sweet.

[Aki]

i wouldnt do it..unless you REALLY like him...i did it once..and now things are fucked UP..i'm still in a fight wiht this guy too and we didn't talk for a few weeks..but we are slowly resolving things. You could totally ruin your friendship with him seriously...becareful. We were such good friends, and i now things won't be the same...
But think, if you really do like him..dating him/seeing might be a good idea..and if things don't work out then stay friends...just don't go as far as to mess with his feelings because you aren't sure what you want...if you're not sure then end it, i've made that mistake twice.
well hopefully i made some sense

[~snow*white~]

addy, think twice before you make a decision too soon. if you really like him then go ahead and give it a shot and hey maybe you guys will go out and have a strong relationship? but if it doesn't go well then you might lose his friendship and i don't think that's what you want. yes you might say "lets stay friends" but not alot pf ppl do stay friends after they went out. i never did until like a year later when we both matured and we are friends now again up to this day. but if you like him then i say go for it.....just think twice about it. he gave up his time to touch up your car for no apparent reason, thats pretty darn sweet! i think he'll be really good to you but think hard about this decision like the pros and cons of it. hope that i could help?

[Breezy]

I'm having this same delema!.. my best guy friend wants to go out with me again [we went out like 2-3 years ago].... and well I dunno whether I should or not cuz we're -such- good friends... and I don't wanna lose that friendship or whatever... but he's such a sweetheat, always there for me and everything.. and I do have strong feelings for him... jus not sure if it's more than a friend or not....

but neways... this guy seems like a really sweet guy.. and I'm sure he'd b a good boyfriend... considering you are already very good friends it must mean that you are pretty close to him.. and u know what they say, friends make the best lovers!... but I agree with what aki said, seeing him might be a good idea.. but if it's not working out end it before he gets to attached, so you will be able to keep that friendship... but you're the only one that knows your feelings.. so trust your heart to make the right decision :370: [good luck!]

~breezy

[*addy*]

Well, I proved my prediction.
Last night I went to my friend's hotel birthday party thing. It was all fun, and then all of a sudden i hear people yelling his name, and I turn around, and he's there. Great. So i was sitting on the end of a bed, and he was like in the walking space betweent he bed and the tv. I for no reason start rummaging through my purse. After a while it was just to weird, cause my idiot friend Steph kept yellin "whatcha lookin for A? Huh?" So I get up and I'm like "I need something to drink." (and I actually did.) I turn around, and it's him, and he's blocking the way for me to get past. So in stead of just talking to him and asking him to move, I literally CRAWLED across the bed to get to the other side.
Yeah... that was pretty cool.
I dunno why I did it, maybe cause I was baked, and paranoid or something... i dunno.

Thanks for all the replies girls, they all helped. I really don't even want to "see" him, cause man! That would give him the impression that there is a chance kinda thing right? And I'm like... 85% sure i don't want to go out with him...

Maybe i should just talk to him?? But what do I say??

[kiMMie]

Heeheehee...crawling across the bed was really suttle Addy...NGWG!!! That's probably what I would do, just to avoid the possibility of a conversation with him, cuz you're just too nervous to say anything, right?

I don't know what advice to give you. It all depends on what you truly about him, right? I think the other girls said it best. Don't be to hasty. There is a good friendship involved. You don't want to jeopardize that.

Honestly, if you guys are best friends, you should be open and talk to him about it. Find out why he asked you in the first place. What his true intentions were, cuz remember, he DID ask you...and that means that he must have thought about what would have to the friendship later on, right? And if you guys are openly talking about it, I think you should be honest by saying that you were somewhat interested, but the friendship is something important too, and see what he says.... :Kimmie:

Good Luck babe...call me if you need me

[galaxie]

Hun, I think that you should follow your heart. If you actually like him, then go out with him. If not, don't do it.
I went out with my best friend, and he ended up being my first love and first everything else (pretty much). We were SO good as friends but in a relationship we fought constantly, and it ended. We were both REALLY bitter about the whole situation after we broke up, and we didn't really speak again until this summer. Now we're like acquaintences but we don't talk often. I still consider him a friend, and I know he thinks the same of me, but it's weird. It's REALLY weird.

If I were you, it seems that you like him a little bit otherwise you'd be 100% sure you don't want a relationship.
My suggestion is to go on a couple of dates with him....hold hands, cuddle, don't even kiss him if you don't want to! See how it feels, and if it's weird, just tell him that. If you guys are such good friends, and you haven't done anything but hold hands and cuddle, it shouldn't affect the friendship negatively.

If you do that, you'll know for sure how you feel about him. That way, in six months time when he has a girlfriend and you catch yourself getting all jealous you won't be pissed at yourself for letting him go!

Good luck hun, ICQ me 10879115 if you wanna talk more =0)

[kiMMie]

Is this the magician???? :047: + :041: I'm just kidding...just bugging ya Addy :119:

[*addy*]

Cece: I should have let the magician take my picture from the show... DAMNIT!! I lost my chance with him forever... I guess I won't be getting a rabbit for my birthday...


Galaxie: Thanks for your reply, i'm sorry to hear you and him aren't as close as before. That's what I'm affraid of... if anything should happen, and then we break up, I'll also lose him as a friend.

It's funny, cause he hasn't even said anything to me about it. I'm kind of thankful because if he were straight forward with his feelings, I would have no clue what to say. He called me today and we talked for a bit, as if nothing is going on. I joked with him about the me crawling across the bed thing. He laughed too
:D