Aug 27, 03
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Death
Why the hell do people act like idiots... seems like whenever anyone dies everyone all of a sudden was best friends with them or something and wants to announce to the world that in someway they knew him or her..... i just think its fucking hurting... noone i know has died recently but i've just noticed a trend lately..
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Aug 27, 03
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Whether or not you know a person well or have seen them a few times, for many death of anyone thhey have any connections with is shocking and hard to deal with
In order to justify their greif many will lok to their connesctions or attempt to find new ones to those who have passed. i ithnk in many cases those that cry the most are those that knew that person the least When Luke died I felt like a billion people came out of the woodwork for his funeral - people I felt shouldn't be there, totally showed up . Death brings out funny things in people - some will show up just to miss school, others are sorry they had little or no relationship, some are there to support others who aren't dealing well - Especially in the death of a young person or a well known community figure, often there are total strangers who come to say good-bye Some people like the attention of others feeling bad for them - so they hype of their relationship wi th the desceased. - some have never been remotely close to death before and don't know how else to react ---- anyway, i don't think this is a trend ..as death enters your life i think you'll see it often enough
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Aug 27, 03
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Well if you died I'll make sure to keep in mind not to announce that I knew who you were and to use that bit of memory for more useful things like remembering which hand I used last to wipe my ass.
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Aug 28, 03
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Um, there's suddenly something wrong with people choosing to invoke positive memories of the person?
I don't know, a friend of mine in highschool took his own life and he was pretty reserved and didn't have many friends. I ate lunch with him every day, so I was naturally pretty shaken up. I remember that a lot of people were just talking about any memories they had of him afterwards and that is part of how people cope. I remember my school counsellors held a special session for people to talk about this and tons of people showed up, people who barely ever talked to him or had no idea who he was. When you're young, death has a far more profound effect on people than you'd like to think . I had three friends pass away in highschool (and YES, these were all actual friends of mine, not just some guy i walked by in the hall occasionally) and for every one of their funerals hundreds of kids showed up. It's nice when kids who normally spend most of their time hating eachother actually get together and comfort eachother about something. Just because everyone doesn't grieve exactly the way you do it doesn't mean it's the new trend in mourning. Everyone does it differently.
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Aug 29, 03
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I experienced a guy that went to my highschool (Brendan B) and I didn't really know him all that well I knew him but we didn't hang out. Anyway he died in a car accident with his friend Kevin Brooks (who didn't die..) and it hit me hard at home because he was a friend of my whole circle of friends and it was the first time that I had to deal with the thought that he would never be back. It wasn't easy.
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Aug 30, 03
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I'm sorry to hear about your friends, but what does that have to do with anything? I was referring to people who didn't even have a clue who someone was till they died and all of a sudden became best friends.... I can see why you would get upset if a guy that was friends with your circle of friends died because that actually directly affects you... my main post was more or less directed at people who don't know the deceased at all....
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Aug 30, 03
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different people deal with things in different ways ... if someone that you have had contact with dies obviously you're going to think about it, and some people think more than others. besides when a death occurs how does one cope with that? sure you may be able to hold in all your thoughts and such, but others may not be as fortunate as you ... so they talk about it to deal with it.
and reffering to a death regarding a person that one barely knows can still shake up a person, especially if they are in your area, age range etc. mostly because this could have been the death of someone that actually was very close to you, rather than just a person you passed in the hall. yes maybe some people think that they will get attention by acting rather than feeling, but i think that there is some genuine intent to care about that person as well.
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Aug 30, 03
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like most people have said every death is different and in my opinion all that it two death can have in common is the way a person reacts to them.
I've dealt with death my whole life and the ideas views and morals that I was taught from the people closest to me have effected my character and the way I morn. I lost my mom of breast cancer in '89. I was 7 at the time and I can't really tell you much about the whole experience. I was a very angry kid for the couple years after that. The good memories shone through but theres a lot a clouds in my memory banks after she passed away. So those who deal with death in "socially odd ways," good for you for dealing, cause you just got to do it. So you can still love those who have gone, hang on to the memories you have, maintain a basis to continue to live on and love the life you've been given. Last edited by soma; Aug 30, 03 at 01:44 PM.
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Aug 31, 03
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