did i do that right thing?

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by flailin*fairy

okay... well all the advice i'm getting is to not cuddle with my ex.... but i dont think you guys understand how close my ex and i are...(well not so much anymore) but his g/f trusts me and him together (again not so much anymore) but i hope you get the point, this has nothing to do with me and my ex cuddling, cuz we were doing that throughout the night, while his gf was there, and she would come and join and we'd have a cuddle puddle... i just dont know if i should have just kept my mouth shut about him putting his hands down my pants, or if i did the right thing by telling them......

It actually has ENTIRELY to do with cuddling with your ex.

Regardless if you and your ex are close it is in-appropriate for you to be cuddling with him at ANY time. If you care for him that much, then you should respect he is in a relationship with another person.

[dapimpstress]

Originally Posted by Kraig

It actually has ENTIRELY to do with cuddling with your ex.

R...egardless if you and your ex are close it is in-appropriate for you to be cuddling with him at ANY time. If you care for him that much, then you should respect he is in a relationship with another person.

werd kraig werd

[Anjew]

That's exactly what I just said
First bit of advice is not to cuddle with your ex?

but you're so close to him...
sounds like you're just trying to push blame aside and make it not your fault

it's just common sense.. think about it... if you have a current bf and his ex comes up to him one day at a party, they are really close and start cuddling together how would you feel?

[G-Style]

Originally Posted by flailin*fairy

she was a sweety and we got a long great
the next morning the g/f went to go have a shower, so i went into the room WE put his hands down my pants a couple times and told me he missed having sex with me

Ok I've cut through the "story" and have now come to an opinion.
1) She was a sweety and got along great - Ah I don't buy it!
2) The G/f Went in the shower so you slid intot he bedroom - Ah No
3) WE put his hands down my pants - Please define WE. Was he sleeping and tlaking or awake and putting his hands down your pants and talking to you. I don't care what type of sleeper he is you do not have this amount of consious thinking while sleeping.

I would first of all say that I don't think you're over this guy for one. 2nd I think seeing him with another girl whos a "sweety" made you a little jealous even though you won't admit it but that you result to trying to seduce him in the morning and the best part is he never once said "sorry I have a new g/f now that I care about we can't do this". He's a loser for putting himself in that situation and you're not being honest with yourself or either one of them. Or us for that matter. I don't mean to sound harsh but this is the way i see it.

[sidekick]

Originally Posted by flailin*fairy

anyways on friday we were at my friends house popping e, w/e...

mistake numero uno.

[dapimpstress]

Originally Posted by Sidekick

mistake numero uno.

ROFL!! hehehehe.... *giggles*

[hardstylin]

you and his new GF should have tag teamed his ass woot woot!!

[G-Style]

I'm sorry to answer the original question. No there was not one thing "Right" about what you did or he did for that matter. The only person that did the right thing was his current g/f trying to be nice will you flirt with her new b/f.

You need to cuddle with someone else. Like me...lol

[G-Style]

Originally Posted by hardstylin

you and his new GF should have tag teamed his ass woot woot!!

Nope not going to say it!

[Slick_Dick]

alright. to answer your actual question. "was it right for you to say something about it?"

I say no, you should have kept your mouth shut. you either did it because you wanted to fuck things up between them or you wanted to warn her that he was an asshole. i don't think you wanted to accomplish either of those so, you fucked up. should have kept your mouth shut dummy.

[BongMan]

Originally Posted by flailin*fairy

okay... well all the advice i'm getting is to not cuddle with my ex.... but i dont think you guys understand how close my ex and i are...(well not so much anymore) but his g/f trusts me and him together (again not so much anymore) but i hope you get the point, this has nothing to do with me and my ex cuddling, cuz we were doing that throughout the night, while his gf was there, and she would come and join and we'd have a cuddle puddle... i just dont know if i should have just kept my mouth shut about him putting his hands down my pants, or if i did the right thing by telling them......

