damn friends who are whipped by their boys!

[bebu*funfun]

im really really mad rite now.. i wanna go break something. my closest 2 bestfriends are gawd damn head over heals with their bfs... i wish they were ugly and fat, so they can't get any guys so they can spend time with cool single me. they make me even more mad when they break promises after promises. they know i'll be single for life, but they dont care about meeeee...especially on a night that i FINALLY dont have to work. they dont love me and i want to be loved. am i jealous of them? MAYBE..but still I WANT MY FREINDS BACK!

thats all! :c-tard:

[bob]

poooor bebu..... maybe ur friends DO want to go out with you, but their bf's are whiney son's of bitches that complain to their gf that they don't get enough "quality time" together... when in reality they see each other like 24/7... guys are like that...

you can hang out with BOB & YOKO!!! AND TONY!!! andd whoever else works at metro, haha... funfun

[bebu*funfun]

no having a triple date sounds more fun to them... and trust me NO WAY im intruding them in a triple date. apex was all smoochy smoochy...ickyz

[Guice_39]

Originally posted by BeBu*FunFun:
im really really mad rite now.. i wanna go break something. my closest 2 bestfriends are gawd damn head over heals with their bfs... i wish they were ugly and fat, so they can't get any guys so they can spend time with cool single me. they make me even more mad when they break promises after promises. they know i'll be single for life, but they dont care about meeeee...especially on a night that i FINALLY dont have to work. they dont love me and i want to be loved. am i jealous of them? MAYBE..but still I WANT MY FREINDS BACK!

thats all! :c-tard:

I know exactly what you mean Bev. My colsest group of friends that I pretty much see everyday consists of 6 guys and 3 girls and guesse what?????? Those 3 girls and 3 of the guys are all in relationships wit each other. What ever happened to spendin time wit your girlfriend/boyfriend alone wit just you two. But now they gotta bring their girlfriends every place they go cause (they don't like to call it this but I do) their whipped. I mean I wouldn't mind havin a girlfriend and I don't mind them bringin their girlfriends out, but not every DAMN night!!! But I think its cause were all pot smokers and so are the girls. So as much as they wanna be wit each other all the time even when their wit other friends, they wanna blaze too.

[Joanne]

I have a grand total of 2 friends who have actually manage to keep touch with me while they were in relationships... one of those ftwo wasn't even really serious with her bf...

usually it gets easier when you're older cuz then they realize that they always need friends...

it's hard to make them see the light without sounding like a selfish bitch... so generally, I just tend to ignore it and find other friends to hang out with..... :(

--Joanne :P

[bebu*funfun]

that is y im an active member on form & kaos..

im such a geek...

[Starberry]

You know, I find that only people that have never been involved in a serious, 50-50 relationship are unable to understand why there is that need to spend time with your significant other...

I disagree, Joanne, that as you grow older you realize you need more friends. I think that as you grow older, you begin to notice that all your friends are getting engaged and married, starting their families, and you realize that it's come time for you to worry less about having fun with your girls and concentrate more on your future.

Mind you, I do understand your jealousy, but you can have fun with your friends bf/gf with you too...it may not be the same as 'the hunt', but it's still time spent with your friend(s).

The trick is to find that compromise where each side gets the equal amount of attention...

*Jen*

[Starberry]

Oh, I forgot....(I think I got off track)

Bebu...your friends will get over it soon...I'm sure that in a matter of time they will come back to you--they are just at the best part of any relationship (the beginning)...just wait 'til 'the honeymoon' is over.....=) Also, let them know how you feel, but don't slaughter them for it (because then they will think that you are jealous and unhappy that they are happy...ie, a bad friend...even though you're not)

My 2 cents.

That is all.

*Jen*

[Sue Bitch]

After reading what Bebu wrote I feel bad I just got out of a SERIOUS relationship and now i realize that I so have ditched my friends and stuff I fell so bad

[Starberry]

Yeah SB, that's what I'm saying...okay, what I TRIED to say...that there should be that medium where you can still rely on your friends to fall back on and spend time time with them and then balancing it with time spent with your 'other'.....a medium where both sides can accept it...

*Jen*

(okie, I'm TRYING to make sense, alright?! I know what I'm trying to say...do you? Haha)

[Sue Bitch]

but where is the medium
it is soo hard to find cause you want so much of both

[Starberry]

True....I haven't really found it yet...luckily I have pretty understanding friends.....=) And I also have few single friends....(that helps...a lot)

*Jen*

[Guice_39]

Originally posted by Starberry:
You know, I find that only people that have never been involved in a serious, 50-50 relationship are unable to understand why there is that need to spend time with your significant other...

I disagree, Joanne, that as you grow older you realize you need more friends. I think that as you grow older, you begin to notice that all your friends are getting engaged and married, starting their families, and you realize that it's come time for you to worry less about having fun with your girls and concentrate more on your future.

Mind you, I do understand your jealousy, but you can have fun with your friends bf/gf with you too...it may not be the same as 'the hunt', but it's still time spent with your friend(s).

The trick is to find that compromise where each side gets the equal amount of attention...

*Jen*

No its not jealousy, I've been in their position before, I know whats its like but its not like they gotta bring their girlfriend everywhere.

