When loved ones make bonehead decisions...

Prissypants · #1 (**permalink**) Nov 25, 06

Situation: My brother (who I love dearly and is liked by almost anyone he meets) is getting married to his psychotic girlfriend. Not only that but he wants me to be the best man at his wedding. I have already told him I think it is a dumb DUMB decision. He was at my house only a month ago because she was acting so crazy he had to leave and take the kids with him.

I think that the fact that they have kids together is the main fuel for this decision but still dumb.

Examples of how crazy this girl is: My bro will leave the house instead of stand there and argue with her because he believes that it is not good to yell around the kids. She has no problem doing it.

The reason he came to my house last week: She bought pop at the grocery store without telling him and put it in the back of their SUV. He drove home and got the groceries out of the car. When they got in the door she went to open the pop and it fizzed all over the place and she tore a strip off of him because somehow it was his fault for not driving a way so that the pop which he didn't even know was there didn't fizz when she opened it.

It takes a bunch for me to not like someone (and I've tried to like her), but seriously, I don't even go visit him anymore because I can't stand to be there and see the way she treats him and acts around the kids. She is abbrasive, loud, over-opinionated and under-intelligent.

I am going to the wedding for him but I don't think I'll drink lest I say something unsavory... :(

Lesson here kids is don't put up with crap and learn to value what your head says over your heart sometimes.

thechix0r · #2 (**permalink**) Nov 25, 06

Aw man,I hear yah with that one. My mom is with a tard that I can't stand and I can't stand being in the house when he's there... it's hard because you want so much to just unleash and say everything that you've wanted to say since the situation started to worry you, but at the same time, you love them and you don't want to hurt them... fine balance and it's hard to judge what to do.

In your situation, I can see why you're concerned... she doesn't seem very easy to get along with and marrying someone who is toxic like that is really hard on a person... it ages them and it wears them thin... all I can say is I hope that it turns out for the best, as most stuff in life eventually starts to iron itself out.

Ms.Tarantula · #3 (**permalink**) Nov 25, 06

say it. say it all.

dont spit out the you should do this and you should do that..

but tell your opinion and what you see. to him... AND to her.

if they want to get married they will do it no matter what you think. but mabye they will get a little glimpse of what others see in them.

well, thats what I would do anyways.

the truth hurts, but you can't be afraid of it.

Prissypants · #4 (**permalink**) Nov 25, 06

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Originally Posted by Ms.Tarantula

say it. say it all.

dont spit out the you should do this and you should do that..

but tell your opinion and what you see. to him... AND to her.

if they want to get married they will do it no matter what you think. but mabye they will get a little glimpse of what others see in them.

well, thats what I would do anyways.

the truth hurts, but you can't be afraid of it.

Oh, I've already told both of them...Her and I do not get along and I make no secret of it...

esoter1c · #5 (**permalink**) Nov 25, 06

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Originally Posted by Prissypants

Situation: My brother (who I love dearly and is liked by almost anyone he meets) is getting married to his psychotic girlfriend. Not only that but he wants me to be the best man at his wedding. I have already told him I think it is a dumb DUMB decision. He was at my house only a month ago because she was acting so crazy he had to leave and take the kids with him.

I think that the fact that they have kids together is the main fuel for this decision but still dumb.

Examples of how crazy this girl is: My bro will leave the house instead of stand there and argue with her because he believes that it is not good to yell around the kids. She has no problem doing it.

The reason he came to my house last week: She bought pop at the grocery store without telling him and put it in the back of their SUV. He drove home and got the groceries out of the car. When they got in the door she went to open the pop and it fizzed all over the place and she tore a strip off of him because somehow it was his fault for not driving a way so that the pop which he didn't even know was there didn't fizz when she opened it.

It takes a bunch for me to not like someone (and I've tried to like her), but seriously, I don't even go visit him anymore because I can't stand to be there and see the way she treats him and acts around the kids. She is abbrasive, loud, over-opinionated and under-intelligent.

I am going to the wedding for him but I don't think I'll drink lest I say something unsavory... :(

Lesson here kids is don't put up with crap and learn to value what your head says over your heart sometimes.

Sooooooooooo....what you're saying is, she's a woman.

Yeah, buck up lil' buddy, all women are psychotic.

Especially about fizzy pop.

Jingles · #6 (**permalink**) Nov 25, 06

You aren't marrying her - your brother is and just like a friend, you cannot make a brother dump someone he doesn't want to. You can choose to not be a part of his day as a protest. You can choose to simply attend and not be in the wedding party, but if that's too harsh and you want to be there for him then be there for him. This is his family and if he wants to make it work with a crazy then that is up to him.

