How long is to long??

LiKwID_TrAnCe · #1 (**permalink**) Jul 09, 04

I've liked this guy for maybe about like going on 2 years and well I've never really get to see him he lives far away and well I don't know if I should give up all hope or keep beliving for something to happen??? I think he likes me he tells me he does but I'm not sure at this point...what should I do????

DoctorDeezNuts · #2 (**permalink**) Jul 09, 04

long distane relationships dont really work out, i think you should move on , especially since you are haveing doubts, there are tons of hot sexy guys out there (such as me) that would probley like to take you out and show you a good time. Drop the zero and pick up the hero

LiKwID_TrAnCe · #3 (**permalink**) Jul 09, 04

Thanks for the input but I don't know if I would be able to move on right away, I mean I really really liked this guy but I think I might be able to say goodbye to him forever and a day...

skittles_0307 · #4 (**permalink**) Jul 09, 04

its a tough decision. Much like what Doctor D said,
long distance relationships are brutal. I would suggest not bothering b/c u might be missing out on someone great that lives in your area. The only time i would advise keeping a long distance relationship is if you were in it for at least a year b4 the distance situation occurd

**sNyx** · #5 (**permalink**) Jul 09, 04

what would you say is long distance?
like Vancouver to Calgary, or Vancouver to Abbotsford?
(both lack any planes or cars)

mugsy · #6 (**permalink**) Jul 09, 04

i wouldnt give up all hope forever, you never know what tomorow brings. but you shouldnt be passing oppurtunities you have now. the cute guy on the bus who says hi to you could be someone you are compatable with, but how can you know if you prevent yourself from knowing?
i wouldnt spend too much more time fretting over this one boy, too many out there that you may be passing up on. by no means am i saying go out and pick someone up tonight, but slowly see you options.

Discord · #7 (**permalink**) Jul 09, 04

dued... i'm in the same spot..

only its been 7 (nealry 8) years.

and its the same.. "oh maybe one day"

i still havent given up... *Bashful* if he gives you flutterbyes and makes you all twitterpated.. its not worth giving up

But its not worth waiting as long as you most likely will.... just keep it in mind... but don't.... "count" on it right away.

miss.myra · #8 (**permalink**) Jul 09, 04

..you're still not sure after two years?

wow. just wow.

Pussy_Kat · #9 (**permalink**) Jul 09, 04

Long distnace relationships DO work if u both have the commitment......my best friend and her boyfriend have been together for 3 years and he lives in toronto.....so if its there and u both have the passion then it is possible
if youve liked him for 2 years then there has to be something keeping these feelings so you must think its worth it WAY deep down....i say if you have the will go for it....it may be the one thing that works out

LiKwID_TrAnCe · #10 (**permalink**) Jul 10, 04

He does give me butterflies and I get all twitterpated when I talk to him, in some ways around him I could be the happiest person ever but I'm still contiplating with if I should give up all hope or if I should tell him to go fuck himself

Jingles · #11 (**permalink**) Jul 10, 04

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Originally Posted by LiKwID_TrAnCe

I've liked this guy for maybe about like going on 2 years and well I've never really get to see him he lives far away and well I don't know if I should give up all hope or keep beliving for something to happen??? I think he likes me he tells me he does but I'm not sure at this point...what should I do????

*aww the joys of being a girl* I think deep down many of us are romantics and believe in 'the one' and when we think we have found him - there is little that can stand in our way, especially something like distance

but, my thought is this - when you are crushing on someone so much that you aren't into anyone else, and that crush is rarely in your life...then what are you gaining out of the situation?

there is a safety in liking someone who is far away, you don't have to put up with their antics, you don't really have to be in a relationship, but you can pretend..and while you are fixated on someone else, then you don't have to be with anyone in the surrounding area
and , i suspect, that you've probably idealized a lot about this guy, cause he isn't around to prove your ideals wrong

it's not a bad thing, and it's not a bad thing to keep crushing - just make sure that you don't close your self off from any possibilities that could be here now for you for something that might never be

and, if it's supposed to happen, it will - no matter who ya date now

Shemsija · #12 (**permalink**) Jul 10, 04

I think you shouldn't GIVE UP, but hey if its meant to be its meant to be, whether its today, tommorow, 2 years from now it'll happen... Dont put your life on hold though you could be missing out on other things :)

miss.myra · #13 (**permalink**) Jul 10, 04

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Originally Posted by LiKwID_TrAnCe

He does give me butterflies and I get all twitterpated when I talk to him, in some ways around him I could be the happiest person ever but I'm still contiplating with if I should give up all hope or if I should tell him to go fuck himself

If he makes you happy, why would you even think of telling him to go fuck himself? It's not always the fault of the other party that distance is involved.

What does he do that doesn't make you feel sure? Two years is a long time to be in something if it just doesn't 'fit'.