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Sep 17, 01
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What's with boyfriends and not calling u back?
My silly kid for a boyfriend never calls me when he says he will. And I mean, it's cool if he can't talk, just call me to say "Hey, I told you I'd call but something came up, so I can't talk, so I'll call you in a little while!"
That's all I want, just the peace of mind knowing that he didn't forget to call, it's just that he couldn't talk for long. gaaaah. *frustrated sigh* Anyone else have this same problem with the male species? 
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Sep 18, 01
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I accidentally do it to girls....
I dont mean to be mean. In another perspective you could call it payback for all the time you make us guys worry "does she hate me or does she like me?" you know? Girls are confoosing and make me worry. but now i know to phone someone if the wanna be phoned :)
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Sep 18, 01
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Ugh, my ex ex boyfriend used to always be like that.
For example, one night, he'll be like "Yeah, I'll call you tomorrow and we'll hook up for dinner." By the time 5pm rolls around, I don't hear from him, so I try calling him myself...at home, on his cell, paging him and leaving him a voice...I wait around for him cause I want to see him and spend time with him. Then I FINALLY get a phone call at 11pm from him. "Uhhhh yeah, sorry bout that." "Why didn't you call me?" *silence* "Ummmm, sorry. Want to hook up now?" "No, it's too late. I have school tomorrow." "Mmmmmmkay. I'll call you tomorrow and make it up to you." *tomorrow rolls around and SAME thing happens all over again* Guys are stupid. heh...gotta love 'em. Erica :AZN:
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Sep 18, 01
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yes gurls, most guys r notorious for doin this.......i for instance didnt purposely not call back......it was becuz i couldnt get to a phone and/or simply forgot about it......i'm not saying that u guys r'nt important enough not to remember but i mean hey, mistakes happen.......and from what i have found, most guys like to be a lil bit more independent than most gurls they dont like having to "check in" every couple of hrs or so........
0-adam
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Sep 20, 01
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i know what you mean gurls.....
man i have the same problem too.......they say they'll call u after work and so ur expecting their call but u don't really wanna wait for them to phone you but u want to talk to them just to see how they are doing right? but........they don't call or they call later and by then it's too late.......
guys can be independant if they want but still if they really want their gf, they could at least keep their word for saying that they would call right? it's not cool having to wait for a phone call that you are expecting but the phone never rings..........?
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Sep 21, 01
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sure some guys are stupid, but what does it say about the girls who date them?
im not pointing any fingers. i don't know anyones relationship, but if some chick was breaking promises and being standoffish then they would be gone before they could apologise. if you're not coming through on your promises, that means you're not respecting me and therefore im not going to have an emotional relationship with you. r.
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Sep 21, 01
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hey what ever happened to u and that girl???? still seein her???just curious??? its true i think that we (guys) do it for payback or redempsion if the girls says that she will call me back and doesnt......i be like what the fuck......but usually if i say that ill call back ill normally call em back
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Sep 23, 01
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actually i'm usually the one that don't call a guy back.. muhaha..
for example this guy travis wanted me to call him so we can go for "Dinner that I promised you sometime".. but i did't want to go, so i never called him... long time ago my crush said to lazee "get yoko to call me" I said... "shit jen i don't wanna" haha.. bernard.. "yoko call me" "no i don't really want to.." ------------- i just don't like talking on the phone to people other than a certain few...
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Sep 23, 01
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Sep 23, 01
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natalie,
i've been on both sides of the story... now, i remember i got this valuable piece of information from an ex-boyfriend of mine. i confronted him one day about not calling when he said he was going to, and this is what he told me "well, sometimes i find no point in calling you if i dont' really have anything to say, or if i can't do anything. like, what am i supposed to do, call and say. 'hi, im calling you, but i can't talk for long and i can't see you today'. that just strikes me as pointless" now, us girls find so much point in that little phone call!! so try not to take it too personally nat! guys just have they're own ways of doing things. and if ya wanna chat, icq me! -colleen :Clink:
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Sep 23, 01
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Oh well, it's okay!
