When your EX moves next door.

MissMarz · #1 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

Oh this should be interesting.

He moved into a building mmm right beside mine. Havent really seen him in ages, but he's definately managed to get a hold of me. oh dear...
can one be friends in this situation? we parted on good terms, kinda intersted to say hello... but what was once closed and forgotten should stay closed and forgotten, no?

C_squared · #2 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

i make an effort not to talk to any of my exes. your situation would drive me insane, but that's just how i roll.

in your case small talk is okay. perhaps you have opposite schedules so you would never have to talk to him that often. that and i wouldn't invite him inside your home. keep your shit as separate as possible. lol.

lildonkey · #3 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

It all depends really.

Did you still have feelings for him when it ended? Did he have feelings for you still?

Cause if it was really hard for him to get over you, maybe you should give it a bit more time before trying to be friends.

Don't be worried about bumping in to him a lot. If he lives in the next building, chances are you won't bump into him barely ever. Unless you guys both use public transit, or you both have dogs you walk etc.

I suggest keeping it casual, if you bump into him just do the small talk thing like "how are you? how you been? etc etc" and don't make any plans of him coming over for coffee or vice versa... or you'll leave the potential for it to become weird

plan b. Hire a hitman to have him killed or burn his building down

rawb · #4 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

YOU WILL END UP BONING
I GUARANTEE IT

ppcock · #5 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

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Originally Posted by rawb

YOU WILL END UP BONING
I GUARANTEE IT

first it'll be "may i borrow a cup of sugar"
next thing you know, you're having sex on the cookies.

MissMarz · #6 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

oh he's not coming here.... hell no...
you dont get a second chance with deh marzeh lol...

but like if i dont answer his calls, and then run into him at like urban fair or something wack.. thats just a whole new akward situation just brewing to happen...

rawb · #7 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

AWW NAW, THEM COOKIES GETTIN FROSTED, GIRL

MissMarz · #8 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

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Originally Posted by rawb

YOU WILL END UP BONING
I GUARANTEE IT

aaaahahahahahh....um... *blush

he's an ex from years years back...
we left on good terms i guess. both moved on with our lives.
bumped into each other randomly at club parties etc...
he found out i was single again and thats when the phone started ringing...

but... i have no intention of having sex on cookies lol

lildonkey · #9 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

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Originally Posted by MissMarz

oh he's not coming here.... hell no...
you dont get a second chance with deh marzeh lol...

but like if i dont answer his calls, and then run into him at like urban fair or something wack.. thats just a whole new akward situation just brewing to happen...

How did you guys leave on good terms, if you're saying he wont be getting a second chance with you? That's implying to me that something fucked up happened for you guys to break up.

In which case i suggest being a little bit of a bitch. It may be a little hard but will be a LOT easier then dealing with awkward ass situations like you described.

If you see him, say hi... but if he starts talking then always make an excuse to leave... and if he calls, dont answer... that way eventually he'll take the hint and stop trying to talk to you or call you..

better then having that whole awkward shit of him calling you / you screening the calles / and then bumping into him places and him saying something REALLY awkward like "ohhh so you screen my calls huh haha"

or like i said... plan b... burn his building down

C_squared · #10 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

C is for cookie!

lildonkey · #11 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

MissMarz · #12 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

well he fucked up yes. and thats why we broke up.
but we remained friends (finished gr12) and then moved on with our lives.
its not like i want to kill him or anything when i see him, but usually i dont give second chances... its just the way i am. friendship sure, but not relationship wise

*Abstrakt* · #13 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

is marzeh being stalked??

i honestly think when it comes to exs, it's past, it's done deal,
saying hello or asking whats up is totally cool, but based on what i seen, it's not easy to stay friends with exs, there will always be feelings involved.

galaxie · #14 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

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Originally Posted by MissMarz

aaaahahahahahh....um... *blush

he's an ex from years years back...
we left on good terms i guess. both moved on with our lives.
bumped into each other randomly at club parties etc...
he found out i was single again and thats when the phone started ringing...

but... i have no intention of having sex on cookies lol

Ummm if he randomly started calling you when he found out that you're single I'd say that's a pretty good sign that HIS intentions are to have sex on cookies, or minus cookies.

MissMarz · #15 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

edit: for alla

no no no not stoked.
a little worried.

MissMarz · #16 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

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Originally Posted by galaxie

Ummm if he randomly started calling you when he found out that you're single I'd say that's a pretty good sign that HIS intentions are to have sex on cookies, or minus cookies.

yeah seems that way doesnt it.. hmmmmml...

lildonkey · #17 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

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Originally Posted by MissMarz

edit: for alla

no no no not stoked.
a little worried.

i think she was trying to spell stalked, hehe

*Abstrakt* · #18 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

i'm just kidding..

its just such a coincidence

*Abstrakt* · #19 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

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Originally Posted by lildonkey

i think she was trying to spell stalked, hehe

i sure was.. thanks for correcting!

MissMarz · #20 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

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Originally Posted by lildonkey

i think she was trying to spell stalked, hehe

aaaahahhaha..... neither i should hope.
but thats funny.. stoked stalked... oh dear

*Abstrakt* · #21 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

stupid ingrish lololo

MissMarz · #22 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

but like i said, what if i'm ignoring the calls, or tell him i'm busy, and then he catches me being not busy and with a working phone in my hand.

i just dont want that akwardness...ahhh so weird.

can a good thing come of this?
do people forgive and forget after years (about 6) have gone by and people maybe change?

MissMarz · #23 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

ACT-ually.
i DID go to church today :D
first time in ages.

lildonkey · #24 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

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Originally Posted by MissMarz

but like i said, what if i'm ignoring the calls, or tell him i'm busy, and then he catches me being not busy and with a working phone in my hand.

i just dont want that akwardness...ahhh so weird.

can a good thing come of this?
do people forgive and forget after years (about 6) have gone by and people maybe change?

I think you're stressing a bit more then you should... I've rented a lot of apartments, and i've had friends that have lived really close. I rarely bump into them, and when i do it's usually when they are driving and i'm driving also. So it's not like we pull over and talk.

You'll be fine, dont worry so much.

Webber · #25 (**permalink**) Apr 08, 07

don't knock sex on cookies until you've tried it, you'd be surprised