relationships... sigh

[jade]

here's a question... what would cause someone you love and who says they love you, when the two of you are like best friends and everything you do together is so wonderful, what would cause them one day to suddenly say, out of the blue with no warning, "you're awesome, my best friend and i love you but i'm going to leave you". i mean, what the fuck is that.
i'm starting to really wonder if there isn't something terribly wrong with me that i'm not seeing and nobody is telling me.
sorry for posting my personal shit on here but i am a thouroughly confused girl right now and needed to get it out.
feeling rejected... jade:(

[dabbler]

maybe there's someone else that you don't know about?
how long have you been together?

[Custard]

hes probably cheating on you.

Is he hanging around your best friend alot?

[mikey]

relationships are heavily over rated....

[BAL1STOPHER]

Originally Posted by mikey

relationships are heavily over rated....

i concur

[Ragga_Wh0re]

...he just wasnt that into you!

[ja_raul]

[miss.myra]

I had to do that to someone once.


Sometimes the time just comes to part ways, sometimes to one side it's working, but to the other for whatever reason it just isn't or can't. (ps it doesn't always mean they are cheating!)

[diva]

i had to do that to my best friend
it killed me to break his heart, but i could see that being together was hurting him a lot

staying together would have been a selfish thing to do, so i left

it was like severing my right hand with a rusty saw

a lot of people who didn't know the first thing about our relationship passed a lot of judgement, and still do to this day, but i think we've both figured that it was for the best if we were both going to grow as people

i don't know what to tell you
you must be very devestated, but try to keep your integrity intact and let him go

he might come back one day

[Technix]

Communication is key...he should be at least able to give you some kind of reason...

That is very abnormal.

[diesskei]

You'll find someone better later on in life.

[jade]

thanks guys... he's not cheating on me, he's the most faithful devoted man i've ever met, we were together a year and a half. it was really strange, things were great i thought, he brought me flowers one day and literally the next day wouldn't talk to me at all. i tried to find out what was wrong and didn't get anywhere except for him being an ass, wouldn't talk for 4 days and he's done that every month for the last 3 (man pms). weird, i don't know, he's not very good at communicating and i told him there can't be a very productive relationship with no communication. i think we reached that point where you have to either give it everything or leave it, and i guess he's leaving it. oh well, i guess there's not much i can do about it so i'll just go through my process here and i know i'll be okay after a while, but right now this really blows.
i keep thinking of that "he's just not that onto you" theory too, and while it doesn't make much sense to me at least i can find the humour in it.
and i'm starting to think relationships are highly overrated as well.

[impure]

i had a bestfriend who did that to me.
it devastated me.
i'm trying not to be angry at him for it but i'm having a very hard time. it's hard when you miss someone every day. i can just hope that one day, he will come back.
until then, i will miss him.

[jade]

it's hard when i go to places we'd usually go to together, alone, and do things we'd do together, alone.
i want to feel something other than pain and confusion.

[*jess*]

I'm in the same boat. :(

[cinist]

maybe he just got scared, it happens. no matter how much it hurts tho, that will go away and someone else will come along...

[jade]

well, i am no longer feeling rejected, now i'm just baffled and a bit angry but able to find the humour because it's gotten worse.
he's yelled at me, called me every name, yesterday he was throwing stuff around, pushed the kitchen table through the window of the house, and tried to blackmail me out of my car, saying that he won't pay me back the money ($1300) he owes me unless i gave him my car, among other things. as you can see, that makes a lot of sense. but, now it's apparently all my fault and he thinks he's the one who has been so understanding and friendly. he's not making any sense, he's completely irrational and impossible to talk to so i am happy to be rid of him now.
i am to the point where i don't even care about the money, i just want him gone. i am off men for now, but some good sex would be really nice.
GRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!

[Dj Franco]

I am in the same boat ur in without all the violence tho... Ive been going out with my gf for a year and a half now and she says she still loves me yet she broke up with me last night and basically said she cant do it anymore. Well i dont know quite understand that cause i thought Love meant u cant live without the other person but i guess i was Wrong. Relationships suck, if ur up for the sex tho Jade get a hold of me lol....

[.o0*HaLo*0o.]

aww *hugs* this thread makes me wnt to cry. my bf and i are just past the 1 1/2 year mark... and if he came home one day and was like, im leaving you, and had his side of the house packed, i would probably have to commit myself to the hospital before i did something stupid. i can't say i feel your pain, but if i did, i wouldnt even be strong enough to type. i would die inside. I hope things work out for you, if not with him, then with yourself.
Be strong, and try and find something to focus yourself in. School, career, or something that makes you happy or WILL make you happy. Try to become the best you, you can possibly be! If your feeling unloved by others, then the best thing to do is show YOURSELF some love and be stronnnng!