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Apr 30, 03
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not being good enough
it seems i'm never good enough in my parents eyes. they always compare me to my older brother. he's always a few steps ahead in their eyes. he's a little smarter, better looking, funnier, and more talented. and they always compare me to him and it seems that i'm never good enough. it fucking sucks.
i hate being compared to people. especially when i can't compete against the other person. -s. 
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Apr 30, 03
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is he 1/2 the artist you are? Your parents just don't know what you are good at... trust me I'm the younger child my self, I get it also... But I do lots of shit my sister could never dream of doing.
Oh yea also being younger you have not had the same amount of time as you bro, to get where he is today... so what if you are a few years behind him
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Apr 30, 03
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meh...i dunno man.
i really shouldn't care what my parents think. but i do. I think all i'm looking for is some sort of validation from them. my brother is 4 years older than me...still lives at home and my parents pay for his tuition and shit. and he doesn't pay rent. I live by myself in a city 3000 miles away and pay for everything myself including my own tuition which happens to be WAY more that my brother's. you'd think they'd give me a little bit of credit...but nope. my dad, who's a graphic artist, was looking at my portfolio last night and didn't say one thing about it. just flipped through it and kinda said "...hmm...its ok i guess". and their relationship is so much better with my brother. they're all chummy n shit? but my brother is a brown noser. and i'm not. i don't like to be told to do shit and if i don't like something i make sure its known. i guess sometimes i find myself being jealous of my brother -s.
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Apr 30, 03
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ummm he's probably a better artist than I.
-s.
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Apr 30, 03
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dude, I bet you are just pushing new idea's rather then pumping out the same old shit... old people find it hard to except shit like that... But really in the end it's people like you that set the new standars.
My parents have NEVER taken a second too look, listen or exprance a fucking single thing I've done. Yet most my child hood they where always at my sisters ballay (sp?) Now my sister is a fat bitch raising a kid, I'm helping put on music shows at planatarum, have done over 300 sound bookings, 20+ shows of my own, getting booked for visuals, and have put hard work in to really shaping the world I live in.
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Apr 30, 03
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Yeah my parents never seem to give me the suport where I need or want it. Mom's alright.. but ive actualy had to lectured dad about always naggin and pointing out every thing I cant or dont do perfect like him, and wish he would be more happy for the successful things ive done in life like traveling and dj'ing. So yeah I totaly know how that feels when you cant get parents to be proud of somthing thats a big accomplish to you.
Realy its cus they love you and want you to be the best you can be and jsut see so much in you, I do it to my little brother all the time.
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Apr 30, 03
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I know how that can feel. My sis is 3 1/2 years older than me.. But our situation is a little different. She fucked up when she was younger, had many problems, never graduated yet, etc. Now she's doing good, she's in australia until june, she's got her own apartment right on robson, etc. But when it comes to me and her, my parents are almost expecting too much. We're not getting compared, but they expect everything, because i still have a chance I guess. I'm the one who's graduating, and going back to school. It sucks because all the pressure is on me because i'm their last hope sorta thing. Both situations suck, I hate being compared to people.. especially by people who don't really know the real me either.
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Apr 30, 03
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oi.. is this all too familiar... i was my parents only hope.. they lost it for my brother when he was in like grade 4, so they pushed me as hard as they could, never really acknowledge my accomplishments, just always said i could do better... i always loved to draw... i was the kid that drew on everything including myself... my parents wanted me to be a doctor... but when i dropped my sciences in highschool for art... they got mad. things got worse... everything i did now was even less significant. my brother is also persuing art (wish my 'rents would realize they raised two talented children and be happy with that) hes extremely successful, but they see it as "oh well thats all we expected from him, a pathetic art carerr..." with me they see it as im wasting my life... that being passionate about my work isnt enough.. i shoudl make lots of money.
straight a's were never enough for my parents... buying my own clothing since 16 was not enough, paying my tuition when my bro didnt, not enough..... i think wellbelove is right with the they do it cause they love thing... its all about their expectations... when they dont see you reaching what they believe you can, they can be a bit unresponsive to your accomplishments. and you should care somewhat wat your parents think, they are your mom and dad.... you are yourself but they are your parents. just follow your passion, it will never lead you wrong.
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May 01, 03
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Yea I know what u mean, I hate whem my mom compares me to my older sister. Stuff like: Well u sister did this why cant u.. grrr I hate it.
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May 01, 03
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I tihnk everyone can relate a little to what you are saying, I feel for some parents though, cause they honeslty have no idea what they do is emotionally devastating to their children. Anyone can be a parent, there are few courses that teach parenting and all children are individuals - i think (though i have no children of my own) that parents want to love all their children the same, but children are different and love is often not distributed evenly - or its different love for each of the children -- I don't know sometimes I felt my parents were more involved w/ my little bro's life - but that's really cause i didn't invite them into mine, I am more independent and I heard less praise about it cause it was harder for my brother to accomplish the things that came easily to me - I love my parents, if you love yours too then there's no reason why somewhere down he road your relationship won't get better
Good for you for being your own man, good for you for persuing your dreams - Sometimes we have to give ourselves what we wish others would take care, Jingles
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May 01, 03
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I know how it feels. My sister has always been taller, prettier, smarter, and more driven than I. One minute I'm proud of myself for the little accomplishments I've made in my own life until I see what she has accomplished, or what she's being praised for. Then, I feel almost as though I've nothing to be proud of....
I guess it's important to remember not to let our lives be governed by some one else's standards...
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May 01, 03
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Sammy I think that almost everyone goes through that in one way or another to be honest. I know I have. My brother plays pro football and my parents just adore him and fawn over it all the time... but I know they are proud of me for other things even if they don't say so all the time.
The biggest, most important thing is to have respect for yourself. You know what accomplisments you have achieved and you're proud of yourself. That should be enough for you because in the long run the only thing that matters and/or gets you anywhere is you. I'm sure you're worthy of all sorts of praise but don't get discouraged when yoou don't necessarily see it.
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May 01, 03
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i know how it feels..both my older sisters and my close cuzins are smarter, skinnier, taller, everything...especially my oldest sis..everyone is compared to her..she's everyone's favourite...and it sucks...after i bitched about comparisons..they don't compare as much..as long as i go to school..~
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