OK you ask for a bloody opinion people give it to you then its ohhhh you just dont know.. As foamy the squirrel would say people like you deserve to be shot and killed.. for everyone that doesnt know Click foamy's rant 1

[dapimpstress]

how many dayz can it go ON?

oh dear lord, i think u hopefully get the idea by now that NO it was NOT the right thing to do.....

[TrYpTaMiNe]

Originally Posted by hardstylin

you and his new GF should have tag teamed his ass woot woot!!

werd that would be hawt!

[flailin*fairy]

Originally Posted by G-Style

Ok I've cut through the "story" and have now come to an opinion.
1) She was a sweety and got along great - Ah I don't buy it!
2) The G/f Went in the shower so you slid intot he bedroom - Ah No
3) WE put his hands down my pants - Please define WE. Was he sleeping and tlaking or awake and putting his hands down your pants and talking to you. I don't care what type of sleeper he is you do not have this amount of consious thinking while sleeping.

I would first of all say that I don't think you're over this guy for one. 2nd I think seeing him with another girl whos a "sweety" made you a little jealous even though you won't admit it but that you result to trying to seduce him in the morning and the best part is he never once said "sorry I have a new g/f now that I care about we can't do this". He's a loser for putting himself in that situation and you're not being honest with yourself or either one of them. Or us for that matter. I don't mean to sound harsh but this is the way i see it.

okay... your WRONG... when i said WE i ment HE, it was just a typo.... anyways, i was close with my ex for a while after we broke up, and his new gf was awesome and she invited me into her home and called me her friend, the intire night i was telling them both how good they were for eachother... why would i want to screw that up? and yah i went into the room to cuddle, that doesnt mean i was trying to suduce him, i was just lieing there, and HE put his hands down MY pants, and as soon as he did that i mentioned his gf and told him i dont think she would appreciate that.... i do agree that if i didnt go in to cuddle with him it would have never happened, but i really didnt except it to happen in the first place, i thought i could trust him, he's never done anything like that before.... but now i dont know if he even cheated on me when we were going out and "doesnt remember".... but dont think i know i shouldnt have cuddled with him, cuz thats the number one thing i regret the most cuz... yah it would have never happened and everything still would have been good between all 3 of us (which is what i want) another thing i regret is telling her, i think i should have talked it between me and my ex before i told her, but intead i told both of them at the same time........ but i was really just trying to be honest, i hate liars, and cheaters.....

[Kraig]

Originally Posted by flailin*fairy

okay... your WRONG... when i said WE i ment HE, it was just a typo.... anyways, i was close with my ex for a while after we broke up, and his new gf was awesome and she invited me into her home and called me her friend, the intire night i was telling them both how good they were for eachother... why would i want to screw that up? and yah i went into the room to cuddle, that doesnt mean i was trying to suduce him, i was just lieing there, and HE put his hands down MY pants, and as soon as he did that i mentioned his gf and told him i dont think she would appreciate that.... i do agree that if i didnt go in to cuddle with him it would have never happened, but i really didnt except it to happen in the first place, i thought i could trust him, he's never done anything like that before.... but now i dont know if he even cheated on me when we were going out and "doesnt remember".... but dont think i know i shouldnt have cuddled with him, cuz thats the number one thing i regret the most cuz... yah it would have never happened and everything still would have been good between all 3 of us (which is what i want) another thing i regret is telling her, i think i should have talked it between me and my ex before i told her, but intead i told both of them at the same time........ but i was really just trying to be honest, i hate liars, and cheaters.....

Consider this a lesson learned. I think you really need to stop pointing the finger at him by you saying, "and HE put his hands down MY pants..." The reality is, when you point the finger at anyone, three are always pointing back at you.

With this situation, and ANY situation in fact, you have to remember that the one thing you have complete control over is yourself. I am not saying that what he did was right, as it wasn't BUT, that was out of your control. What was within your control, was you going in the room in the first place - REGARDLESS IF YOU ARE CLOSE WITH HIM OR NOT. It doesn't even matter if you are "friends" with his new girlfriend. You need to understand and acknowledge what is appropriate and what is not.

