Are we men creeps?

[C_squared]

I'd like to ask any ladies here a not so personal question. If you're out in public wether you're on transit, your on your break from work, or your out in general (not in a club or party environment) and a strange guy comes up to you, wether he's atractive or not. What exactly pops into your mind?

Do you think he's a bit of a creep for talking to you...Do you sense his intentions (good or bad). Do you put up a front and just jently reject his banter or are you just friendly & amuse the sittuation?

Just something I was thinking of the other day, when I approached a girl on the skytrain...She seemed kind of weirded out by me but then I think she realised all I wanted to do was pass the time till I got to my stop. I'm not sure I she thought if wanted to pick her up or what?....Hmmm maybe I'm just thinking too much...

Peace,
Carlos

[SEAN!]

being labled as a creep is my greatest fear in life...that and undergoing the process of nastification

[mugsy]

it depends on the approach and what the guy says.
i have no problem continuing a conversation with someone on the bus, just as long as they dont make any sort of rude comments\uncomfertable comments or stare at the wrong places.
i put up a front when im in a club, cause the majority fo the time the only reason a guy comes up to you is to hit on you.
but on the skytrain? usually its just innocent talk to pass time. some girls are just really cautious.

[C_squared]

Originally posted by mugsy
just as long as they dont make any sort of rude comments\uncomfertable comments or stare at the wrong places.

Yeah I heard this guy whistling at this cute innocent girl on the bus...not like "hey how you doing" sort of way, but like "hey you look over here, i'm trying to get your attention" sort of way the girl got really embarrased & nervous...So I just got up walked over to her seat to star talking to her (like a normal human being) so this other dumbass who cant talk to girls would just shut the hell up. Girls dont need that shit.

but on the skytrain? usually its just innocent talk to pass time. some girls are just really cautious.

I find most women are really cautios especially in public..I'ts all these assholes out there that think they're Rico fucking Suave, that think they're Gods gift to women who gotta ruin it for the dudes that just wanna say hi 'cause we're bored.

[crackdragon]

guys are creeps unitl proven otherwise... unfortunately this is the way of things.

[M!SKA]

^ I disagree.

To label someone right off the bat as a creep just means you're a bitch. or something. lol

[bob]

i hardly ever approach girls in public because i've seen so many other guys do it, and i've seen the reaction from the girl afterwards... yes, you're a creep. unless you're good looking. because even if your intentions are purely social/time wasting, she's not gonna see it like that because girls are shallow and narrow minded. parents raise their daughters over-protectively, so girls don't know anything other than fear.

if you feel the need to approach a girl to pass the time. let me ask you...why did it have to be a girl?

bottom line... if you're ugly, you're a creep no matter what you do.

[Goat]

Originally posted by bob

bottom line... if you're ugly, you're a creep no matter what you do.

you nailed that shit dead on bob. ugly people are fucked for life.

it's all about being approachable.
approach as if you'd approach a buddy. you don't try to get in a buddies pants in 10 minutes flat do you?

besides, if you're horny..why not just go fuck a raver>? :toasted: :kam:

[prozac]

no! I love it.

so many guys stare at me, I have respect for the ones who have the balls and decency to actually talk to me rather than sit and gawk. Not to mention I'm always bored on the skytrain, everyone staring into space. It's nice to have someone to chat with for ten minutes. And who knows, you might hit it off with them.

I have had relationships and good friendships with people i have met at bus stops, on skytrains, on ferries, etc. Even if you put that aside, why not talk to that intriguing person for 5 mins? what can it hurt?

I think sitting across from me on the bus and staring at me is WAY creepier than talking to me.

[yoko*]

Although most of my skytrain experiences are scarring and creepy... I guess I could name a couple that have been relatively pleasant. One of them involved heading d/t with a backpacker, grabbing coffee, sharing my sketchbook, smoking up infront of the VAG and being taught how to skateboard..lol I guess though, that if you go to larger cities it's less common to have random strangers coming up to you just to chat, unless if they're bums asking for spare change, or some obnoxious guy/(orgirl) who's trying to hit on you.

I seem to remember a time in my youth where talking/smiling at strangers was the friendly thing to do... but now i feel that the opposite is true. In general, if some stranger started talking to me I'd be a bit annoyed..

[C_squared]

Originally posted by prozac
I think sitting across from me on the bus and staring at me is WAY creepier than talking to me.

Yeah that aint right. In my case If a girl was looking my way I would just go up & talk to her..there's no harm in that...It's the other way around that I can see get really odd.

I occasionally get gay guys that check me out (occasionally) which is flaterring and all...I guess But hell its just uncomfortable when they gwak.

Altho I've never met or seen a creepy chick...which is rare within females.

[Akeel]

i only talk to hot girls.

[Goat]

Originally posted by Akeel
i only talk to hot girls.

amen to that

:sixpak:

[charly]

It all totally depends on the person and the way they approach you. some guys are just really creepy. i can usually tell if it's just a friendly chat to pass some time, and that's cool. i don't like guys hitting on me. it just weirds me out, hot or not. i get really uncomfortable being called pretty or something in situations like that. to get them off my back i bring up the "i have a bf" thing.. some still persist then. it's annoying.

friendly chats are cool with me. i have them with random people all the time. there was an old guy once who just asking a couple questions about my lip and stuff, but he was cool.

and like prozac said, sitting there staring at me is even more creepy than talking. i get the staring thing more often, and alot of times by guys who are around my dad's age [and he's almost 50] ew.

[Nyame]

Ever since I have moved here, I have met no one but creeps. This city is fucking twisted, and I refuse to attempt being friendly with any stranger anymore.

[brokencrayon]

If he is just making some friendly small talk and seems friendly then I don't have a problem with chatting for a bit to pass time - unless I get a creepy vibe off of him in the beggining. they I would start to use my cell phone and excuse myself from talking to him. If he comes up and says a really creepy or perved out comment and adds actions to those words then yes I would get super scared or if he stares at me. I have been in both situations where they wouldn't back off... the staring one was super scary cause he was old and creepy and so my friends had to save me and tell him to stop staring and leaning towards me. another time this old spanish guy who was piss drunk on the bus was saying nasty shit to me and trying to grab me so the bus driver kicked him off. I am a chicken when it comes to that stuff. Basically I just let my instincts tell me if he is creepy or not. Instincts are almost always right and people ignore their instincts too much now a days.

[mugsy]

Originally posted by bob
i hardly ever approach girls in public because i've seen so many other guys do it, and i've seen the reaction from the girl afterwards... yes, you're a creep. unless you're good looking. because even if your intentions are purely social/time wasting, she's not gonna see it like that because girls are shallow and narrow minded. parents raise their daughters over-protectively, so girls don't know anything other than fear.

if you feel the need to approach a girl to pass the time. let me ask you...why did it have to be a girl?

bottom line... if you're ugly, you're a creep no matter what you do.

i think this is stupid. you're generalizing alot of girls, and not all girls are self centered cunts. its like me saying "yah all guys are assholes who just want to see what color my panties are, and guys will only talk to girls if they have big tits and nice ass" for some guys it may be true, but for the majority it isnt.
have som freakin self esteem, thats the real problem with guys. if you cant sit down as yourself and just talk to a girl because you feel intimidated or you think you might come off as a creep, you have no chances no matter how you look.
girls arent evil creatures from venus.....