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Nov 25, 05
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Nice guys finish last.
Do they ever.
I try VERY hard to be as nice as i can to EVERYONE in the most sincere way, i can think of several examples just sitting here, yet at every turn im getting taken advantage of, or just plain fucked over. I dont want to go into details here but it has been happening a lot latly and it pisses me off. Right now only one person jumps to mind who has treated me in the same 'ill go out of my way to help out' fassion. Even if i really dont like someone, ive gone out of my way to help them out or w/e, and still, screwed at every turn. Maybe im hanging around the wrong people... who knows. Even the people I do like and am being nice to only to return the favour seem to sooner or later use that against me... anyone else had the Nice guys finish last feeling before?? and doesnt it suck balls. Sorry but im seriously pissed off. 
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Nov 25, 05
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Why do you treat people in this sincere way? Is it because you feel they deserve it? Not all people do. You can be nice, but shouldn't feel obligated to go out of your way all the time, otherwise you're bound to get taken advantage of. Learn when to say no. It's not mean, it's just taking care of yourself from time to time.
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Nov 25, 05
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I know what you mean man.
To a tee. As much as i dont like admitting it, i suffer from the nice guy syndrome on a day to day basis. Here are some strategies i use to basically not let people get the best of me... -its one thing to be nice, its another to be a pushover. You can be nice and still speak your mind. -If your' friends are ones worth keeping, they will still be your friends even if you let them know their behaviour bothers you. Or if you cannot comply with their demands as a friend. -Let people around you know that you have certain limits when it comes to your sincerity/generosity or whatever it is people will take advantage of. This way they can tell your nice (most the time), but at the same time; definately no push over. Last edited by -evil-duerr-; Nov 25, 05 at 03:13 AM.
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Nov 25, 05
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i'll admit i have in the past liked a person because they're just "nice"...and would buy me a fendi bag if i asked nice enough. but, because you're such a kind person, it's easy for people to take from you. it's like having a purified mineral water spring, and not being able to drink from it. you are the water, the provider, and the people drinking the water are the ones taking advantage of you and your many benifits. if the water keeps flowning and flowing, why would you drink out of anything else, the consumer must have more...and again the water is taken advantage of you see?
if you give everything you have out there, people will take it from you and you will finish last because you have nothing left in you to work with, you've given it all way. people aren't afraid to take from people who have more, ie. you, and give it to the people who have less, usually them. i don't know you're personal situation, but if everyone is using you it's probably time to sit down and talk about what you feel is wrong with the situation. if that doesn't work, maybe a new crew :)
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Nov 25, 05
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nice people are easy to take advantage of.
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Nov 26, 05
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Well my close friends are cool, they dont tend to take advantage..more take for granted. Like if i am somewhere with a bunch of people and were gonig somwhere it can be assumed that i am driving... with no compensation. Just an example.
I have made countless trips into vancouver, mission, chilliwack, just because apperently I am driving. I don't have a reliable car either... those trips are the last thing it needs... Infact on the last trip to van city, my car broke down and has been stuck there for like a week. At the time i was supposed to give a guy a ride to poco who i had met just that night, along with 3 other friends who needed a ride back with me to langley. again, just an example.. i honestly dont mind that much because i do beleive it will be returned in the future. I guess i just try to pass through life making as many friends in as many places as possible, incase i ever need that connection. Now any time im in poco and need a hand with somthing i have someone i can call. so in a twisted way i guess i am taking care of myself. Another time i drove 35 minutes to some random spot where a friend of mine had her truck break down. she calls, i get out of bed, drive out to her, changed her radiator hoses that had exploded, bought her coolant, and sent her on her way... Not even a thank you. I didnt mind putting in the effort because at the time we were good friends, but she didnt even thank me and that kind of pissed me off. That is what really bugs me, ill offer to do somthing and it isnt appreciated in even the simplest way. But now im being boring with specific events... i think you can sort of see where im coming from with this though.
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Nov 26, 05
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i <3 nice guys:)
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Nov 26, 05
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i <3 nabs...i <3 clearist
nice guys dont finish last in my book:)
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Nov 27, 05
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It is apparent that society as a whole doesn't recognize random acts of kindness as it once did. Part of this is because we lead busier lives...having to work longer hours with less pay, tending to families, friends, it's like no one has the time to network anymore. Even at parties, clubs, wherever you go.
But what is the cause? It's a new generation driven by influence. Everyone is unique in their own way and has the freedom to express that uniqueness. Unfortunately, this is where the focus lies, rather than in the basic elements of a true society...peace, love, unity, respect. Where has the PLUR gone? I ate it.
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