If your brother recognizes that there is work to be done in their relationship then perhaps you can recommend some pre-wedding counseling, but all you can do is recommend. I feel for you man. I know both you and your brother are awesome guys who deserve the best, but if you keep vocalizing your dislike of his love you are putting an unnessesary stain on your relationship with him and giving her fuel for the future.
Talk to him man to man and be neutral about her by listening to him. If at the end of the conversation he is still in favor of the nuptuials - then just be the best brother you can be and support him.

rawb · #7 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

SOMETIMES WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE MAKES A DECISION YOU DONT AGREE WITH AND CANT UNDERSTAND, YOU HAVE TO SHUT THE FUCK UP AND TAKE IT. WHILE IT MAY FEEL GOOD TO UNBURDEN YOURSELF AND BE DR RUTH AND RUN YOUR BRO'S LIFE, ITS NOT YOUR PLACE AND YOU HAVE TO RECOGNIZE THAT.

LISTEN, LOVE IS FUCKED UP AND HE IS HAPPY, OR AT LEAST AT A PLACE WHERE HE IS CONVINCED HE IS HAPPY. MAYBE THIS CHICK IS REALLY CHILL WHEN YOU'RE NOT THERE. MAYBE THIS CHICK GIVES REDICK CIRCUS SEAL HEAD THAT MAKES YOUR BROTHER A SLAVE TO HER FACE. MAYBE THIS CHICK IS ABOUT TO DIE. YOU DO NOT KNOW ALL OF THE FACTORS.

IF YOU UNBURDEN YOURSELF YOU WILL MAKE THINGS REALLY AWKWARD, ALSO YOU WILL LOOK LIKE A DICK AND MAKE YOUR BROTHER SAD. IMAGINE IF SOMEONE PUT A DARK CLOUD OVER ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT DAYS OF THEIR LIFE.

LASTLY, YOU ALSO OPEN YOURSELF UP TO RIDICULE FOR YOUR LIFE CHOICES, AND I THINK MOST OF THE BOARD HAS SEEN THAT YOU DRESS LIKE A GAY STRIPPER SO THAT MAY NOT BE A GOOD IDEA. GLASS HOUSES AND ALL OF THAT.

HUGS AND LOLLIPOPS
YOUR FRIEND

Grapes · #8 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

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She bought pop at the grocery store without telling him and put it in the back of their SUV. He drove home and got the groceries out of the car. When they got in the door she went to open the pop and it fizzed all over the place and she tore a strip off of him because somehow it was his fault for not driving a way so that the pop which he didn't even know was there didn't fizz when she opened it.

Hooooooo boy, I'm getting sympathy stress just reading that.

-evil-duerr- · #9 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

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Originally Posted by rawb

SOMETIMES WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE MAKES A DECISION YOU DONT AGREE WITH AND CANT UNDERSTAND, YOU HAVE TO SHUT THE FUCK UP AND TAKE IT. WHILE IT MAY FEEL GOOD TO UNBURDEN YOURSELF AND BE DR RUTH AND RUN YOUR BRO'S LIFE, ITS NOT YOUR PLACE AND YOU HAVE TO RECOGNIZE THAT.

LISTEN, LOVE IS FUCKED UP AND HE IS HAPPY, OR AT LEAST AT A PLACE WHERE HE IS CONVINCED HE IS HAPPY. MAYBE THIS CHICK IS REALLY CHILL WHEN YOU'RE NOT THERE. MAYBE THIS CHICK GIVES REDICK CIRCUS SEAL HEAD THAT MAKES YOUR BROTHER A SLAVE TO HER FACE. MAYBE THIS CHICK IS ABOUT TO DIE. YOU DO NOT KNOW ALL OF THE FACTORS.

IF YOU UNBURDEN YOURSELF YOU WILL MAKE THINGS REALLY AWKWARD, ALSO YOU WILL LOOK LIKE A DICK AND MAKE YOUR BROTHER SAD. IMAGINE IF SOMEONE PUT A DARK CLOUD OVER ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT DAYS OF THEIR LIFE.

LASTLY, YOU ALSO OPEN YOURSELF UP TO RIDICULE FOR YOUR LIFE CHOICES, AND I THINK MOST OF THE BOARD HAS SEEN THAT YOU DRESS LIKE A GAY STRIPPER SO THAT MAY NOT BE A GOOD IDEA. GLASS HOUSES AND ALL OF THAT.

HUGS AND LOLLIPOPS
YOUR FRIEND

"must spread more karma......"

BongMan · #10 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

I say tear a strip off her, but thats just me. Why not attach one of these to her

every time she starts yapping she would get a wonderful Citronella spray to the face..

