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Nov 06, 02
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obsessive compulsive disorders taking over everything
i dont even know where to begin...
this may seem funny to some people but its tearing my family apart. ok... i need to vent: my uncle was an alocholic...and started going to AA and all that, and he's sober fer years now, but i guess to fill the void of drinking he started to collect sports memorabilia. that was all fine and dandy...but now its gotten COMPLETELY out of control. he is totally obsessed with jerseys..hockey...football..rugby...socc er...you name it he;s got it...every team..every colour...every size etc etc.. he orders them from magazines....off the net....in stores he has literally hundreds and has spent thousands of dollars on this. its insane. see the bad/sad thing: my uncle lives with my grandpa...he's not there very often cause he always stays at his g/f's but anyways..my grandpa is very sick..he's very old...he needs to be taken care of..what he needs is to be put in a home.. my uncle should be taking care of him...but he's not. my mom went over today and there was no food in the house...everywhere she looked...more jerseys...there were eight packages waiting for my uncle at the house today....all with...you guessed it...jerseys.. my uncle is supposed to be taking care of my grandpa...they live in vancouver, so its hard for us to be out there all the time. my mom does what she can. seriously, my took my grandpa to the doctors today and the doctor said he has lost toooo much weight...cause he doesnt eat cause my uncle wont do any shopping. im so afraid that one day someone is going to walk into the house and find my grandpa lying there dead. /me starts to cry i dont know what to do, i feel so helpless...my mom called mydad on her way home just bawling...she feels so helpless as does my dad...as does my brother. here comes another hard part... my grandma has alzheimers and is already in a home...she is very seriously ill...she has even gotten to the point of trying to kill herself on many occasions...her and my grandpa have been married for 52 years now....but they have been seperated from each other not willingly...and now we dont know if they will ever be able to live together again, because there is no room in the home for my grandpa once again...i feel so helpless.. i want my grandparents to be together, i want them to be able to spend their last few years together. but they cant. its so unfair. im also afraid to move right now...so im kinda delaying it...because i dont want to leave my grandparents...i love them so much........ 
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Nov 06, 02
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/me hugs her krista
dont worry hun.. my grandparents didnt spend their last few years togather.. but my nana went to see my grandma lots. do what my grandma linda does with her mother. except you do it with both you granparents.. every sunday pick them both up and take them for s drive!! oh perhaps coffee.. tell you parents your doing this and I'm sure they'll help ya out with gas money. cause doing that they will see each other more, which will raise thier spirits! and make them happy :) trust me it works! and if they are too much for you to handle.. I will come with ya if ya like :) just let them know they're loved and do your best todo something for them once a week! :) you'd be suprise how much of a diffrence it can make.. holy shit! /me hugs krista
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Nov 06, 02
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Krista I feel totally what ur going through. Well my grandma passed away from cancer. That was the hardest thing. And know I found out my grandpa has alzheimers.... its so hard to deal with cuz u know that u care about them so much. And dont want them to get hurt...
*HUGZ* Try and cheer up....
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Nov 07, 02
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that's horrible sweetie
*bighugs* ocd is a really fucked up illness. i dated someone for two years who had it and though he was able to turn parts of it into something fun and effective, there were times when i didn't think that either of us could handle it :( i hope that things get better :)
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Nov 07, 02
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yah it sucks when granps and grans can't spend their last days together.
my dad's parents... my grandma's alone ... it's been. 20-21 years... she's by herself at home all the time at my dad's house. my mom's parents... my grandpa is livin a bit over 2years alone now but has moved into his youngest son's house.. i think he's slowly managing. krisa.. i feel u there. sometimes i wanna help my grandma out sometimes. be there with her, so i take her out when i have time over at my dad's and go eat dimsum and i pay! haha. but that's about the only time i have kuz of work/school. i also wanna learn how to bake her goodies so i can front that chinese sweets to my friends later on hahah. but i can never manage to pull myself up and ask her n stuff. maybe it's cuz i'm a guy or something.. or i'm just too shy? i feel pretty helpless too not being able to reach out like that... i mean it doesn't take much.. but the effort.. or the courage rather, isn't reachin up to what i want it to be. but i'm sure you'll be able to think of something besides, girls are sweeter than guys rite? and that's wehre u step into the picture.
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