guys who are aloof

booshka · #1 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

Now here's the situation, I've just met this guy who seems really great and we really hit it off. I developed a crush, and he seemed interested too. I went over to his house last night and when we were alone almost imediately started kissing me. That's all that happened, but I thought it was really forward considering we really don't know each other (we're practically strangers). I'm really interested in getting to know this guy, as I don't know much about him right now. He's so freaking aloof, that I don't know if he actually doesn't care....or if he's acting aloof for whatever reason.

Now do boys ever do this? Pretend to not care when they really do? Because I'm really interested in him, but if he doesn't care, I don't really want to waste my time.....

yoko* · #2 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

maybe he just wants sex.

if he acts like he doesn't care, he probably doesn't care... at least not about your feelings.

mojo · #3 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

^ i agree

if he went straight for the kissing right off the bat, my guess is he is a horndog.

Akeel · #4 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

you probably kissed him back too didnt you....*sigh*

now he just wants you to hump, so you better give it up because he'll never talk to you again!

miss.myra · #5 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

*shrug*
on the other hand, if he went straight up into 'WHATCHA THINKIN' mode and told you how much he cared about you and wanted to know what your favorite colour was, that would probably just seem weird and clingy to me and could be more terrifying than just someone who was a bit aloof. This IS only the first time you've hung out, after all.

If you just kissed, I wouldn't write him off as a horny jerk straight off.

Akeel · #6 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

if he whipped out his pecker and waved around yelling

"I GOT THE MAGIC STICK!"

this would be a much better story.

Veni*C · #7 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

^^ lol. classy.

rawb · #8 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

amazingly enough, with modern technology and daytime television, guys are capable of the same range of emotions and feelings females are.

you may want to print this information out and keep it with you.

you may also want to call this guy on his shit and see what's up. i know the land of the ambiguous relationship is a magical place full of mystery and unicorns and rainbows, but eventually something has to happen and someones going to end up the loser.

as romantic as it sounds you're not going to stumble into a Perfect Interpersonal Relationship With Complete Understanding and Suprisingly Little Compromise.

{SiNcErE} · #9 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

Some people just seem aloof but they really do care

mugsy · #10 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

kissing i dont think is too too bad, as long as he wasnt trying to get at the goods. and it could just be a laid back personallity that causes the aloofness.

it comes down to if hes worth the effort of trying to find out the answers. if you think he is, then give it a whirl. either ask or wait it out. if he doesnt seem worth it, then move on to the next catch.

booshka · #11 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

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Originally Posted by rawb

amazingly enough, with modern technology and daytime television, guys are capable of the same range of emotions and feelings females are.

you may want to print this information out and keep it with you.

you may also want to call this guy on his shit and see what's up. i know the land of the ambiguous relationship is a magical place full of mystery and unicorns and rainbows, but eventually something has to happen and someones going to end up the loser.

as romantic as it sounds you're not going to stumble into a Perfect Interpersonal Relationship With Complete Understanding and Suprisingly Little Compromise.

yeah, I realize that guys are capable of the same range of emotions and feelings that females are, which is why I always get so frustrated when they go off and act "like a guy," so unecessary!

I'm not interested in the ambiguous relationship either, I like openness, with lots of communication, and I realize not everything is perfect in the land of relationships....I just don't think I'm very good at reading the male mind, or maybe it's the guys I seem to surround myself with.

Miss.myra, you're correct also, if he went into uber clingy mode I would have no problem detaching myself from the situation. And it *was* the first time we'd hung out alone....

I still don't like it when guys act so aloof. Leaves me with too much self doubt.

ppcock · #12 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

"i have a penis but im willing to get the operation"

SEAN! · #13 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

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Originally Posted by Akeel

you probably kissed him back too didnt you....*sigh*

now he just wants you to hump, so you better give it up because he'll never talk to you again!

WERD!!!!

listen to the brown guy

Discord · #14 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

i'm in the same boat

They act all "i don't like you"

But if you left, they'd cry like little children.

Boys are like that sometimes. boys stink.

Goat · #15 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

^you say that now. Just wait until your penis priviledges have been revoked, you'll be sorry then.

heatherness · #16 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

guys are just messed up..

hit it while u can. ;)

wikid · #17 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

honestly, akeels right. its the fact you kissed him back which is why you guys made out all nite...and kept kissing.......now if you guys kissed for a abit, then chilled, it may be different.

but I dun know the full story, so I dun like giving advice unless I know both sides...

yoko* · #18 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

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Originally Posted by {SiNcErE}

Some people just seem aloof but they really do care

It wouldn't be enough to me if somebody I was dating cared for me if they couldn't show that they did. Regardless of whether they told me they liked me and desired me for who I am, if I didn't feel like they did I would probably constantly question their intentions.

mystique · #19 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

been in a similar situation, i wouldnt waste my time if i were you :)

Discord · #20 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

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Originally Posted by Goat

^you say that now. Just wait until your penis priviledges have been revoked, you'll be sorry then.

heh. youd think so wouldn't you?

booshka · #21 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

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Originally Posted by wikid

honestly, akeels right. its the fact you kissed him back which is why you guys made out all nite...and kept kissing.......now if you guys kissed for a abit, then chilled, it may be different.

but I dun know the full story, so I dun like giving advice unless I know both sides...

we kissed for a bit, went out for food with his roommates, and when we came back, kissed some more.

I left at 10pm.

Bitchin · #22 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

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Originally Posted by Discord

i'm in the same boat

They act all "i don't like you"

But if you left, they'd cry like little children.

Boys are like that sometimes. boys stink.

I hear ya, my ex is like that.
but Fuck him.
Why let some one that's gonna fuck you around call the shots?

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Originally Posted by Goat

^you say that now. Just wait until your penis priviledges have been revoked, you'll be sorry then.

That's when you go make boom-boom with some one else!
If you're not with the guy anymore.. then your free to fuck who YOU want!

Akeel · #23 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

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Originally Posted by booshka

we kissed for a bit, went out for food with his roommates, and when we came back, kissed some more.

I left at 10pm.

you left at 10pm?!?!

thats ok......if your 15!

but if your 18 or over you should've at least given him a blowjob so he wouldnt have to wack off after you left.

SEAN! · #24 (**permalink**) Sep 07, 04

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Originally Posted by Akeel

you left at 10pm?!?!

thats ok......if your 15!

but if your 18 or over you should've at least given him a blowjob so he wouldnt have to wack off after you left.

the man speaks the truth...

Goat · #25 (**permalink**) Sep 08, 04

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heh. youd think so wouldn't you?

i know so.

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That's when you go make boom-boom with some one else!
If you're not with the guy anymore.. then your free to fuck who YOU want!

We're not on the same wavelength concerning sex, but that's fine.
We'll discuss this over beer and a bed at a later time.