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Sep 23, 01
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clink @ mister peenutt's house
i know nat!!
the little things that mean so much to us don't seem as important to them WHY??? WHY?? aaaaah my dilemna at the moment? i'm sitting at vince's house, he was supposed to be here like, 20 minutes ago, cuz he was out... so then he calls and is like, "where are you?" and i'm like "at your house!!" and he's like "what the???" and i say "well, you told me to meet you here like, 20 minutes ago" then he says "well, i'll be home in a bit" so now i get to sit here and take over his computer!! muahahahah!!!! damn. i just want him to come home!! boys i tell ya, they're trouble!!! but nat, have you tried talking to him about how you feel? maybe if he knows calling to say goodnight is so important to you, he'll try to remember harder to do it? keep your head up .colleen. :Clink:
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Sep 24, 01
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TT always calls me... keke and sometimes
calls me back..
I don't like calling people not unless.. I am really bored or it's business. But for a girl .. there is and some reason I think always will.. that we will always have that edge.. thinking.. "why isn't he calling back?" "shit what time is is.. how come he hasn't called?" just don't worry.. if it's getting TOO late and he hasn't called.. just call him back. and spass at him. kekeke :snyx: .. just kidding just ask how come he didn't call you back. and try to remember the times you forgot to call him back in time
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Sep 24, 01
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thats my BB hehe
but hey i can think of a few times when u didnt call me back.......hmmmmmmm hehe just kiddin ya no i love ya call ya lates babes?
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Sep 24, 01
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gurls should learn not to rely on everything a guy says.......cuz a guy is never ever always gonna do what he says he's gonna do.......like for instance......how many times has ur dad said he was gonna finish building the _____? or somin like that? if a phone call is so important to gurls then make it clear to the guys......for they aren't just gonna know it off the bat.....maybe some of u gurls r a lil "obsessed" for lack of a better word withur guys......always needin to be around or atleast talking to ur bf........i mean everyone needs some space.......so dont smother him
-adam
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Sep 24, 01
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oh that's totally true adam, you can't expect your boyfriend to read your mind, if a simple phone call is really important, then you have to explain it to him that it means a lot to you. if after you do that he still doesn't call back, then he has a problem and you don't mean much to him. eather that or he is just really forgetful
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Sep 26, 01
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one more thing! y is the guy always expected to call?! i mean relationships i've been in i'm always the one to call.......yeah maybe the gurl will call, but thats like when i dont call/check in.....or if they need somin.....would be nice if the gurl called me outa the blue
-adam
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Sep 26, 01
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i hear ya it seems to me that the guy always has to call and sometimes when u do call they dont seem to talk whats up with dat?? i mean lately i think that ive been gettin this treatment do i give up in callin and wait for them to call or call them and feel ignored????
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Sep 27, 01
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It just worries me because I don't know if he just didn't get the page, he fell asleep, or he's ignoring me =/ And hey, Colleen...I talked to him bout it...and his mom was on the phone a couple of the times, and he passed out while waiting for her to get off the phone. *shrug* Fair enough, but he didn't even tell me till I got upset about it. If it were me, the next time I talked to him I would be like "Oh, sorry I didn't call you back last night! My mom was on the phone till late, and I was really tired and fell asleep waiting!" Y'know? Aggh, oh well! Now at least I know the reason =)
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Sep 27, 01
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when i tell someone i'll call them the next day... and i dont.. its cuz i forget...
anyone who knows me knows how forgetful i am.. i almost missed a gig once in seattle cuz i forgot.. until 4pm the day of =o) i regret doing so much drugs when i was young..... i bought my fone cuz it had a scheduler and I can put important dates in it.. but i keep forgetting to do that too.... now i have to constantly be reminded when i have tests or gigs...
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Sep 27, 01
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I'm not gonna say that "calling back" your boyfriend or girlfriend is 100% crucial, cuz sometimes things come up to distract you, or maybe it does slip the mind, right?
More importantly, I think if you really respect the other person enough and say you're gonna "do" something, then you *should* remember to do it. That's what I think... Even if it's the smallest things you have to do... and even when you are very busy, and still make that effort anyways... If you really care about someone, what *you* do is gonna leave an impression on that person. Because you're always learning about each other. :D:
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