ppl who just don't listen

Jess_C · #1 (**permalink**) Nov 19, 01

you know what is the worst thing in the world? experiencing something so painful you just want to die (physically) and you did not even chose to experience that. afterwards, you tell someone you care about, of the experience, since they weren't present at the time. yet they still end up going through that same experience and you're there for them, help them through it, it tears you apart...yet brings you closer. then there's the *friends* that you share your experience with more or less to warn them, yet they don't listen. they keep harming themselves more and more...and you just look at them and wonder. knowing there's nothing you can do to help them, but let them hit rock bottom. that's the worst.

~lazee_grrl~ · #2 (**permalink**) Nov 19, 01

the people who don't listen..well..they're the ones that never learn...or they just gotta learn for themselves...a person really can't be told wut to do..no matter how much u care and want them to hear wut u say and make sure it stays in their head instead of going out the other ear...they can only do sumthing if they want to do it for themselves..otherwise..its pointless to argue or nag at them..its a waste of time..until they wanna listen..they won't hear nuthing...its hard not to say anything and even harder to watch them sink lower and lower...but yeah...just let them know u'll be there cuz thats all u can pretty much do i think..~:035:

msPiggy · #3 (**permalink**) Nov 19, 01

i think with soem ppl even if they know its hurtign them and they want help they just don't ask for it.. it migh tbe too hard askign... because they might not know how... or they just have whata they think is too much pride to ask for help... so they have to wait till they have hit bottom .. till there is nothign left till they ask or let someone help.... sounds weird but me.. i think that's how it is for a lotta ppl... :msPiggy:

Glendita* · #4 (**permalink**) Nov 21, 01

I know it is hard but some times u have to stay in the shadows and watch ur friends fall on their faces .... some times that is the only way they we'll learn. As long as ur there after and support them even though u may disagree w/ what there doing and know it's bad for them that is being a good friend.

stabmyhead · #5 (**permalink**) Nov 22, 01

i found that holding a gun to their head and acting like you have some kind of disorder makes ppl listen well. so does having a hostage.

**kiMMie** · #6 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 01

I think the two words you're looking for is stubborness and ignorance.

It's hard to *change* someone, especially when they don't want to be changed, OR when they're the type of person who has the mentality of them being always right. Those are the hardest people to comfort or be friends with, cuz you have to break thru that barrier, and make them aware that you're trying to help them to better themselves.

If your "friends" don't listen, then that means that they're the ones that aren't ready to listen... right? You can't force them to understand... they have to do that on their own. If they really consider you as a *good* friend, then your concern should be enough for them to reflect on their own actions, don't you think?

You can't really *parent* them... If they decide not to listen to your feelings about the situation, well... there's nothing really you can do about it, but to let them hit rock bottom and try to be there for them...

Jess_C · #7 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 01

thanks everyone...i'm still super frustrated...it's like it won't sink into that person's head...see them on weekends...and guess what they're doing....even though they say no more...i promise...blah blah....ya uh huh...sure...i believe you now...it just makes me sick watching them screw themselves over time & time again....kinda sad you know...i warn them over & over...yet they still don't listen...at times they do...and agree...but nothing ever comes of it...yet they bitch because they know there's something wrong here...but don't know what to do i guess....and also don't actually to shit all to fix it...argh...i dunno...stubborness & ignorance is definately the right description....i feel if i don't help them though, no one will...and maybe they want help but just aren't asking...what to do?

stabmyhead · #8 (**permalink**) Nov 27, 01

guns are a good way to make ppl listen.

or so ive heard.

but im most likely wrong and you probably shouldnt take my advice.

frogprincess · #9 (**permalink**) Dec 16, 01

maybe people do not listen because they do not care.

BB_YungYung · #10 (**permalink**) Dec 16, 01

..... if they don't listen..
it's just because they want to take that chance.. and they
need to learn for themselves.. how it really feels.
warning or no warning.. there is that part of someones
mind that wants to know and takes the chances.

but they will realize the concequences of not following your advice

Jess_C · #11 (**permalink**) Dec 16, 01

Quote:

Originally posted by BB_YungYung
..... if they don't listen..
it's just because they want to take that chance.. and they
need to learn for themselves.. how it really feels.
warning or no warning.. there is that part of someones
mind that wants to know and takes the chances.

but they will realize the concequences of not following your advice

True that! :)