Let me put it to you this way - imagine if you were in his "current girlfriends" place. How would you feel if his ex was cuddling with him and you came out and saw this? Again I am not saying that what he did was right, but always remember with any situation or conflict, that you have complete control over what YOU do and YOUR actions.

[flailin*fairy]

i do understand that if me and my ex didnt cuddle that morning it never would have happened, but i trusted him to respect my boundries and respect his gf in the other room... i kinda believe that he didnt rememberdoing it and maybe he thought it was his gf, but a part of me believes that he does remember cuz i found out yesterday he said the exact same thing to my friend "i miss having sex with her" so i really dont know.... when i went to go cuddle with him i had no intention of doing anything with him, i accually just wanted to lay next to him, but things just went too far, and dont think after he put his hands down my pants i stayed there cuz thats not what happened....
anyways, this will be te conculsion of this whole thing, i know i did sumthing wrong, i point half the finger at myself, and half of it at him... he had no right going down my pants, and i had no right cuddling with him, also i should have told HIM only about the situation, not both of them at the same time......

[Kraig]

The bottom line is:

Ex or not, if you are friends with ANY guy who has a girlfriend, and you have respect for that friendship and the relationship he is in, then in NO CIRCUMSTANCE is it acceptable for you to be cuddling with him.

Allow me to provide you with one of the meanings of respect:
re·spect ( P ) Pronunciation Key (r-spkt)
tr.v. re·spect·ed, re·spect·ing, re·spects
To avoid violation of or interference

[G-Style]

Originally Posted by Kraig

Consider this a lesson learned. I think you really need to stop pointing the finger at him by you saying, "and HE put his hands down MY pants..." The reality is, when you point the finger at anyone, three are always pointing back at you.

With this situation, and ANY situation in fact, you have to remember that the one thing you have complete control over is yourself. I am not saying that what he did was right, as it wasn't BUT, that was out of your control. What was within your control, was you going in the room in the first place - REGARDLESS IF YOU ARE CLOSE WITH HIM OR NOT. It doesn't even matter if you are "friends" with his new girlfriend. You need to understand and acknowledge what is appropriate and what is not.

Let me put it to you this way - imagine if you were in his "current girlfriends" place. How would you feel if his ex was cuddling with him and you came out and saw this? Again I am not saying that what he did was right, but always remember with any situation or conflict, that you have complete control over what YOU do and YOUR actions.

This is what I was trying to say but I was in a harsh mood yesterday.
G

[Anjew]

kraig, gary, anjew

stop trying... she won't learn
if you can't take any blame yourself then you got issues.

[Oscar Da Grouc]

Originally Posted by Kraig

The bottom line is:

Ex or not, if you are friends with ANY guy who has a girlfriend, and you have respect for that friendship and the relationship he is in, then in NO CIRCUMSTANCE is it acceptable for you to be cuddling with him.

Allow me to provide you with one of the meanings of respect:
re·spect ( P ) Pronunciation Key (r-spkt)
tr.v. re·spect·ed, re·spect·ing, re·spects
To avoid violation of or interference

and this is why yer my hero kraig....after bruce lee of course

[flailin*fairy]

i just said i blame myself for part of it cuz yah some of it is my fault... lets just drop this thread.... i know what i did wrong, i'm an idiot.... but w/e... life has its ups and downs, and i'm going to bring it back up for myself.......

everyone can stop posting NOW!!!!

[Carrie]

I think you should fuck yourself with a cheese grater.

Girls like you are called whores and home wreckers.

If I were you.. I'd look in the mirrior every day and tell myself that you are a horrible person and have no morals.

my 2 fucken cents!

bring on the karma.. good.. or bad..

[.muffy.]

I really despise girls like you
If I found my boyfriend in bed with an ex and cuddling you'd both being getting more than a little piece of my mind.

I agree with Carrie.

You're trash.

[Carrie]

thanks adrienne!

ps.. can't wait for our bday bash!

[Anjew]

Lmao!!!!!