Artists dating other artists (somewhat silly post)

[ill-esha]

(I would have put this in the Toilet Bowl, I swear, but I think it has to do with music... so mods, feel free to move it if you think it belongs somewhere else.)

This is for all the musicians/djs out there, and even visual artists, fashion designers, any of you whose life focus and passion is in the arts, and have a career or are planning on making one in the arts.. (Sadly as well, not as many girls DJ, so I think I HAVE to include other arts or I'll get no responses!) But the criteria is that it isn't a hobby for you, it's your life.

1. Do you tend to have relationships with other artists? Or conversely, only with people who aren't musicians? What are your reasons behind your decision? I've met some who say they couldn't possibly be with someone who wasn't a career artist, and others who say that it gives them a much-needed balance.

My experience: I have dated only two guys who weren't in the "industry", both relationships were brief because they couldn't really relate on many levels.. I spend a lot of time making music and playing music and listening to music and sometimes touring or locking myself in the studio and I found that dating someone who didn't have that in their life made for a lot of problems. So my view is that I couldn't possibly be with someone who wasn't a career artist, just from my own experiences. My current partner and I run a recording studio together, perform together both in a live PA act and as a DJ team, etc.

2. If you are of the type who tends to have relationships with other artists... are they usually the exact same specific genre/style or different, or does it vary? (For instance, are you a breaks DJ dating only other breaks DJs? Are you a sculptor who will date artists, but never really ends up with other sculptors? Am I insanely overly analytical? (OK don't answer the last one :)

Here's the real puzzle to me. I thought about it and I have never actually dated someone within my own scene. All my boyfriends up till now were breaks DJs.... when I met my current one he was producing rock and hip hop and was very open to different kinds of music, now we both play everything, but.. never someone who was a DNB DJ from the start. Hmmm. (Or it could be that just all the dnb dj guys here are ugly.. JUST KIDDING GUYS! - maybe they think i'm ugly ;P)

Anyways. Forgive me for this uselessness but I'm daydreaming at the office and interested in relationships between musicians.

Feel free to add any other thoughts, revelations you might have. don't tell me i'm weird i already know.

[dapimpstress]

I am a visual artist, and i date a dj. so no we aren't the same mediums but it def helps... it's just never worked out with someone who didn't have a creative outlet... they just think differently i think.

iono. ;)

[dabbler]

over analyzing?
nope.
you're just a scorpio.
i do it all the time.

as for your thoughts, since i've been a dj, i've only dated girls i've met through the drum and bass scene. I could never handle dating another DnB dj, however, someone who is artistic is a must. otherwise they could never understand the obsession that is neccesary... and that would obviously cause problems.
i'm pretty much only interested in people who love DnB as much as i do, cause without that common ground, it would seem doomed to fail.
of course, there are exceptions to every rule, but....
hahaha, maybe that's why i'm single....

[LeeBrat]

hmm, i dont have a bf and but when i do meet guys and "date:" them i prefere and always seem to be attracted to other artists. it doesnt really matter if we shair the same artistic style(es: artist/dj/writer...it doesnt matter) but yeah, i think it deffinatly helps...like ashes said, non-artisit people just think differently. cant relate as well with each other

[stabmyhead]

I find people without creative outlets to be rather boring. There has to be some sort of creative expression that they consider an art - may it be martial arts, video games (hey they can be very creative with them), music, writing, etc. In my experience dating people that just weren't creative put my creativity on haitus as they just don't seem to be intriguing enough to pull that part of me out. My drawings can be seen as somewhat odd, as I think me jump kicking my bf till he spews blood, urine, fecal matter and whatnot is not always somebody's cup of tea :)

I think I couldn't work with someone in the same "industry" as I was in as I am very competitive... so as long as they don't get in my way, I think we'd get along fine :)

[dabbler]

yeah competing with your s.o. is never good. least of all where scorpio's are concerned. much respect to illesha and paul for pulling it off. haha

[MissBehavior]

^Try a perfectionist visual-art Gemini and an overly sensitive musical Pisces...

That's 4, count 'em, 4 personalities. O_O

[baby-phat]

I have a tendency to date the musically gifted (my last b/f was a DJ and beatboxer)... Whomever I date HAS TO love music as much as I do, and loving the same genres is a big help too! lol
I like to think I'm pretty creative, and I am very much a Leo so hehehehe

[dj_soo]

Scorpios rule

although I don't know about a scorpio dating another scorpio... :-\.

my gf is a cancer (that sounds horrible) and we get along great.

[dabbler]

i've done the scorpio scorpio thing once. and well, i still have to put up with bullshit from her and it's been like 5 years. however, as i've been told, when it works, it FUCKING WORKS! haha

[dj_soo]

^ heh, i suppose if the intensity clicks, then it would be a good thing.