Grapes · #11 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

LOOOOLS ^

thechix0r · #12 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

Oh god... Jeff that was priceless

Prissypants · #13 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

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Originally Posted by rawb

SOMETIMES WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE MAKES A DECISION YOU DONT AGREE WITH AND CANT UNDERSTAND, YOU HAVE TO SHUT THE FUCK UP AND TAKE IT. WHILE IT MAY FEEL GOOD TO UNBURDEN YOURSELF AND BE DR RUTH AND RUN YOUR BRO'S LIFE, ITS NOT YOUR PLACE AND YOU HAVE TO RECOGNIZE THAT.

LISTEN, LOVE IS FUCKED UP AND HE IS HAPPY, OR AT LEAST AT A PLACE WHERE HE IS CONVINCED HE IS HAPPY. MAYBE THIS CHICK IS REALLY CHILL WHEN YOU'RE NOT THERE. MAYBE THIS CHICK GIVES REDICK CIRCUS SEAL HEAD THAT MAKES YOUR BROTHER A SLAVE TO HER FACE. MAYBE THIS CHICK IS ABOUT TO DIE. YOU DO NOT KNOW ALL OF THE FACTORS.

IF YOU UNBURDEN YOURSELF YOU WILL MAKE THINGS REALLY AWKWARD, ALSO YOU WILL LOOK LIKE A DICK AND MAKE YOUR BROTHER SAD. IMAGINE IF SOMEONE PUT A DARK CLOUD OVER ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT DAYS OF THEIR LIFE.

LASTLY, YOU ALSO OPEN YOURSELF UP TO RIDICULE FOR YOUR LIFE CHOICES, AND I THINK MOST OF THE BOARD HAS SEEN THAT YOU DRESS LIKE A GAY STRIPPER SO THAT MAY NOT BE A GOOD IDEA. GLASS HOUSES AND ALL OF THAT.

HUGS AND LOLLIPOPS
YOUR FRIEND

Woah dude, what's with the personal attack. I am out to look out for my bro and his kids. He has even admitted that if the kids weren't there then he wouldn't be either. When I asked him if this decision would make him happy, all he could say was: "Well we own stuff together so we might as well make it legal." I care about my family and him. We tell each other everything. He is the same way when I am dating someone he doesn't like or doesn't think would be good for me.

As far as how I dress, well different strokes I guess...I suppose that your gear is the perfect setup for when you're out selling pencils on the street so that you can by crack or maybe 5 minutes with some toothless whore...but who knows. After all...glass houses and whatnot.

HUGS! :)

Grapes · #14 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

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Originally Posted by Prissypants

Woah dude, what's with the personal attack.

The weird thing is, I think he was trying to be helpful.

rawb · #15 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

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Originally Posted by Prissypants

As far as how I dress, well different strokes I guess...I suppose that your gear is the perfect setup for when you're out selling pencils on the street so that you can by crack or maybe 5 minutes with some toothless whore...

HEY IM READING THIS AND IT DAWNED ON ME: IF THIS IS ALL YOU CAN COME UP WITH, MAYBE YOUR BROTHER DOESN'T LISTEN TO YOU BECAUSE WHEN YOU GET FLUSTERED YOU HAVE ALL OF THE ELOQUENCE AND WIT OF AN 11 YEAR OLD GIRL. IM PRETTY SURE ITS THE REASON.

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT WHEN PERUSING THE SALE RACK AT LE CHATEAU MALE OR WINNERS FOR YOUR NEXT ACRYLIC MASTERPIECE OR PUNKY BREWSTER HAT. HEY WASN'T SHE 11 TOO?

SEE I'VE HELPED YOU TWICE IN ONE POST, ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS AGE 15+ YEARS AND GROW A DICK AND YOU WILL BE CAUGHT UP WITH THE REST OF US IN THE ADULT WORLD.
: D!

Grapes · #16 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

OK, he's not being helpful anymore.

rawb · #17 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

BONGMAN STILL HAS BEST NON-HELPFUL POST IN THREAD

impure · #18 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

Quote:

Originally Posted by rawb

SOMETIMES WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE MAKES A DECISION YOU DONT AGREE WITH AND CANT UNDERSTAND, YOU HAVE TO SHUT THE FUCK UP AND TAKE IT. WHILE IT MAY FEEL GOOD TO UNBURDEN YOURSELF AND BE DR RUTH AND RUN YOUR BRO'S LIFE, ITS NOT YOUR PLACE AND YOU HAVE TO RECOGNIZE THAT.

