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Apr 15, 05
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I guess it's starting to get to spring or something.
I had someone ask me yesterday if I knew any single guys she might like to go out with. After parsing the immediate "Is she hitting on me" detector (What can I say? I'm a guy. BTW, it parsed to "dunno, just a radar blip, quite possible") I then found I had squat for an answer... Mainly because I really only knew well about 2 or 3 people in Nanaimo. All my Duncan friends are a different circle entirely (one that I don't see intermingling at all well) and my Van friends are all either older or I just am not in contact with that much nearly enough.
Then I realize why: My relationship radar has been turned off for about 10 months. I've had a regular fuckbuddy throughout it who we've been having a really good friendship throughout it, but other than that and a little playing around with a few other friends on a mere casual basis, I haven't really been paying much attention to any of that game. The thing is, stuff like the "talks" where you've gotta tell the person "I'm not dating right now" don't really even need to happen it seems. Mainly because the people I spend this time with I'm more interested in becoming friends with before I progress with anything like that it seems. I think I got swept up quickly in the last relationship I was in and I'm a bit more on my guard. I'd like to think I'm more cautious about it, but I'm worried I'm just being cold about it. That and I think having friends honestly gives you more strength than simply having one person you're devoting yourself to constantly. Especially when you get so quickly into it that you're not too certain if you really like this person or not. It was around the same time that my ex and I broke up that I started to realize the importance of friends in life. I love my friends. I wouldn't trade 'em for anything. I think I still need to get outta dodge. I've been in Nanaimo 5 months now and I'm still jumping ship to Van and Duncan every weekend. I can't stand it... there's no social life I can seem to coexist with in Nanaimo - Everybody has different days off, Malispina kids have weekends that I don't, and there's really not much to do around town, except for maybe Sundays at Press Room, and it's seeming hard to build a social life out of that small of a club scene.... I dunno. I'm very pensive lately. Very inward or something. Maybe it's me feeling depressed again. Or exhausted. Yeah. Let's say exhausted. Moved out of the old crackhouse where my shit got robbed thrice now (Hey, one more time, just for good measure, they went through a whole bunch of my shit that I considered useless enough to lose). Mecury's out of retrograde. I'd like to think the pieces can kinda start to be picked up soon, and maybe I can get my ass out to Van. But that whole thing's been discouraging to me lately. I haven't reached a lot of clarity yet of how to move from where I'm at. Have faith, Dave. Have faith. You'll move when you need, when the timing's right... right? These things have a weird way of working out. You're just getting anxious. When summer hits, you'll be able to relax, start churning out results instead of building up for the year. But it still kinda pangs in me every time I have a Van friend say "You gotta get back out here" or one of my Duncan friends ask "Moved to Vancouver yet?" Nope, haven't gotten there yet. Feeling a bit meefy about it. Working on it still. Silliness, Dave "Holy LJ Batman!" Leckie 
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Apr 15, 05
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first off... meefy? is an awesome word... "mmm feelin a little meefy about it"
i can totally see the face and hand gesture in my head.. but anyways i feel like i'm going through the same thing right now.. i think it's definately the time of year where everyone is exhausted from the dank, dark winter weather..the world is starting to let the light in and we're all looking around to see only how much we've fallen apart over the season.. oi. cold from the last relationship. having troubles connecting with friends in the midst of pulling my life together and not really knowing where i'm headed.. but hoping one day everything will fall together i hope that life doesn't feel like your forever pulling yourself together, not knowing where your going or whats going to happen.. i know it's bound to happen often, but i hope there are breaks in between.. .really really long breaks.. definately looking forward to summer
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Apr 15, 05
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http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Meef
The stuff that's not about a mongoose. The way I always interpreted it was from a verb: To meef is to be annoyingly counterproductive. A meef is one who meefs. To be meefy is to act like a meef. Meef is also the sound a meef makes. They go "meef meef meef meef". eg. "So I was over at Joday's place and he was all 'Meef meef meef' and I said 'JODAY! Stop being such a meef!' and he was all 'MEEF!'" - Tom023 Last edited by ebbomega; Apr 15, 05 at 10:47 AM.
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Apr 16, 05
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To add to the fun, I just had a friend tell me I've been out of it for the past few weeks...
Maybe it's because a bunch of shit went down recently, but I have no clue why I'm feeling so blah. Except today. Today I was hungover. And since being hungover I'm just tired. But yeah. Ruts suck. And now people are noticing it. And last night i went to this party, and was waaaaaay too heady.... like, my internal dialogue was going at like a mile a minute... fuck... this was supposed to be a chance to relax, right? MEEF!
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Apr 16, 05
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"mongoose goes meef"
rofl.
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Apr 16, 05
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i've gotten asked a lot if i have any single friends.
and i do, but i dont feel comfortable setting people up because i don't know what each are looking for and then if they go out and break up, i'll feel bad for setting up a horrible relationship
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Apr 16, 05
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*waves hand* This is the Girl you have been looking for...
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Apr 17, 05
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i don't think i've ever set anybody up before (actually i don't think...I KNOW) and i can't see myself doing it. just doesn't seem right. do i look like some meddling female?
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Apr 17, 05
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i haven't and won't set people up. i hate getting asked to do so as well.
i mean, i don't even like mixing groups of friends, why would i want to set someone up? just as well, i don't like people trying to set me up. it makes me feel really awkward.
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Apr 20, 05
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i hate the whole concept of the "set-up"
once in grade 9 my best friends came up to me and said "john really likes you , he thinks your really cute.. blah blah blah.. go out with him, go out with him!" and i was like, um, i've never spoken to him in my life; no. in the end after much harrassment i finally siad yes then he walked over to me and said... "Sooo... you like stuff?" then later found out that my friends told HIM that i like HIM and i thought that he was really cute and yadda yadda.. needless to say it didn't last long and it was a huge embarrassment. i also picked up a lovely nick-name 'Ice Princess' because i didn't kiss him.... HELLO . i didn't even like him! ugh.. sometimes i really hated highschool..
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Apr 21, 05
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In the heat of the moment, I always want to set so and so up with so and so. Eventually after contemplating it, I choose against it. Things can go wrong and then I know I would feel guilty, or awkward.
I have an ex boyfriend/fling that ALWAYS asks me to set him up with my friends. It drives me crazy. I know the perfect girl for him, but just cant bring myself to introduce them.
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