US Immigration

galaxie · #1 (**permalink**) Apr 13, 07

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this is fucking confusing!

(edit: F all of you dual citizens. I hate you!)

Courtney · #2 (**permalink**) Apr 13, 07

you should make him come here
fuck being american

cubed · #3 (**permalink**) Apr 13, 07

Be prepared to jump through hoop after hoop.

I still don't understand how you'll stand up to their stiff immigration policies.

But good luck and keep trying.

galaxie · #4 (**permalink**) Apr 13, 07

^ My lawyer found a loophole for me. All we have to do is get the company on board and I'm in...but it's fucking expensive as hell.

galaxie · #5 (**permalink**) Apr 13, 07

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Originally Posted by Courtney

you should make him come here
fuck being american

medical school > moving to canada

cubed · #6 (**permalink**) Apr 13, 07

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Originally Posted by galaxie

^ My lawyer found a loophole for me. All we have to do is get the company on board and I'm in...but it's fucking expensive as hell.

It is expensive.

Getting a large company to make a move like that is no small task.

Unless you bring something to the table that they can't already find there it's a tough go because it also costs them a fair bit of money and a lot trouble.

frogprincess · #7 (**permalink**) Apr 13, 07

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Originally Posted by galaxie

^ My lawyer found a loophole for me. All we have to do is get the company on board and I'm in...but it's fucking expensive as hell.

true love is priceless (l)

good luck with your quest for america!

#8 (**permalink**) Apr 13, 07

Don't want to burst your bubble, but are you sure you don't want to wait until your at least engage first before you make such a commitment? It would make everything A LOT easier if you were or married. Maybe try for a working visa first?

Couldn't Tim try for a student exchange?

It takes a lot of time, effort, and money if your that serious about applying for residency or immigration.

ps: I hope your sending half the bill to him ;)

veN · #9 (**permalink**) Apr 13, 07

If anyone can do it Nat, it's you.

Duh.

galaxie · #10 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

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Originally Posted by R Wellbelove

Don't want to burst your bubble, but are you sure you don't want to wait until your at least engage first before you make such a commitment? It would make everything A LOT easier if you were or married. Maybe try for a working visa first?

Couldn't Tim try for a student exchange?

It takes a lot of time, effort, and money if your that serious about applying for residency or immigration.

ps: I hope your sending half the bill to him ;)

Yes, I am applying for a work visa, through US Immigration.
Being engaged wouldn't change the situation whatsoever unless we were going to be married within the next 3 months. The visa I'm applying for actually takes less than a month to get and my lawyer will pretty much do all the work, and the company will pay the fees.

And no, he can't come here for school because UBC doesn't accept international students to their medical program. He'd also lose his funding from the US gov't.

lildonkey · #11 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

If he really loved you , he would get this

and just move to canada.... play that board game enough and he will be on par with our health care here, and he could open up a private office in vancouer to practice medicine.

If he says no to this idea of mine, then i suggest you reexamine your relationship, and be cautious of his true intent with you.

#12 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

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Originally Posted by galaxie

Yes, I am applying for a work visa, through US Immigration.
Being engaged wouldn't change the situation whatsoever unless we were going to be married within the next 3 months. The visa I'm applying for actually takes less than a month to get and my lawyer will pretty much do all the work, and the company will pay the fees.

And no, he can't come here for school because UBC doesn't accept international students to their medical program. He'd also lose his funding from the US gov't.

Sorry for being your friend and trying to give you some realistic advice. Ive been in a few long distance relationships, one which almost had me applying for residency in Australia. I know how much you can get caught up in love. I'm not trying to be a downer and not be optimistic, but just be careful. If your going to do this be ready for shit to fall to pieces just in case. Please don't sacrifice everything you've got just for him.

galaxie · #13 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

^ But Rhia, if you were actually paying attention I'm applying for a work visa. It would be stupid of me to just get engaged or married to get into the US, no? How are he and I supposed to be 100% dedicated to getting married or engaged when we haven't even ever had a normal relationship? The point of me moving down there on a work visa before we get engaged/married is so that we can have a normal relationship and make sure that things will be as great as they are now when we live in the same city.