LISTEN, LOVE IS FUCKED UP AND HE IS HAPPY, OR AT LEAST AT A PLACE WHERE HE IS CONVINCED HE IS HAPPY. MAYBE THIS CHICK IS REALLY CHILL WHEN YOU'RE NOT THERE. MAYBE THIS CHICK GIVES REDICK CIRCUS SEAL HEAD THAT MAKES YOUR BROTHER A SLAVE TO HER FACE. MAYBE THIS CHICK IS ABOUT TO DIE. YOU DO NOT KNOW ALL OF THE FACTORS.

IF YOU UNBURDEN YOURSELF YOU WILL MAKE THINGS REALLY AWKWARD, ALSO YOU WILL LOOK LIKE A DICK AND MAKE YOUR BROTHER SAD. IMAGINE IF SOMEONE PUT A DARK CLOUD OVER ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT DAYS OF THEIR LIFE.

LASTLY, YOU ALSO OPEN YOURSELF UP TO RIDICULE FOR YOUR LIFE CHOICES, AND I THINK MOST OF THE BOARD HAS SEEN THAT YOU DRESS LIKE A GAY STRIPPER SO THAT MAY NOT BE A GOOD IDEA. GLASS HOUSES AND ALL OF THAT.

HUGS AND LOLLIPOPS
YOUR FRIEND

thread closure.

Grapes · #19 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

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Originally Posted by rawb

BONGMAN STILL HAS BEST NON-HELPFUL POST IN THREAD

No, that was helpful.

Prissypants · #20 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

Quote:

Originally Posted by rawb

HEY IM READING THIS AND IT DAWNED ON ME: IF THIS IS ALL YOU CAN COME UP WITH, MAYBE YOUR BROTHER DOESN'T LISTEN TO YOU BECAUSE WHEN YOU GET FLUSTERED YOU HAVE ALL OF THE ELOQUENCE AND WIT OF AN 11 YEAR OLD GIRL. IM PRETTY SURE ITS THE REASON.

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT WHEN PERUSING THE SALE RACK AT LE CHATEAU MALE OR WINNERS FOR YOUR NEXT ACRYLIC MASTERPIECE OR PUNKY BREWSTER HAT. HEY WASN'T SHE 11 TOO?

SEE I'VE HELPED YOU TWICE IN ONE POST, ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS AGE 15+ YEARS AND GROW A DICK AND YOU WILL BE CAUGHT UP WITH THE REST OF US IN THE ADULT WORLD.
: D!

Hmmm...Well I guess I will have to be satisfied with going to sleep beside a cutie tonight (who actually approves of my fashion sense and my dick size) while you use your tears for lube as you jerk it to the women's underwear section of the newest K-mart flyer looking up to god and asking: "why am I so lonely?"

Shoo now little boy...I know you are all big and blustery...but really, macho posturing is going to get you nowhere, especially when the best you can do apparently are gay and penis size shots...

charly · #21 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

jeff - that is the best post i've seen on here in a long time. *high five* (i'd give karma but i can't :P)

this thread has gone way past the original intent.

what have sexuality and clothing choices have to do with anything? really now! shitty relationships are shitty relationships.

it's like the dumb girl who won't leave her abusive boyfriend.. saying anything won't make a difference. eventually they'll realize they fucked up and they'll have a mess to clean up, but that's their problem for staying in such a shitty place. and hopefully they'll learn from it. if not, then they're just dumb.

besides.. some people are just emotional masochists (whether or not they'll admit it)

rawb · #22 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

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Originally Posted by Prissypants

Hmmm...Well I guess I will have to be satisfied with going to sleep beside a cutie tonight (who actually approves of my fashion sense and my dick size)

HE SHOULD, HE'S PAYING.

FireWire · #23 (**permalink**) Nov 26, 06

rawb · #24 (**permalink**) Nov 27, 06

JOKES ON YOU, I HOLD DOWN SHIFT

Prissypants · #25 (**permalink**) Nov 27, 06

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Originally Posted by charly

jeff - that is the best post i've seen on here in a long time. *high five* (i'd give karma but i can't :P)

this thread has gone way past the original intent.

what have sexuality and clothing choices have to do with anything? really now! shitty relationships are shitty relationships.

it's like the dumb girl who won't leave her abusive boyfriend.. saying anything won't make a difference. eventually they'll realize they fucked up and they'll have a mess to clean up, but that's their problem for staying in such a shitty place. and hopefully they'll learn from it. if not, then they're just dumb.

besides.. some people are just emotional masochists (whether or not they'll admit it)

Werd...back onto topic...It has gone off of course a little. Besides out of everyone in this thread, charly is the only one that has actually met my brother post-crazy girlfriend incident. And yea, it is exactly like the dumb girl who won't leave the abusive boyfriend thing...It is frustrating to see...erg.