Falling in love and climbing back out again

[Heffy]

Falling in love with somone is easy, perhaps too easy somtimes. It's the whole climbing out that seems to drive people crazy. I'm just interested how other people cope with having lingering feelings about somone who has demonstrated time and time again that they don't care and have moved on.

The only way I know is to completely remove the person from your life. Everything they ever gave you, every picture, letter, email, phone number, EVERYTHING MUST GO! By doing this you force yourself to forget about that person that much quicker.

[Goat]

Having lingering feelings about someone is normal after a romantic relationship. If someone has no interest after claiming they were 'in love', I doubt they ever loved at all.

It's maturity, self discipline and control (or lack there of) that help you move on from that person.

Why would you want to forget about a person you spent good times with or was intimate with? Those are some of the greatest feelings that can't be reproduced by any drug or sport but love itself.

Give yourself some time away from that person and try to fill the time you used to share with a productive activitiy. Later, look back and learn what went wrong. If you force yourself to forget you're only setting yourself to walk into a different situation and make the same mistakes twice.

Remember the good times you had and will have again.

[Discord]

this is going to sound like a walking cliché.

you can love someone without having them love you back. you can honor your feelings keep the precious memories and move on.

lets get Geeky:

Its like in Trek DS9 Episode 151:
When Warf is Faced with Ezri Dax after his wife Jadzia Dax has just died. Seeing Ezri Pains Warf because hes now forced to deal with the memories of his wifes death.
he shuns her, ignores her, is rude to her-But by doing so he dishonors Jadzia.
in
Episode 167
They are forced to deal with there problems. Warf and Ezri make love- then Ezri tells him she doesn't love him like Jadzia did. she loves someone else.

and Warf has to deal with the loss of his wife again: but in the end he finds peace by having Ezri in his life. and loving her as a friend.

ANNNYWAYS: Thats how I Understand it.

Tho sometimes is not so logical.

[hardstylin]

find some skank to hump.

[dj_soo]

Originally Posted by Discord

this is going to sound like a walking cliché.

you can love someone without having them love you back. you can honor your feelings keep the precious memories and move on.

lets get Geeky:

Its like in Trek DS9 Episode 151:
When Warf is Faced with Ezri Dax after his wife Jadzia Dax has just died. Seeing Ezri Pains Warf because hes now forced to deal with the memories of his wifes death.
he shuns her, ignores her, is rude to her-But by doing so he dishonors Jadzia.
in
Episode 167
They are forced to deal with there problems. Warf and Ezri make love- then Ezri tells him she doesn't love him like Jadzia did. she loves someone else.

and Warf has to deal with the loss of his wife again: but in the end he finds peace by having Ezri in his life. and loving her as a friend.

ANNNYWAYS: Thats how I Understand it.

Tho sometimes is not so logical.

Dude, it's "Worf"

and you call yourself a geek...

[Discord]

spelling was never my strong point.

never the less.. I am geek shamed...like the time i kept calling Obi Wan

"oby one" - hehe. I totaly suck.

[thechix0r]

I did that when I broke up with my long term boyfriend. I got rid of everything that I had ever corresponded with my ex and put it all in a box and stored it somewhere, so that I could remember when I wanted, but could move on. It definitely helped me alot. I also joined an activity to keep my mind off not being with him and although it took me a while to get over him, in the end it definitely helped. It also helped to block him off my msn and just not talk to him, because talking to him was more torture than anything and reminded me of what I didn't have anymore. Ah love.... so complicated but not at the same time

[justShell]

dont fall in love- its a waste of time. it makes you do stupid things and ruins your relationships. unfortunately you cant stop it. glad that its only happend to me once.. if that was really love at all.. now im sad:(

[mojo]

Only eyes washed by tears can see clearly.
-Louis Mann

[thechix0r]

Originally Posted by candi::shell

dont fall in love- its a waste of time. it makes you do stupid things and ruins your relationships. unfortunately you cant stop it. glad that its only happend to me once.. if that was really love at all.. now im sad:(

Wow, aren't we bitter and jaded....

[Heffy]

I think the lyrics from "Unavailable" by ShyFX say it the best. LOL

[justShell]

Originally Posted by thechix0r

Wow, aren't we bitter and jaded....

yeah. sounds like it doesnt it. really im just scared of being hurt. but then again.. who isn't. loves a huge gamble, one that i havent taken in a good long tme.

[Silverwinged]

i wish a few people that wont speak to me would look at this damn thread.

[thechix0r]

^^^ don't we all

much love! <3