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Old Jun 09, 06
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Friendship Advice?

Ok, so why are people so immature? Why do they assume you did something horrible, which u didnt do, but wont listen to you when you try to explain that you had nothing to do with it, it's just a bunch of gossip etc? And if you really dont want to loose this person as a friend, what do u do? How long do u try talking to them before you give up and wait for them to turn around. What if they dont turn around?

Sorry for ranting, I think I just lost a really good friend for no reason and it's kinda painful.
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Old Jun 09, 06
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a really good friend would sit down with you and talk it out.

and if you want to do that in the future i recommend you keep the disagreement of the internet.

luck in repatching.
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Old Jun 09, 06
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Ok, so why are people so immature? Why do they assume you did something horrible, which u didnt do, but wont listen to you when you try to explain that you had nothing to do with it, it's just a bunch of gossip etc? And if you really dont want to loose this person as a friend, what do u do? How long do u try talking to them before you give up and wait for them to turn around. What if they dont turn around?

Sorry for ranting, I think I just lost a really good friend for no reason and it's kinda painful.
If that is the case then they weren't your friend to begin with. I hate to say it Maggie, but they were looking for a way out.

If they were your true friend, they would give you the benefit of the doubt and ask you first, right?
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a really good friend would sit down with you and talk it out.

and if you want to do that in the future i recommend you keep the disagreement of the internet.

luck in repatching.

this person has nothing to do with the internet. he/she is not a member of fnk. i was just trying to get some general advice from someone possibly that went through the same experience.
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If that is the case then they weren't your friend to begin with. I hate to say it Maggie, but they were looking for a way out.

If they were your true friend, they would give you the benefit of the doubt and ask you first, right?
You know I actually thought about this one. And I think it rings true. Which is really sad, and hurts more. Stupid people. Ruin a perfectly good day. grrr.
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You know I actually thought about this one. And I think it rings true. Which is really sad, and hurts more. Stupid people. Ruin a perfectly good day. grrr.
I refuse to jump through hoops for people. If I have a friend that makes me prove my friendship over and over, then they aren't looking for a friend, but someone to inflate their ego, and from the sounds of it, this person wants you to chase them.

Tell her to shove it....
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yet again i think you're right. ^^ wow avana, impressive.
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Old Jun 09, 06
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yet again i think you're right. ^^ wow avana, impressive.
I have lost and gained enough friends to be real about it.
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I've decided to let it go. You know what. Fuck it. IF they want want to be jerks about it, make me feel like shit and have me chase them, then its not worth it. Fuck it.

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Old Jun 09, 06
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^^ thats what i was going to tell you. but you beat me to the punch.
a true friend will always be there, even if they're pissed off at you. Sounds like this person is still caught in HS drama, he/she will come around, and if not, have missed out on having you in their life. Their loss.
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Old Jun 09, 06
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how long has it been? might just give it some time to cool off and see what happens.
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its been since yesterday. i tried to call a couple times, sent a few texts, and nothing. finally when i sent the text saying, this is the last time i am going to try, let me know u hear me, even if its just to say goodbye - this is what i got...

i'm sorry but this is it.
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Old Jun 09, 06
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^^ anyone that can cast a cool person aside like that never deserved the time of day from you in the first place. It hurts now, but you will realize that people that are petty like that dont deserve your time or attention.

*hugz*

hope you feel better soon!
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It does really hurt. whatever, move on i guess.
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it's only been a day. hopefully the person will come to their senses after cooling off a little. if he/she was a good friend, they'll miss you and call you.
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Old Jun 10, 06
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Whats with all the people saying that if the person wont listen they werent your friend in the first place


Not everyone is mature, some people are stubborn and need time


Friendship isnt perfect
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Friends shouldn't turn their backs on each other. If there's a bump in the road, there should be that point where both people can talk to one another without judgement (depends on the friendship).

Friends don't need to chase each other to explain anything. You're wasting your time with this friend. She/He is just making you look inferior. I'm sure that when he/she is done being prissy and wants to be your friend again, you'll be the one chased.
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the balls in their court, so they say....

u can't change someone who dosn't want to be changed.

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Old Jun 10, 06
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I look at things this way. If I have to try to be someones friend, try to care for somebody, try to be nice, I don't see the point. Maybe it's just me but I work in extremes, either something IS or something ISN'T. I learned this the hard way but now it works well for me but sometimes works against me, IE emotions in extremes are bad.

lol But Im not saying don't "Try" in general, just when it comes to the social aspect of life, why have shades of grey, things just get shady(pun very much intended :))

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I also take this one to heart as well. Better yourself to be a better person, not to be better than another person.
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Old Jun 11, 06
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Ive had this thing happen to me with freinds and ex's. Yes its painful and heart breaking, but I fully agree... if they cant trust/forgive/benifet of the doubt... then they were never a good freind to begin with. I know a good friend when they do believe you, trust you, stick up for you and forgive you.

Time works sometimes too.
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Old Jun 12, 06
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Ive had this thing happen to me with freinds and ex's. Yes its painful and heart breaking, but I fully agree... if they cant trust/forgive/benifet of the doubt... then they were never a good freind to begin with. I know a good friend when they do believe you, trust you, stick up for you and forgive you.

Time works sometimes too.

Who are you kidding ?

Takes time to forgive and forget and that doesnt mean they arent a good friend.


Some things are unforgetable, some people never forget

You people live in some fantasy world where everyone is perfect and anything can be talked over
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Old Jun 12, 06
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Its funny.. Usually the best friends are total retards.

I know mine is.. handiwhut!?!?!?
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Old Jun 12, 06
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Who are you kidding ?

Takes time to forgive and forget and that doesnt mean they arent a good friend.


Some things are unforgetable, some people never forget

You people live in some fantasy world where everyone is perfect and anything can be talked over
" To err is human, to forgive devine. "


I did mention that time may be needed. I once had someone after 2 years come up to me and literaly beg for forgivness. Ill agree some things are very difficualt to forgive, however when is sinser and your ready to forgive it's more a healing for your self then the one appoligising.

It's not a fantasy world, it's life. If you want to hold on and be angry about the passed then you can live that way. However if you can understand when someone made an honest mistake (because we all do) its not that hard to forgive. That doesnt mean you have to go back and be friends, but personaly I think my better friends are the ones who can understand and forgive me and I can do the same back. Like I said time heals things too, so maybe Maggie can wait it off a bit untill her freind is ready and realalizes that she didnt mean to harm her friend depending on what degree that things went wrong.

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