moving for the first time ever

brokencrayon · #1 (**permalink**) Oct 06, 04

So today my mum, sister and I finally found a new home to move into for november 1st. I was all excited.. that is until I got thinking... I have never ever moved before. I have lived in this place since I was 8 months old and now I am beginning to worry. I have so many good memories here, especially memories with my dad who passed away almost 4 years ago.

Anyways, I am kinda sceptical of moving now because I don't want to leave all of that behind, I don't want to leave him behind. He loved this place. Somehow I feel like I am abandoning a huge part of my life in a way and that is scary to me. I know no other home ... even though I know it is time for a change because we all need it, I just can't seem to let this place go but now I have no choice and I feel rather lost. :(

wundergirl · #2 (**permalink**) Oct 06, 04

you just gotta keep the perspective that memories arent in the house kiddo, they're in the heart. where you live isn't going to affect the way you feel or remember.
attachment is hard tho, when i moved i swiped this antique iron grill for the vent, it goes everywhere with me as a decoration now and it's a little part of the house i grew up in. take a little peice with you and leave the house behind. if it's time for a change, make it.

brokencrayon · #3 (**permalink**) Oct 06, 04

I don't really have a piece of this house I can actually take so that kind of sucks but meh that's life. gotta just go with the flow and let life roll along in whatever direction I suppose.

mapleleaf4ever · #4 (**permalink**) Oct 06, 04

^ The best way to look at it. I've moved many times. This is the longest I've been in one place and I'm getting antsy already. 11 Years in Vancouver...

brokencrayon · #5 (**permalink**) Oct 06, 04

yeah.. I have lived here basically my whole life.. so that would be 18 years already.. I guess it is time for a change but I can't help but feel unsure about this right now, I never thought something like this (moving to a new house) would make me feel so emotional... I can't even begin to pick through all the thoughts in my mind and heart at the moment and I'm not even leaving the city.. just going to a new neigborhood. aiiiiiggghhh!

mapleleaf4ever · #6 (**permalink**) Oct 06, 04

Moving is one of the most stressful things that people do in their lives. It gets harder proportionally to the distance you are going. I totally know what you're talking about. It was the craziest when I moved from Bull Harbour (North of Vancouver Island) to Inuvik N.W.T. talk about a change.

brokencrayon · #7 (**permalink**) Oct 06, 04

heh yeah.. I have no clue about moving as I have never moved before so it is going to be pretty rough for a while but I assume that eventually I will get settled and be able to relax a little. It isn't so much the whole "moving" per say .. it's more the sentimentality I feel for this place I have grown up in and around... there is so much of me here and it is sad to have to leave it even if it is for the better. thanks for the kind words :)

Veni*C · #8 (**permalink**) Oct 06, 04

ive moved to a differnt city every 10 years so far...
its super hard at first.. but u just get used to it like anything else....

hang in there. :)

Ms.Chop · #9 (**permalink**) Oct 07, 04

hun.. it'll be alright..

ive moved sooo many times in my life.. the longest ive ever spent in 1 place was like 2 1/2 yrs.. 3 provinces god knows how many area's and god knows how many places.. its hard to adjust.. but jus think positive and it'll be alright.. :)

brokencrayon · #10 (**permalink**) Oct 07, 04

thanks for the generous input I really appreciate it and it really is helping me feel better about this whole move. I hate getting overly emotional hehe I feel so helpless when that happens.

ebbomega · #11 (**permalink**) Oct 08, 04

You think that's a big leap wait until you move out on your own.

veN · #12 (**permalink**) Oct 20, 04

And that was one year ago. Before that I lived in the same house for 21 years. In the backyard there was this cement slab that my parents had made my footprint in when I was a couple months old. I wanted to bring it with me, but it was all weathered and you couldn't even make out the words or the shape anymore. Letting go of somehere you've spent so much of your life is hard, but it's also an opportunity to grow. My family moved to a bigger house in a different city and it's all been for the better. But admittedly, when I drive past my old house, I get an odd feeling. Or when I see pictures of my old room, memories flood back, and suddenly I remember it being cozy, not "too small". Or that our house was full of love, not "full of so much stuff". BUT I survived moving, and kind of enjoyed having a fresh start. Decorating my new room was the best part! Good luck with all of that!