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Nov 04, 05
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friends and thier relationships
I'm so sick and tired of fucking losing friends to relationships.
I'm glad you found someone that can make you happy and shit... but fuck.. its costing you some of your friends... I'm mean if you s/o is telling you, not to talk/hangout/whatever with certain friend's of your. your a fucking chump for listening to them. high 5's to the people that can stand thier ground. I've rid myself of all people that can't......... 
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Agreed, 100%.
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Nov 04, 05
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I'm guilty of losing touch with friends when getting into a relationship. But the only time my bf tried to get between me and my friends I dropped kicked him to the curb.
That's lame that you are having to deal with this. I'm currently trying to get the friend time back into my regular scedual. So far so good. Hopefully your friends will come around too. And if they are only not seeing you because of what their BF/GF says, then hopefully they get a back bone soon, because that's crap.
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Nov 04, 05
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^Absolutely!
I've seen that happen lots of times. Yeah, I used to get choked at it, too, but, the dab speaks the truth. So, now I figure, that if I'm not hearing from someone w/ a new squeeze, well, that tells me they're having a great time. I just do my own thang, and, once in a while, said friends will surface for air and want to come out and play. So, just chill! Don't be so greedy with people. I mean, they _do_ have to live _their_ own lives, after all. Right? Frosty (not going under)
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Nov 05, 05
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I thought you knew better then that. but I assume your totaly missing the point here. so I wont even bother. gnonis-I speaking inregards to ppl that say they cant hang out with you becuase of their s/o. Ihave had countless frined of mine tell me they cant hang out with me becasue thier s/o feels threatened by me. wow.. sorry if were friend and know how to shoot the shit. I'm sorry.. but under my OWN opinion.. no one should have the right to say who you cant and can hang out with. Last edited by Bitchin; Nov 05, 05 at 04:49 AM.
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Nov 05, 05
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I got in big shit for doing that to one friend... after I reallized all the good times with friends I missed and I felt guilty trying to crawl back into a circle of firends.
Now atempting a realationship again... ive made it one of my main goals to keep in touch with friends and hang out with them (w/o the so) Even though im always busy I think im still doing pretty good and keeping them in good reach. ps: this is why you date ppl who work weekend nights :D
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Nov 05, 05
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yo jovi you know i love you so you know im not saying this to hurt you, but maybe you are just being hyper sensitive and sensing something that isnt there or isnt the intention of whoever this is directed to. im pretty sure they still care as much about you as they always have, i know i do.
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Nov 05, 05
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u know wut's weird? when both parties are friends of yours and they insist on hanging out with you to prove that everything is still the same..we're all still friends and stuff..but its not..it kinda just puts me in an awkward position of being the third wheel..
but at least they're not in their own world...that really does suck..losing friends to their s/o's
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Chill out girl, I think what he meant is wether we like to admit it or not when we get into relationships we can be guilty of neglecting our friends. I've been guilty of this from time to time, but I have been single for a very long time so it's harder for me to relate to friends when they do that to me. I can totally understand it hurts a lot, because with some of my friends it's so easily predictable that if I haven't heard from them in some time, it's because they have a new person in their life. No matter how much you give them shit, it doesn't really deter this kind on behaivor from happening time and time again... ...not to worry though, they'll be back, you'll always be the first person they call when they get their heart broken..haha
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Nov 05, 05
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Friends are the solid, supportive, fill in the shittier gaps in our lives kinda people, and relationships seem to be thought of as the something but even more "substantial." We all need that someone special, and when we find them, we sometimes make the mistake of forgetting the other special people in our lives. To be brutally honest its inevitable, and only the strong bonds survive. It will take a conversation that is NOT accusatory, but one thats communicates what your feeling and your friend is, it will take conscious plan making(it wont be the spontaneous friday nite at 9pm "hey lets go rip it" as much) and finally it will take patience and a stronger sense of self. Your friends wont be there as much to stabilize you, or pick you up, or support you as much in a tangible way, itll be more of a spiritual long distance thing. SOOOO CRAPPY! But for the sake of our own sanities, it takes a bit of revaluation of our lives, and what we need to focus on. Im sorry you seem to be going through this, at its shitty that not everyone is as conscience of the connections that we have with people, but its something we grow through, another set of growing pains, and that if we are able to survive through, the strength of our relationships are that much more eternal and meaningful. Some simple, more short-term ideas that are a tad bit more tangible could include, double dating, lunch breaks together, dinner parties, and of course looking into, the activities that you are doing together. Im sure it will be less "partying" as friends grow up together and more, of hitting the gym, working on projects, coffee or tea and just chilling sometimes. The times shared become less frequent and shorter in time but there is a greater sense of companionship and love. Dont stress yourself out too much, because that will compound the problem. Communicate your feelings to your friends, find new activities and thus some new friends whether acquaintances or something that becomes more meaningful, and of course a steady lay never hurts. keep yo head up girl, what your going through aint easy, but youll get through it all the stronger, with a greater sense of self, and a stronger love for friends. peace+respect fable
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Nov 05, 05
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lols at fable.
jovi knows how to keep her head up. i think you guys are missing the difference btwn not hanging out with friends cuz you don't have the time to go around like you used to and not hanging out with them b/c your new boy/girlfriend is threatened by your previous relationships with your friends. it is totally stupid when people in relationships actually take ownership of each other and determined who "their" friends will be, as if they no longer exist as individuals. it's completely unfair to ask someone not to be close with people that are important to them, and it SUCKS even more when someone's so infatuated that they'll actually adhere to such requests. eff that.
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Nov 05, 05
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ya see, i just took the original post to mean, people who don't have enough time on their hands to hang out. which sux, but that's life.
people who ditch friends cuz their s/o wants them too, they suck. and i have been completely guilty of doing that in my last serious relationship, tho i know it was lame of me, and i refuse to let that happen ever again. i'm still trying to make up for it to some friends..... sorry for coming off like that before, just a touchy subject for me. lol
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Nov 05, 05
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yeah it does really really suck... especially when the only time they talk to you it seems when they are fighting..or something...
but i won't deny.. im guilty of playing the neglect game.. you don't mean to, and you still love your friends more then ever..it just works out that way somehow.... which is really weak/lame..etc if it ever got to the point where my sig other said "choose! me or them" fuck 'em.. don't wanna be with someone like that anyways..
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