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Jun 22, 05
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have u ever given a eulogy at a loved ones funeral?
im debating if i should speak at my grandpas funeral.
he was the man i admired most in the world, aside from my father, and he passed away last night. i was just seeing how other people handled this. did u find it too hard??! what did u talk about? 
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Jun 22, 05
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I haven't given one but I've heard a few in my Day.
Basically you talk about the best Memories of the Person and why you admired them. Stick to the positive. :) P.S. Hope you're doing well... I sympathize as I lost both my Grandfathers when I was quite young.
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Jun 22, 05
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If it helps your heart to be able to speak fondy and proudly of the life your grandfather lead and what he meant to you then I say do it. It's best to remember someone by the effect they had on other peoples lives and to let everyone know what he meant to you will do their hearts some good too.
My 2 cents.... My condolences to you and yours as well Krista.... you take care hun.
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Jun 22, 05
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i just dont know if i will be able to handle it, theres so much i want to say, but i dont know if it would be better to have me try and say it, or just have someone else read it for me.
thanks for the condolences guys, i've never lost someone this close to me...so its a little rough, i appreciate the good thoughts!
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Jun 22, 05
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^I spoke at my Grandmother's funeral as well as at the funeral of one of my best friends who committed suicide. When it really comes down to it you'll be a lot stronger than you think. On top of that it's OK to let yourself cry up there.... you're celebrating his life but you're also mourning his passing.
Trust me, you'll regret it if you don't. Especially considering how much he meant to you.
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Jun 22, 05
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Each of the children spoke at my father's funeral.
I spoke first and I am glad I did. It's your last chance to say something to him so take advantage of it.
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Jun 23, 05
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I spoke @ my grandmas funeral twice cause my sister broke down and couldnt finish hers, and my grandpa just died his funeral is on the 5th Ill be sure to speak there too.
I dont know why but I think its important to get those last words in, I think youd regret it if you didnt
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Jun 23, 05
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I wrote a poem for my great uncle and read it at his 'memorial' after he killed himself. I think I was 12? Maybe 13?
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Jun 23, 05
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i'm sure he would love it if you did..
gimme a call if you need anything
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Jun 23, 05
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^^^ thanks hun
well i wrote it. I dont know how i'll get thru it next week, as i've been crying the entire time of writing it. but i think you're all right, i'll regret it if i don't. and of one the best traits i got from him was to be strong...so i will be for him. thank you
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Jun 23, 05
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Just keep these words in mind the entire time... I spoke them at the funeral that day:
"Love moves at the speed of thought... and wherever you are I am thinking of you."
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Jun 23, 05
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My Dad was always known as a great public speaker, and I think I might end up carrying on that tradition..
So far I haven't had to do any euologies (thankfully!) but I did speak at one of my best friends' weddings last summer. As to whether or not you should speak, it sounds like you have good reason to. Your reason for wanting to speak at your grandfather's eulogy is the same as my reason for wanting to speak at the wedding: Because it's a once in a lifetime opportunity to express how much that person meant to you. A good speech would be one in which you illustrate why you had so much respect for him and why you'll miss him, with some tasteful humour mixed in as well. Delivering it can be a bitch if you're nervous about such things, but if he was that important to you then you really have to; otherwise you'll kick yourself for not stepping up. When my friend asked me to speak at his wedding, I told him if he hadn't asked me, I would have asked him, because it was important to me. Little did I know he would have 600 goddamn people at his reception, most of them Sihk relatives who didn't get my hockey jokes :-o Still totally worth it. Do it.
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Jun 23, 05
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Losing a family member is soo hard, but being able to share memories and stories with loved ones really helps. It seems impossible to stand up there infront of a hundred people and not lose your cool. And thats ok. Things will all come to place when it happens. Good luck =D
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Jun 23, 05
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ive seen alot of death of close family memebers in my short life..its never easy..speakin would help you put it behind you for sure..i wanted to speak at my moms funeral but they wouldnt let me..and the funny thing was i was the only one not breakin down..they would have rather had my aunt stammer out a few words that you couldnt understand...be strong remember all the good times..funerals r a sad time but in a way there a new begining for you..cuz now you have to move on with your life without your grandpa there physically...pound thoes good memories in yer brain and never forget em!!
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Jun 30, 05
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But it's not like I can't goto thier graves, or speak with their s/o to get what I have to say out. in order to say my good byes. Though, I know next close fam member/friend I lose.... I will speak. Just gawd forbid anyone passes away anytime soon.
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Jun 30, 05
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i sang at my best friends funeral.It was pretty tough,and i broke down half way through the song but its something i needed to do.
I guess use your own discression.
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Jul 02, 05
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I wrote and read the eulogy at my dad's funeral - I was 15.
It was easily the hardest thing I've ever had to do, but at the same time I knew that I would have regretted allowing someone else do it - no one knew my dad like I did.
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Jul 03, 05
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When my grandmother died, I couldn't. I wrote most of what was read by my father, it was actually a "Happy Mothers day" card I had written to her days before knowing she probably would die soon. It listed all the things I loved about her, from how she always told my parents we were perfect angels when we visited her and believed it (even when we were little tyrants), down to her famous salmon sandwiches. I was up there with him though as he read it, as were my sisters. Theres no way I would have been able to make it through the whole thing without breaking down.
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Jul 03, 05
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Hey sorry to hear that Krista....I think though it would be good to speak at his funeral that way you could get some closure and like someone else said in this post it would be ur last words to him....
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