As far as the artistic thing, my gf is a writer and is learning how to DJ at this point. The dnb/love of music thing definitely helped us to bond over the course of our relationship.

To tell you the god honest truth, we met when she introduced herself to me at Tribeca of all places while i was DJing cause I decided to drop NIN and portishead in the middle of my set.

So now I can actually say that DJing has gotten me laid once :p

[dabbler]

HAHAHA, yeah i'm always more interested in girls who like NIN too.
is that superficial? hahaha

[ebbomega]

IF YOU DON'T LIKE LCD SOUNDSYSTEM GET THE FUCK OUTTA MAH BED!

[veN]

Originally Posted by baby-phat

I like to think I'm pretty creative, and I am very much a Leo so hehehehe

Haha, if my bf can put up with my leo-ness (requires: attn, ego-stroking, complete devotion, praise, to be spare criticism, to be allowed to be dramatic) then that's already asking a lot!

And if he'll humor my artistic tendencies as well, like: keeping my original picture frames/collages/mspaint art, listening to my mixed cds, smiling at my singing and dancing, and tolerating the painstaking time I take to piece together "the perfect outfit"... Then I'd say he's a keeper!

But of course it helps that he has outlets and passions himself. Because he understands what it's like to have to take time to express yourself. And so far, those needs have only helped, not hindered our relationship =)

[Gusto]

yeah i only date computer nerds

[matéo]

How many other people take astrology seriously?

[dabbler]

it's not the be all or end all, everyone's different, but i take it pretty seriously.

[matéo]

meh,

http://www3.azwestern.edu/psy/dgersh...roFiction.html

[baby-phat]

Originally Posted by dabbler

HAHAHA, yeah i'm always more interested in girls who like NIN too.
is that superficial? hahaha

lol.. not superficial at all, it's a must!! if they don't like NIN then there's a problem. hehe


Also, I find that astrology can ring damn true sometimes it all depends. My best friend had this book of 'relationship signs' and it was almost creepy how damn accurate that thing was!!

[veN]

Originally Posted by dabbler

it's not the be all or end all, everyone's different, but i take it pretty seriously.

Well put.

But for me, it's kinda of like religion: You get out of it only what you put into it, and you only believe the stuff that is applicable to you and your circumstance.

[mux]

when I was on the market, I was most attracted to musically-inclined girls, especially singers.

I'm at six years with my girlfriend now, with no hint of an end in sight - she's not primarily an artist, per se, more of a management type... but she completes me in sooooo many ways, it doesn't matter. :)

[ill-esha]

Originally Posted by mofo-x

So now I can actually say that DJing has gotten me laid once :p

ONCE? Only once? you guys need to stop going out so much. ;P

yeah, i tried the scorpio dating scorpio thing, it's playing with fire.. I am very happy with my diplomatic little Libra.

[ebbomega]

As far as astrology goes, I like it. It's like all religions: A bunch of good advice that when given some arbitrary standpoint of random chance (IE Placement of stars) can be typically appropriate to whoever believes in it.

I know I josh myself in every religion I follow. But that's just it. It doesn't matter what you believe in, as long as you believe in something.....

Unless you believe in necrophilia. Except for fellating the Velvet Underground.

(That was for you gusto)

[(val)Liam]

my gf is really musically inclined but more for playing instruments from the sheet... and honestly, we have a lot of creative clashes because of it... she really wants to be apart of what I create but the problem is that I write music purely out of improvisation and she takes more of a written approach, determining such and such scales and such and such chords... and so on... also... she trying really hard to pressure me into learning musical theory but really, even if I did know musical theory it wouldn't matter because its really hard for me to be creative from an analytical way, thats why its a bit difficult for me to use vst synths and cubase, or whatever... also, I can be a total fascist when it comes to the music I'm writing and have a BAD habit of stealing the instrument away from the person if they aren't up to par with what I'm trying to make... if I'm doing recording...

as for music playing a role in dating, it helps, but its not absolutely necessary... a kind, good natured person is what I mainly look for in a woman...

[oddmud]

1. Do you tend to have relationships with other artists? Or conversely, only with people who aren't musicians? What are your reasons behind your decision? I've met some who say they couldn't possibly be with someone who wasn't a career artist, and others who say that it gives them a much-needed balance.

No, I do not date other artists. Few reasons behind that number one, I'm in love with someone who's completely not into the music I do. I've gathered lots of flack from other people I've told about that. But you know what, she's very supportive of what I do. She sometimes makes me turn it off, or changes the cd that I'm listening to, to something we both agree on. But I can handle that, she still comes to shows, she still listens to me on the radio. So I can't really agree with the people that have told me it's not right. hehe..

Come to think of it, she really doesn't have any artistic talents that I have found yet. I still love her to pieces.

She gives me balance.