How do you help a good friend with harsh drug prollem

Lunch Box · #1 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

there's a good friend of mine, i use to work with has a huge prollem with meth and e .... he started with the green then went to e the into Crystal Waaay to deep the other night he started flipping out @ all his lifetime friends Accusing them of cheating on his gf then demanding drugs... after they had no choice but to kick him out he proceeded to another friends house @ about 4am kicked down the door ran in and demanded some meth what the hell is there i can do he's in a holding cell right now and i am debating going down there to get him out there is no one else that will help him... any ideas?

Rhianna · #2 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

My best friend used to have a huge meth problem. But after going to hell and back he got over it.

cinist · #3 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

hmm interesting perdicament, i have the same problem, even down to the holding cell part

Veni*C · #4 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

if you go down and get him ... and get him out... the same stuff will start happening again.... he needs to get help as in drug rehab?mabie counsilling?....... drugs suck. they ruin ppl :(

vangroover · #5 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

All you can do Is be there for him , but dont help him get to a place where he can get more drugs, cause that wouldnt really be helping.

Lunch Box · #6 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

yeah well i am not in a place to help him, meaning my surroundings would only condone his addiction... i just want to help him soo much but lack the means...

zarlon · #7 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

you gotta let him fuck himself over IMO.

if he wants to fuck his life up, he'll do it
if he wants to get back on the straight and narrow like really wants to, he'll do it.

shrug dunno.. people control their own destiny. maybe point something out to him that has changed since he became a big crackhead, something that you know affects him emotionally.

i'm outta ideas.

Lunch Box · #8 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

yeah i guess so, but i don't want somthing to shut my conscience up i honestly wanna help him thanks for the idea...

zarlon · #9 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

see, the thing is it's really hard to help someone out in that situation

people only quit drugs because THEY want to, you can't make them cause then it won't last. i guess you could show him how it's affected the people around him and what's going to happen to him if he keeps up with this.

i never said you wanted something to shut your conscience up, you'd be a goddamned coldhearted bastard if you didn't want to help him for his own good.

hah.

mugsy · #10 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

i had a friend who decided to do heroin and lots of it. it got to a point where i had to give up helping, cause it was too depresing for me, and i just quit associating with him.
i have come to find out that he walked himself into a rehab place, got clean and is living in a different area away from his influences. he gave up drinkin and smoking, but most importantly heroin.
no one could help him, he had to help himself. its sad to have to walk away, but its really the only thing you can do. usually people dont want help, until they notice a problem.

spunsugar · #11 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

^ I agree. No amount of being babied or being told they need help is ever going to change an addict. They need to hit some point in their life that makes them want to change. Have you told this person they way you feel? If so then don't let it beat down on your conscience because you've done what you can. If not, tell him how you feel and then tell him that when he wants help you'll be there for him but you won't be involved with him until some changes are made.

Bitchin · #12 (**permalink**) Feb 23, 04

only when youre friend admits to haveing a problem.. can you help them.. I know its sounds cheezy.. but its true!

best of luck!