[starsprite]

I know exactly wut u are saying. I lost my best friend for over a year and a half to her overly jealous, abusive boyfriend. He broke her heart and cheated on her many times, but she is a stronger person and now she has the best relationship with her current boyfriend(they liked each other for 5 years off and on and they finally got together 6 months ago:) ). I couldn't ask for a better boyfriend for her and we are still the best of friends. She has learned not to cut everyone out of her life just because her boyfriend tells her to and I love her with all my heart! But of course my 2nd best friend has a boyfriend that she is constantly with. She just stays at his house most of the time and lives with him and I rarely see her. I hope one day she will see the light and realize it isn't the healthiest thing for her....it's been 7 months and unfortunatly I don't see it ending anytime soon. Oh well she has to learn for herself because no matter how much her friend's tell her how unhealthy it is and how much we miss her she just doesn't quite get it. Hehe so ya Bev, i know that feeling all too well.

[got_rice]

aww ill come play ball with you!

[yoko*]

Originally posted by BeBu*FunFun:
i wish they were ugly and fat, so they can't get any guys so they can spend time with cool single me.

thats all! :c-tard:

ahahah that's so cute! *cheek pinch*

funfungirl needs a funfunboy !

err my post count is going up again.... delete delete.

[sebcoe]

bro's b4 ho's

OK.

[Starberry]

Originally posted by Guice_39:


No its not jealousy, I've been in their position before, I know whats its like but its not like they gotta bring their girlfriend everywhere.

I'm sure that everyone's been in the same position before...and in Bebu's case it is jealousy (of her friends' attention)...but aside form that, I was trying to say that yes, they shouldn't have to "bring their girlfriend/boyfriend" everywhere...there should be that fine line somewhere along the way.......that, or the friends should stop looking at the gf/bf as someone who is "brought along" and more as one of the group...

*Jen*

[Joanne]

Originally posted by Starberry:
I disagree, Joanne, that as you grow older you realize you need more friends. I think that as you grow older, you begin to notice that all your friends are getting engaged and married, starting their families, and you realize that it's come time for you to worry less about having fun with your girls and concentrate more on your future.

I think you're talking way further into the future than I am..

I'm talking from the perspective of a highschooler... I can see how a teenage girl can get up in the romance and excitement of a serious bf that they start to forget their friends. but after each preceding failed relationship, one starts to realize that choosing bf's over friends is not necessarily a good idea.

but I do agree that once you get a lot older, more mature and start to realize that you want to be in a serious commitment, that people do start to put their significant others first instead of their friends.

--Joanne :P

[-InFiNiTi-]

i hate it...i have SOOO many friends that lives revolve around there fuckin bfs...and when they r gonna see there bf..and what they r doing with there bf..and whens the next time they r gonna see there bf..I HATE IT..CHIX B4 DICKS LADIEZ...i always go by that rule.

[bob]

i've found from growing older and flailing through so many crappy relationships, that one of the most important things in a relationship is what you have outside of a relationship. to yourself anyways. if that makes any sense. it takes [at least] 2 people to make a relationship. if one of those people aren't stable in their own life, then the relationship will not be stable.

you will end up smothering your significant other and they will do the same to you if neither of you don't have anything else in your life. if you balance your lifestyle; friends, bf/gf, job, masturbation, etc. you'll find yourself in the middle of your own life. rather than way off to one side.

we must maintain balance. otherwise buddha will get mad.
very mad.

i'm very happy with my gf right now. i don't skip out on work every other day "just to be with her", i don't flail on my friends and sell them out just because i haven't seen my gf in a day or 2. and most importantly, she doesn't get pissed off at me for having other things to do. and i treat her the same. she knows, well, i hope she knows that she's my #1 priority. that doesn't mean that i'll put my entire life on hold every minute of every hour of every day just so we can spend time together. #1 means she gets first dibs on me, not all the dibs.

bah i don't even know what i'm writing cuz this stupid phone keeps ringing and it's someone trying to fax something to the wrong #... grrrrrr...

YA.

[Guice_39]

Originally posted by Starberry:


I'm sure that everyone's been in the same position before...and in Bebu's case it is jealousy (of her friends' attention)...but aside form that, I was trying to say that yes, they shouldn't have to "bring their girlfriend/boyfriend" everywhere...there should be that fine line somewhere along the way.......that, or the friends should stop looking at the gf/bf as someone who is "brought along" and more as one of the group...

*Jen*

Oh yeah my buddie's girls are part of the group but when their lives revolve around each other, then thats pretty shitty.

[Guice_39]

Originally posted by bob:
I'm very happy with my gf right now. i don't skip out on work every other day "just to be with her", i don't flail on my friends and sell them out just because i haven't seen my gf in a day or 2. and most importantly, she doesn't get pissed off at me for having other things to do. and i treat her the same. she knows, well, i hope she knows that she's my #1 priority. that doesn't mean that i'll put my entire life on hold every minute of every hour of every day just so we can spend time together. #1 means she gets first dibs on me, not all the dibs.

Yeah man thats the shit, thats how it should be.

[walkin]

this is going to be you in a few weeks :P

[bebu*funfun]

jealousy? sure yes..there has to be some kind of jealousy. but if u know me well enuff... ill never have someone for myself. whenever my 2 bestfriends see/know im kinda with someone they dotn give 2 shits about me...cuz they know i'll screw it over. kinda sad.... but i wanna cherish a relationship now, cuz i want a boy for MYSELF! muhahaha.. wutevz.. life goes on. i just NEVER wanna be like them and be in a "married" relationship..its sickening. and my other friend just got into her relationship..so its all brand new and lovely dovey stuff...so i dont care. grrz i duno where im gettin to..but breakin promises really suck and losing u're friends to some wierd boys really suck.