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Sep 29, 04
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Being "That" girl
You know how you feel when you meet someone, but find out that they are already in a relationship...
Or When your partner tells you that they have met someone else? I have come to a point where i hate myself and feel guilty all the time. I meet boys, who have girlfriends...but we have such an amazing chemistry that i feel exceptionally bad when they break up with their girlfriends to be with me.... *pressure* because what happens if i am not as good as they expected, and then they blame me for breaking up a relationship that they were in, hoping for something better and i let them down. *stressed out* Im looking at it from both sides of the Coin too, because if my man broke up with me for another girl..i would hunt her down and kill her. well, not kill her, but definantly beat her within an inch of her life and make sure she wakes up in some ditch somewhere naked. *jelousy* but then on the other side, if he breaks up with her for me, obveously the relationship he is in currently, isnt all that good right? or else there would be no reason for him to be even interested in another girl in the first place...right? *sigh* oh goodness, im just trying to justify whats going to happen, and i dont want to end up being the bad person...but i think it just might be unavoidable.... i am the devil in disguise i think...i am temptation in its female human form. 
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maybe ur just to hot for ur own good :) i would feel real bad for busting up someones relashonship, there are plenty of fish in the sea im sure you can find a legit single one :) or maybe u only like guys u cant have like ones that all ready have a girl lots of people are like that nothing to be stressin over shit happens, maybe a few weeks down the road he will meet another chick and ditch you hmmm people like that arnt worth the time angel.
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sounds lame, but at some point all girls have been THAT girl, so don't worry, and liek, how would u be able to find THE girl without going through a few THAT girls?
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so true.... but i dont want to end up being known as some boyfriend stealer....girls hate me enough as it is! lol i dont wanna be a home wrecker.
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whats up with that?
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it's a sticky situation. maybe it's just best to sit back and let fate have it's way. instead of you being the bad one in the end. honest. it's not worth it :( for both ends.
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I've been "that" girl a couple of times. Actually, now that I think about it, I've been "that" girl more than a couple of times! =\
One of my ex's was seeing a girl for two months, met me, and never called her again. When I found out (about a month into our relationship) I felt SO BAD. Another ex was going out with one girl, and found out that I liked him, and broke up with her for me. I felt super guilty, but I talked to the other girl (who I happened to be acquainted with) and she told me to go for him, that they wouldn't have worked out in the first place. Still, I felt bad. Another ex had a gf, but things were rocky...I knew his gf and I knew him, but I didn't know they were together! So when she told me that he was her boyfriend, I was mortified since he got my number a few weeks before and we had been talking on the phone almost every night, and had hung out a couple of times! He ended up breaking up with her for me. My current man had been talking to one girl on the phone for a couple of weeks, she kept wanting to meet up but they never made plans. When he met me he never called her again, and out of the blue about a week later she called him and freaked out at him for being a jerk and not calling her! Again, I had NO IDEA he was sort of seeing this girl when I met him! So basically...don't hate on "that" girl...in most situations we seriously don't know! Last edited by galaxie; Sep 29, 04 at 06:34 AM.
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I've been on BOTH sides many time..
One guy I was seeing, I didn't know had at gf at the time.. then found out he did, left her for me..I felt sooooo horrible. we went out for a couple months.. then I noticed he started to show interest in an acquaince of mine.. him and I weren't exactly working out.. But then he dumped me and went out with her... kinda hurt, but whatever I guess. Another was my friend had been seeing this guy for awhile.. everything was good for them.. I met him.. I felt bad.. cause then he left her for me.. but she was cool with it.. and we did talk about it.. felt bad.. but she was more about him and I being together then her and him...it was odd. Another guy I was just friends with.. he had a gf.. all was good him and I started to hang out mroe.. nothing happen.. then she went and was a slut behind his back.. we started seeing each other, he broke up with her.. then him and I were together for a few months... then He met this other girl.. and he dumped me for her.. it fucking hurt.. but I got over it.. him and I because friends.. now his gf and I are good friends too.. but she felt so guilty about wut had happen.. it worked out in the end :) I find that if they guy can leave the girl for another girl.. theres a %90 chance he'll do it to that girl. And repeat!
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hey I've been in this situation a couple of times. Both times, I got the impression that the relationship was "on the rocks," and I had a chance (because like you I really thought it was something special) Turns out both those cases didn't work out, and now I feel like a complete shmuck for being so selfish and not think about the other girls feelings, I'm not sure if they even know about it to this day! But if they did, I would love to apologize for being such an asshole. Anyway, you live you learn, I won't fall for a guy with a girlfriend ever again......
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i seriously hope this has nothing to do with what went on saturday night.
seriously.
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i always seem to be on the opposite end of the spectrum... for some reason, i always meet the most amazing girls when im already seeing someone else.
i don't cheat on my girlfriends so i always have to pass up what potentially could be awesome relationships.
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Sep 29, 04
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maybe i'm a cold heartless bitch
but if a man wants to leave his girlfriend and persue me, that's his business i just don't fool myself into thinking that the he could never do the same thing to me i don't want a man to cheat to be with me, so i'd rather he leave who he's with, if that's what he wants to do thats his choice but make SURE he knows what you want from him before he does anything. he is clearly looking for a way out, and maybe that's what you've given him...but make sure he knows exactly what he is in for
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fuck i remember it like it was yesterday - being "that girl" in grade 9. some looser guy told me he and his lady had broke up, i became "that girl" realized they were still together and was extremely pissed off at him. never told her because i was too scared, hated him all through highschool.
i've never been "that girl" any other time, ive always been too shy to be "that girl", but i have been on the receiving end of being the girlfriend who comes face to face with "that girl" i punched one of them, became friends with another, cant stand one of them, and dont know another one. for three of them i thought i was not good enough, obviously i was not as good as the other girls, yes its an extremely stupid assumption but i was young. then in another relationship, after i regained my self confidence\esteem, i met a boy, then the boy choose me over "that girl". i was still scared and offended, but at the same time i had this overwhelming feeling of relief - the boy liked me alot. i dont know what im getting at here. my personal opinion is that i dont like being "that girl" at all, i hate the guilt and i wouldnt want to date someone who has openly left someone else for me... whos to say he cant change his mind about me? and from my experience, i dont really get along with "that girl", but in my experience most of the time she ended up being a bitch (this is a very bias statement), but there was one who was not - like i said, we became friends. plus i get jealous and really REALLY dont like other girls being extremely flirtacious with my boyfriend - as in full on touching the arm while you laugh at his wit, or batting the eyelashes while asking him if you like that color of your brastrap - so i wouldnt want to make another girl feel like that. jealousy isnt fun. and i wouldnt want to be the cause of someones unhappiness\tears.
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got drunk and flirted with pretty much everything with legs. i think i even flirted with the cat before god has his way with her..
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lol you didn't flirt with me... at least not to my recollection... but then again there was a lot of wine and Mary J. Wanna involved... :p
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