You're not ready to get married but you've been in a geographically close relationship for some time now, right? I need to live in the same place as him and have a normal relationship before I can promise to spend the rest of my life with him. I think that's more than fair.

I guess the point of my post was to a) possibly get advice from those who have done it successfully, and b) to get a little support from my friends. I wasn't looking for opinions on my relationship or how to handle it, and I certainly wasn't looking for discouraging posts. I know it's a difficult process, I've been going through it for months now.

Courtney · #14 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

Nat, I totally see where you are coming from
My cousin is getting married to a guy in the states and they have never lived together its sooooo fucken stupid

Courtney · #15 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

definetly rather go through some annoyingness than ending up with a total idiot (not that your man is ) but living together is a definite must before marriage!

galaxie · #16 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

Courtney, I totally agree.
I'd rather exhaust all other options before we consider getting married.

PwInCeSs · #17 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

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Originally Posted by Courtney

Nat, I totally see where you are coming from
My cousin is getting married to a guy in the states and they have never lived together its sooooo fucken stupid

My sister in-law did that.
Now the relationship is rocky to say the least, has been for awhile, and one of them has even admitted that they are only together for the kids.

I also agree with living together befor Marriage.
When nathan first told me he wanted to marry me, i of course was thrilled and wanted to, but also said we have to try living together first, I can be hard to live with, and hed never lived anywhere except his parents.
It worked out for the best in our situation.
then a year later there was a baby to lol but im sure your taking one step at a time :)

Good luck and all the best!
also did you get ahold of either person for what you pmd me about?

cubed · #18 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

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Originally Posted by galaxie

You're not ready to get married but you've been in a geographically close relationship for some time now, right?

There'll be a death in this relationship before marriage.

Sometimes I think Rhia plots to smother me in my sleep.

galaxie · #19 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

^ Can you blame her? :P

cubed · #20 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

not really.

#21 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

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Originally Posted by galaxie

^ But Rhia, if you were actually paying attention I'm applying for a work visa. It would be stupid of me to just get engaged or married to get into the US, no? How are he and I supposed to be 100% dedicated to getting married or engaged when we haven't even ever had a normal relationship? The point of me moving down there on a work visa before we get engaged/married is so that we can have a normal relationship and make sure that things will be as great as they are now when we live in the same city.

You're not ready to get married but you've been in a geographically close relationship for some time now, right? I need to live in the same place as him and have a normal relationship before I can promise to spend the rest of my life with him. I think that's more than fair.

I guess the point of my post was to a) possibly get advice from those who have done it successfully, and b) to get a little support from my friends. I wasn't looking for opinions on my relationship or how to handle it, and I certainly wasn't looking for discouraging posts. I know it's a difficult process, I've been going through it for months now.

I'm sorry for upsetting you, I really didn't mean to come off so harsh. It's only one side of things. Truly I really like Tim and think hes the best guy ive seen you with yet. Not to mention im really amazed with how well the two of you have managed to work things out for so long. I understand how hard it is and hes really made a great effort by coming to Vancouver too.

I'm not saying Tim is a bad guy, I just understand that love is blind and I dont want to see you poor your heart out on layer fees and spend all this time on immigration papers to only have things not work out... than again you never know? I hope you understand it is a gamble and hope you have really thought about both the pros AND cons.

I'm glad your starting off small with a working visa. It wasn't clear in the first post. I really do wish you all the best Nat.

<3

cubed · #22 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

^AND NO MORE TRYING TO KILL ME IN MY SLEEP!!!

lildonkey · #23 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

Galaxie: If you don't mind my asking.. how long have you been with this guy for?

galaxie · #24 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

^ A year.

There is also a great career opportunity for me in Miami. The main reason I want to move is to be with him, but this career opportunity is definitely a driving factor as well. I'd say it's about 75%:25%.

frogprincess · #25 (**permalink**) Apr 14, 07

yah right, it's more like

horatio caine 89:lover boy 10:career opp 1